Welcome New Neighbor
Andrea - posted on 05/20/2012
I don't have to do much for new neighbors because my husband has a gift for starting conversations and meeting new people. He is usually there when the moving van pulls up saying his hellos and getting to know you's. Helping if it looks like they may appreciate it. I am not so social and prefer not to be approached by strangers so I hold off until we meet as we are out in the yard, taking a walk some other everyday meeting that is more causal and isn't so forced... or until my husband drags me over for introductions.
We have been making dog treats to sell as a fundraiser for our church so the neighbors who have moved in with dogs have gotten a bag of treats for their pups delivered by my 2 toddlers.
Our nighbors so far have simply moved form one side of our 750 population town to the other so they don't need all the information for the town but that is a wonderful idea to keep in mind for those moving in from out of town.
Rebekah - posted on 05/14/2012
Carla - I did add local churches to the notebook along with information on each church and brochures if the church had one, otherwise I listed their website and telephone numbers.
Angela - I was wondering if it would be "overkill", but I've moved around ALOT and I just wrote down all the things I would want to know about an area when I move in and left it at that.
My neighbor was very happy and sent us a thank you card! :)
Victoria - posted on 05/13/2012
I usually wait for the leading of God as far as timing goes. However when I do, I might take a basket of homemade goodies, cookies, cakes, soaps, bubble bath, hand cream etc. I usually add a little note with a blessing from the psalms or another scripture.
Angela - posted on 05/13/2012
Well, Rebekah, you're very generous with your time, money & effort - this would probably have been seen as "overkill" in the UK! LOL!! Personally, I would've been thrilled with the notebook with all the useful & relevant neighbourhood information! You're a star!!
I'm sure your new neighbour is very thankful for your thoughtfulness!
Rebekah - posted on 05/12/2012
Carla - completely understand that Michigan is different, but the "southerner" in me cannot just disregard it, lol.
So, I took my son out to the dollar store and we rounded up items to put into basket - dish towels, hot pads, oven mitts filled with utensils, then had Jordan pick out toys for the 2 children... and we bought her baby girl a new outfit. I then put together a notebook with neighborhood contact info; neighborhood days (garbage, recycling, and time mailman comes by, etc.); list of free family friendly area events; list of recommendations (doctor/pediatrician, chiropractor, handyman, contractors, photograhers, dentist, etc.); list of places for assistance for those in need; local restaurant take out menus. I was going to add a map labeling the area eating places within 5 minutes and local parks, but I had run out of time. Needless to say the single mom that moved in with her 8 month baby girl and 6 year old boy were very thankful for the gift and we've already started connecting with each other.
I'll be planning a neighborhood ice cream social so that all the neighbors can meet them too.
Angela - posted on 05/12/2012
Sadly, I haven't had especially good experiences in this. One place I moved to, I made the effort to reach people myself and was treated as though I was "strange", maybe even intrusive!
The next street I moved to was different - the lady next door was keen to know me. It was quite a rough area and I was a little suspicious. Unfortunately I wasn't suspicious enough! I ended up with this lady owing me a bit of money and her husband doing damage to my home. Several neighbours used me as a resource for borrowing - not only money! To say nothing of limitless unpaid (or poorly paid) babysitting!
So I'm quite wary. Sometimes in the UK, people are heavily into minding their own business and living insular lives.
My brother bought a house in a very smart area. Within the hour of him moving in, a family living opposite sent over a tray of hot tea and cakes. They were an immigrant family and it was felt that such kindness and hospitality wouldn't have been shown by native born British!
How about putting a card through the door of your new neighbour? Something saying that you hope they'll be very happy in this neighbourhood. Then put your name, address & phone number. No offers of "anything I can do ....?" because that may be open to abuse. Then you just play it by ear when you meet. You could try the food and drink thing though!
Carla - posted on 05/12/2012
Rebekah, I am ashamed to say I don't do much ;) You know how winters are here, and if they move in during the winter, they are on their own ;) I like to go introduce myself, give them my phone number, and let them know we are there if they need us, but even this doesn't always happen. In Washington State, if someone moved into the area, the neighbor women made coffee cake and a pot of coffee and went over en masse to introduce themselves. When we moved to Michigan, I waited for the 'visit', but it never happened. I went through quite a lot in my mind, let me tell you! Like 'did I offend them some way?' 'What have my kids done?' ;) Michigan definitely isn't as friendly as Washington was. It's a western thing, I guess.
Around the hood, there isn't a lot of beauty, but we tore our yard out and planted an English cottage garden. This starts conversations during the spring/summer--and I offer all who would like them, slips off various plants they have particularly liked. So, short answer long, Rebekah, I offer our help in time of need, and beauty.
Does this help?
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