unhappy

Josslyn - posted on 04/08/2010

There's nothing wrong with you dear, you just have baby blues. We need to confide in each other as Gods children so do not be afraid to talk to someone about what you are feeling.

You need to find a sister in arms, a church group or even become involved in the youth or children's school at your church, they can make a person feel so young and full of energy again.

Keep your head up, God is with you and keep praying too, He sees you!

Wilma Jean - posted on 04/03/2010

Joanna first i want to tell you will be in prayer for you also do not feel guilty for having feelings look back on Jesus he had people around him and he choose 12 men to be with him you or having false guilt and you may need see a doctor or just go to your pastor or his wife asked them is there some one who you could get with and make friends with so you can unload on also eat right lay off the sugar you may have low blood sugary after having a baby and have your thyroids check this was me years ago hope this helps and please look over my spelling not so good at it God Bless and keep you

Anne - posted on 04/02/2010

Hi Joanna, I just wanted to let you know I am Praying for you today.

Alice - posted on 04/02/2010

I think you have received a lot of support and conversations on here in just posting your plea for help. I do agree with the earliest response of going to the doctor. You don't want to ignore or push asside something that may be more serious. At the same time, taking to someone of faith, like a church group or your pastor is not abandoning God, but embracing a servant. Sometimes it is just a simple conversation that can make a day. Praying for you!

Stephanie - posted on 04/02/2010

I encountered the same thing after the birth of my third child and the best advise I can give you is to go with your gut and seek help. I started off by going to my doctor to get an anti depressant - I struggled about whether or not to do it but in the end decided it would be the best thing for me because as it was going I was not able to be the kind of mom I wanted to be. After about a month of being on medication I felt like I was able to take a big sigh of relief and clear my head, from there I have been able to become closer to GOD and my family. And I am happy, truley happy - still have my struggles but I also have peace!

Jamie - posted on 04/01/2010

It sounds to me like you may be going throught Post-Partum Depression. It is more common than most think, and it would help you so much if you would go and talk to a professional, a licensed clinical therapist. It is absolutely nothing to feel embarrassed or guilty about. God is always there for us and always will be. But, he also puts folks on this earth to help us and guide us through Him. Pray for guidance but don't be afraid to seek help from a therapist. Take care.

Melissa - posted on 04/01/2010

Hey Joanna,

I do not think you should feel guilty about talking to someone else other than God. Yes, talking to God is comforting, but sometimes we need to talk to another person that can respond to us. People, women especially, are vocal creatures and we want comfort from another person.

Try talking to one of your friends from church, or even to your church head. I'm sure your preacher/priest/bishop would be more than willing to talk to you and help you sort out some of your feelings. It would be better to talk to someone then continue on your present path when you are depressed. As another member stated, when mom is unhappy, everyone is unhappy.

Good luck and God Bless.

Tomesa - posted on 03/29/2010

sounds to me as if you might have a slight case of post partum depression--i have it after every baby and your situation sounds just like mine. i felt so guilty about asking for help, but eventually i couldn't do it anymore. i found another Christian counselor/friend and she helped me through step by step until i not only could funtion again, but until i felt better overall and my symptoms faded.

one thing i can suggest for you that helped me immensely was aromatherapy as well as "me and God" time...usually in the bath. i would soak in the tub and just tell God everything that was going good and bad in my life, with myself and my family. and even though many nights were filled with tears, i always got out of that water feeling cleaner physically as well as mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

i have been where you are and there are many things i did to help ease my own situation...i started eating better and became engrossed with organic and healthier living, as well as using God's Creation *plants* to heal myself from the outside in. i also started going to the doctor and that is how i found out i have thyroid disease, a goiter as well as heart arrythmia. so it's important to go to your doctor. since going, i now know WHAT is bothering me physically and how that affects me in every other way. i've not been the same since taking better care of myself and although it's not easy, it sure is easier, and i thank God for just being there and helping me through.

hopefully something i've said here will help you out! don't hesitate to ask for something and if i can be of assistance i will be.

