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Shelley - posted on 01/04/2009
Hi - I am a christian mom and have four kids, ages 4 -14. My oldest daughter was into the Twilight books first - big time so I saw the movie with her and then read all four books. I found the books to be absolutely fine, Bella and Edward don't have sex until after they are married, there is no inappropriate language and the books don't really even have a dark overtone to them the way Harry Potter does. Even though they are vampires there is absolutely no demonic or evil overtones to these books. I know some have critized the intensity of Bella and Edwards relationship saying it will cause teenagers to question whether "the perfect guy or girl" is a reason to date someone who isn't a believer but i think if you have open dialogue with your kids about this they will handle the books fine. The writing in them is very well done and captivating, I would have no problem recommending these books to my christian friends.
Shelley Jonson, Kilbride, ON
Angela - posted on 12/04/2008
I think everyone needs to do whats right for their family. I'm secure in my faith that the lines between fantasy and reality don't blur..however a young teenager may not be. But if a book like Twilight is enough for a young person to question their faith or find themselves lost in fantasy then I would be afraid my children living in the real world where they will be faced with things alot worse. And what about books like Lord of the Rings and Chronicles of Narnia that were written by Christians yet are clearly fantastical? Should Christians not read those books either because they may wish they lived in Middle-Earth and were Elven.
Briggitte - posted on 12/04/2008
We subscribe to Brio magazine. If you're not familiar, it is a Christian based magazine for teenage girls. Their recommendation is not to read them, because of the fantasy element and vampires. I tend to agree. I did not grow up knowing the Lord and I always found myself getting lost in fantasy or wishing I was that person...basically trying to pretend to be someone I was not.
With that in mind, I don't think it healthy spiritually to allow teenagers (who are intent on making their own way in life) read a book of that nature. Unfortunately, my daughters started reading the series. Therefore, I talk about the book with them to get them thinking about our values and God and does the content of the book uphold those values? As long as my children can show me that they are not under the influence of secular values than I guess I did my job. My desire is to not to push them away, but to let them discover what is right and wrong. Hopefully, they will choose right over wrong. If they fail, I hope they know I will always love them, which I think they do.
Does that make me overprotective? Maybe. Yet, I believe my girls understand where we are coming from, the values we uphold, and how important God is to our family and the things that God has done for us. The great thing about our story is that we are all seeing the awesome things God is doing in our lives together as a family. It's not like I'm telling them a story from my past or force them to obey. Our faith is growing at the same time...together as a family.
Patricia - posted on 12/02/2008
I would like to suggest checking out www.pluggedinonline.com They do a very good job reviewing movies and have also written an article in one of their magazones about the books. There are a lot of subtle dangers in this series.
Angela - posted on 12/02/2008
I personally have stayed away from Harry Potter because of the serious occult overtones in the books and references to real to many real spells and historical witchcraft. However I don't care if other christians chose to read those books. For myself I enjoy the fantasy of them but won't allow my children to read them until they are late teens and no longer needing me to make those kinds of decisions for them.
Chelli - posted on 12/02/2008
I was asked to read the books because my cousin's daughter was really into them. Her mom wanted me to read them to see if they were ok. I read the first one and found a real treat. Some of the best books I had read in a long time. However, I have one major problem with them. The underlying theme of the relationship between Edward (vamprire boy) and Bella (human girl) is that if they can't be together than they don't want to live at all. A couple of times in the series, one that I can think of specifically, one thinks the other is dead or they can't be together and proceeds to figure out how to end their life. I think that placing this much importance on any human relationship is dangerous. It leads to making that relationship or that person an idol, more important than God or your eternal soul. While we are called to love others, we are called to love God the most. While I didn't like this specific aspect of the book, I think that it would be a great way to open up discussion with teenagers about dating and relationships and there place in a Christian's life. Also, while the couple does not have sex until they are married, it is because of Edward's insistence, not Bella's. She wants to have sex and seems to try to push Edward to do so on occasion. Another good jumping off point for teens to talk about staying pure when others are pressuring you to give in.
I've read all the books, but not seen the movie.
My kids are 18 & 15.
No pre-marital sex. Actually, that's one of the great things about this series. One of the main characters is a vampire who is a virgin. He refuses to have sex with the girl he loves until they are married. And once they are married- (book 4) there are no lurid descriptions.
The family of vampires in this series has decided to feed only on animals. They hunt large prey such as bears, wolves, etc. Also they defend humans from vampires that do prey on people.
Self-control is another theme of this series, as Edward is challenged to control both his desire for Bella sexually and his desire to drink her blood and manages to control his baser desires.
Personally, I really enjoyed these, but can't stand the Lord of the Rings, which I thought was horribly violent and gross. To each her own! :)
Bethany - posted on 12/01/2008
I totally agree with you, Angela. To me, if something is put forth in a fairly wholesome way then I don't really see the difference between a teenager reading about vampires (or Hobbits) and a four year old reading about a mouse that wears pants and talks! It's all make-believe. I avoided Harry Potter at first because of all the backlash it got from Christian circles- but then I realised that I am a grown woman who can read a book or watch a movie about witches without thinking that they are real or that I want to become one! haha! And I can teach my children the same thing...I hope!
Sorry, Carolyn, I got a little off topic! Hopefully for you the next post will be from someone who has read the books!
Bethany - posted on 12/01/2008
I haven't read the books but I heard on TV (and confirmed on her bio) that Stephenie Meyer is Mormon and wrote her books with those values- so it makes sense that there is no sex or swearing.
Angela - posted on 11/28/2008
I've read the first and seen the movie. My baby is only 8 weeks old though so I'm not dealing with this issue yet. I wouldn't have a problem with them. They are very young adultish...no sex, some violence...don't remember any swearing either. As for the spiritual issue with vampires...it is a fantasy book. I would say Harry Potter is worse than these books as Harry Potter has alot of actual occultish content. They seemed pretty innocent to me. I personally like the fantasy genre...big fan of Lord of the Rings and Chronicles of Narnia. They don't really bring up the issue of God in them at all. However some Christians are very against anything like it. I don't think they are evil books. Whatever your perspective is on those things, is how you need decide.
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