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Vuyokazi - posted on 06/26/2011

i agree with linda here ,sacrifce to wait for a man of God my frend trust i know for a fact ,am married my husband is at church nt not yet filled with holy spirit and we were living togetr before i came to church ..things are tyough now even after we got married bt i have learned some staff after i got married and i can say if i know what i know now..i would have been marreid him ..now i must live with it and i love him bt iwan am of God ,now i am fighting for him to be touched and change his ways

Anne - posted on 06/25/2011

I would not encourage being "Unevenly Yoked either but like Rebekah said I would have a hard time saying no dating. I was saved at 18 because I had dated a young man from our neighborhood who was a Solid Christian. I know he had a lot of Prayer backing him.

Also our youngest daughter had asked Jesus to forgive her of her sins but she had not made Jesus Lord of her life. She was away at a Christian College when she started dating a Solid Christian young man and realized she needed to Make JESUS LORD of her life. Although they are not dating any more she had Fallen Head Over Heals With God.

Mz - posted on 06/24/2011

*wow* thank you! that has opened up ma eyes! I find both you ladiez encouraging! I do believe that God can put a believer in a non believer's life to make the impossible possible. The guy I am seeing is not a atheist because he does believe in God, just not clear on our Saviour Jesus Christ...through HIM we might be saved! he has been a good guy to date as a Christian to be honest. He NEVER pressured me for sex...or ANYTHING. I am in a celibate relationship which is why I guess I feel like he can change thngs and be saved. I am looking more at his heart rather than his flesh...I will continue to pray for him and I. but whatever way God wants me to go i am ready and willng to do it. Because what God puts together cant NO MAN tear it apart. Again, thank You BOTH! *smile*

Linda - posted on 06/24/2011

Well, Rebekah, if the Lord speaks clearly to someone, that is a unique and special circumstance. However, in general, I do not believe Christians should date non-Christians. If the relationship can never lead to marriage, you are not being fair either to yourself or to the other person. However, usually I have found that Christians end up marrying the non-Christian (in spite of what the Bible says)...and usually fall away from the Lord, or at the least have a lifetime of heartache when they see all the other couples at church...and their husband is at home.

Rebekah - posted on 06/24/2011

I agree with Linda that a couple should not be unequally yoked... but I have hard time saying "do not date". The only reason is because my mom divorced her first husband because of abuse and wanting to get her son out of the situation. She went out one night with her sister to a bar because she told her that if she drank all her troubles would go away... well, at the bar, God spoke to my mom and told her "there is your husband". Now this guy was not a believer, actually an atheist, and my mom put him through the ringer... she was even going to call off her wedding the day of the wedding to him because of not being equally yoked. When she called the pastor, God took her voice. There was a reason why mom was supposed to marry this man. They are NOT unequally yoked anymore, he is a believer in Jesus Christ and I've had the privilege of watching my dad change as each day passes by.

Linda - posted on 06/23/2011

The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 6:14,15 "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?" Thus, I would have to advise NOT to date an unbeliever. There is no way you can change his mind or convince him of anything. You must pray for the Holy Spirit to reveal the mystery of the gospel to him, and witness to him through your life and through the Scriptures.