Starla - posted on 03/29/2010

Joanna, You could be suffering from Post Pardum Depression. It is good that you want to take your problems to God, and I firmly agree that when we are feeling bad or things are not right in our lives it is great to have god to lean on, but doctors are around for a reason. You might want to talk to your OB about how you feel. Lets face it when we find out we are pregnant the first thing we do is find a doctor to help us.. right! So got talk to your doctors and let them help you to feel better. Remember your kids need you to be healthy and happy so that they can do the same... Good luck and god bless..

April - posted on 03/24/2010

I'd be happy to talk to you, some times it is a just an adult/live voice for five minutes on the phone that can turn your day around. I also got involved in a women's bible study that has child care. you do need to be around believes b/c society pushes us to this two family income and yes it has been a struggle, do I debate every day should I go back to work full time yes but I know in my heart i need to work this out and stay home for now...just keep in your mind this is just a season, take joy in the little things your kids do through out the day. I have to tell myself get down on the floor and just play. if you can find a walking/exercise partner also.

Diane - posted on 03/23/2010

Being a mommy is not easy. Sure it’s a blessing but at times it’s just lonely and hard. And sorry to tell you, I do not think it gets easier, I think it gets harder. The teenage years are challenging. 
It's funny but on the flip side.......I am going through the same thing today.
My kids are grown, I became a grandma two weeks ago...I just finished menopause and I am lonely too. I buried my dad last summer.......mom died five years ago.
Oh how I wish my kids were little and I could do it all over again. Sure I do bible studies and read, go to workout and just bought a piano and am teaching myself to play........but sometimes I just walk around the house and cry. I miss my mom and dad, my youth.......my kids when they NEEDED ME. I miss them and they both only live five miles away !!!!! We see each other all the time. I have started talking to my cat and two dogs on a different level. :)
My husband thinks I am nuts sometimes but he is tolerant and tries to understand. God created us different didn’t He?
God has blessed my life and I am growing old in Him. I wouldn’t change a thing. Our purpose and roles change. You will be depressed and feel lonely at times that is normal. Pack the kids up and walk the mall………go to a park, find a bible study. Like Andrea said…….God did not mean for us to be alone.
Mom always said, don’t sit at home and wait for something to happen, make it happen yourself.
You have so much to look forward to and I pray that you find it.

Karissa - posted on 03/22/2010

Totally agree. Women's Bible Study is a good idea. I worked until I had my daughter and was so overwhelmed with being at home. Even though Lorelei is only 6 months I sing to her, watch Baby Einstein movies, and play. I go to a Bible Study Tuesday mornings at my church. I love being able to get a few hours while the nursery workers watch the baby. My local library has story time on Wednesday's and I bring the baby. She likes to watch the other kids play and it gives me time to talk to other moms.

Andrea - posted on 03/21/2010

Remember that God created us to be social beings ~ He did not make Adam and then tell him that he should be satisfied in the garden of Eden with just God. That's what brothers and sisters in Christ are there for! You're in my prayers,



~Andrea

www.MomVentureOut.com

Anne - posted on 03/21/2010

The advice you have received for the 3 wise and caring moms is great advice. to add anything would be just repeating what has already been said. I will ttell you that I will be Praying for you, and your family.

Victoria - posted on 03/20/2010

Joanna, quite possibly you are suffering from post partum depression. New baby, new circumstance (staying home) it can been hard, but God has put people their for us, whether a sister in the Lord you can talk to and be encouraged through, a doctor to check up with to find out either way if it is or isn't ppd or a pastor or church minister to counsel you, encourage you and pray with you.

God doesn't expect us to go through these things by ourselves, yes continue to seek Him, but also use the resources He has given you. You're in my prayers.

Dianne - posted on 03/20/2010

Hi Joanna, how old is your baby? Have you talked to your OB? Please don't hesitate to talk to your Dr. God put him/her there for you. You may have postpartum depression and a hormone imbalance. If this is the case, it is easily treated. You need to be there for both your kids. If Momma isn't happy, no one is happy. I'll be praying for you.:)

Heather - posted on 03/20/2010

Do you have a women's Bible study or small group? I felt the same way, but when I joined my first women's Bible study it was so helpful for me. I got to talk with other big people, and they were going through the same things as me! The friendships I formed there are wonderful. God's word tells us how important encouragement from other believers is. We need it! I really recommend finding a women's Bible study or small group. I know others have suggested mops groups, but I have never been part of one, so I can't tell you much about them..