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Lacy - posted on 04/09/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am new to this communtiy and I wanted to join because my faith has been tested a lot in the last 5 years. I am with the man that I love he was my first and the father to both of my children. He does not believe in anything that he can't see so right there we are constantly butting heads. He is not completely against the kids learning about God and Jesus and I am die hard on the fact my children will grow up knowing their lord. Honestly what is wrong with people having faith and hope in this life. The relationship is not built on faith and I believe that it is headed for demise. The down size is that I am sinning by being with him we are not married. We have been engaged for 4 and half years but never did it. I wish there was some way I could inject a little belief in this relationship I feel that may bring us closer but I dont want him to think I am shoving anything down his throat.

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Victoria - posted on 04/11/2010

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I have to agree with both Heather and Anne.
God won't bless sin, but if you truly take a stand for Christ He will bless you. If your fiancee see's how strong your stand for Christ is, then maybe he'll be won over by that, but even if he is not, God will truly be able to start moving in your life, putting you back on course for the plan and purpose he has for your life and your childrens lives.
I will keep you in prayer, but truly listen to Gods leading and His word, He won't steer you wrong.

Heather - posted on 04/11/2010

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The husband is suppose to be the Spiritual leader in the home. If you have some time there is a wonderful sermon by Voodie Baucham about Biblical manhood (followed by Biblical womanhood).

http://www.sermonindex.net/modules/mydow...

Lacy - posted on 04/10/2010

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Thank you so much for your advice and believe me I welcome criticism. I understand that I should distance myself but it is very hard for me. This man was my first and the father that gave me two truly beautiful blessings. He is a wonderful dad and wants the best for his children. He says he wants to marry me but having a family too soon has pushed us into a faux marriage. I did hesitate for a while on the wedding. THis is truly my hesitation. I know that I will sound a bit stupid asking but what are the true responsibilties of a husband?

Anne - posted on 04/09/2010

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I have to agree with Heather. I really do not want to sound like a broken record, or come across as unkind. However if you really want him to believe you that God Is AS Important as You Say He Is, you do need to move. Right now he does Not Have to be married to you because he has all of the benefits and really not any of the true responsibilities of being married.

I will be Praying for you and your family.

Heather - posted on 04/09/2010

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You wont like any of the advice that I have to offer. I would recommend getting your own place, or seeing about staying with your parents for a while. Let him know that Jesus is important to you. Because you are not married it is important to remember that the Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. (Living together does not make you married. Jesus said to the woman at the well to go and get her husband, she said she didn't have one, and He said she was right, but she had had several, and the man that she was living with then was not her husband...). God may choose to bless your relationship, and have you be married one day, but I would take some time and evaluate which is more important.

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