Sybling seperation anxiety

Christi - posted on 08/30/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 4 yr old is going to preschool. My 3 yr old gets really upset when Sister goes to school and she has to stay with mom...Any suggestions?

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Heather - posted on 08/30/2009

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Oh we also plan surprises for his older brother sometimes. He loves that. Nothing big, just something like making a special dessert for his after school snack or something.

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Christi - posted on 09/01/2009

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Thanks...I guess I was doing the right things, it's just hard to see her upset...She's my laid back easy going child....in about 6 weeks give or take she'll be busy helping me take care of the new baby...She does help with housework and snuggling is super fun. I appreciate the advice.

Stina - posted on 08/30/2009

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I get the same reaction from my 3 yo when her brother is away from her for a little while. She says things like "I just miss my Jonathan" Sometimes my mom will take my son over to her house for brief bits of time so I'm pretty confident that the transition to him being away at school this month will be smooth.
When it's just me and Trina (and baby sister) I do things with her that are easier to do when it's just us. I paint her toenails and fingernails, we play some games together, maybe we hunker down and have some quality cuddles during a movie. It definitely gets quiet when her brother is gone. Try to come up with some special activities you can do with your 3 yr old while her sister is at school and help her talk about her feelings- "You miss your sister when she's at school, but that's ok. She'll be home soon"

Heather - posted on 08/30/2009

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My younger son is that way when his older brother goes to school. I suggest finding something that she loves to do to distract her. Reading books, or playing a game. Make a special mommy and me time. If she likes to help clean house let her help with the dishes or something. Help her feel grown up and loved instead of abandoned. That's what has worked for us anyway.

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