Kat - posted on 05/21/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )
My Daughter 2.5yr seems to me to be out of control with her anger. As per most all 2 years olds she has tantrums, but she is so very angry. Grits her teeth & growls. It is very upsetting. I also have a 11 month old. My 2.5yr is a bully toward her little sister. She is constantly physically picking on her & making her cry. I have tried time out, I have tried ignoring the bad behaviour & rewarding the good behaviour. I have even tried a smack on the bottom or her hand. Nothing works. I have tried hugging her & telling her how much I love her when she seems enraged. I am a very affectionate Mother. She is hugged & kissed every day, all the time. As is her sister. I am careful to make it even. I include #1 in all of #2's achievements etc. She sleeps very well, always has done. Her eating isn't the best at the moment. She has been cutting her big 2yr molars, but up until these 4 molars she has been a sensational teether. No problems with her at all. I get complimented all the time on her manners when we are out. She has an exceptional vocabulary for her age. She is often complimented on her sentences & her manners. But even out she will slyly bully her sister. Pretending to kiss her hand then biting it. Patting her head then smacking it. Sitting on her. Standing on her and bouncing. She really is a handful at times. She gives me a look that says "I laugh at you & I will not do anything you say". She says no to me all the time. I am very consistent. I don't let things slide. I am having difficulty now keeping positive with my parenting. I'm finding I am getting cranky with her & I don't like it. My Husband is extremely intelligent & says that he probably would have been diagnosed with ADHD if it were around when he was a kid. I'm not saying my daughter has this. I just need some tips & direction in dealing with my daughter. She doesn't listen, she completely ignores me. Oh I could go on & on about how infuriating she is. Some of it is naughty, but some of it I'm sure is a problem that I'm missing. Too close to see or something.
And she also has very recently started having bad dreams. Today I walked in on a dream & she was tossing Woody out of the bed yelling out "no no no" in an angry tone. She was deep asleep. I feel for her being so angry at such a young age.