Sia - posted on 02/18/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
My son's teacher has a smiley reward system where each child can get 6 smiley faces in one day. My son usually comes homes with 1 or 2 and no idea what exactly he did wrong. Now J is very good at explaining what he did wrong. He even tells us of stuff the teacher had no idea he did. Most times he says he didn't take a nap. On that days that he does, the number of smileys increase. My husband believes that J should make good choices so there are consequences when he comes home with a few smileys. I don't agree with this because J still has no idea why he is getting punished besides the fact that he only has a few smileys. I have argued this point with my hubby but he comes from a strict background and probably feels I am too lenient on J.
I am curious as how to approach this matter. I do not want to seem like to overprotective parent but I am very confused about this system. I believe in rewards but it is important that the kids know exactly what they did to get rewards taken away.