Why does God take the good people out of your life!!!!!!

Summer - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My friend was killed in a car wreck over the weekend. I find it unfair, he was only 23 years old. He was a good person!!!! Why did God feel he needed him, there are millions of people. I'm very very sad, I've been crying ever since i found out. It happen in another state so i've been making phone calls to friends of both him and I. When i get to his girlfriendi don't know what to say to help her feel any better. I haven't called her yet, i know shes going threw ALOT . What can i say to her? How can i stay strong when i talk to her when I cry just thinking about him.

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Heather - posted on 02/24/2010

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Isaiah 57:1-2

The righteous perish,

and no one ponders it in his heart;

devout men are taken away,

and no one understands

that the righteous are taken away

to be spared from evil.

Those who walk uprightly

enter into peace;

they find rest as they lie in death.

Carolyn - posted on 02/27/2010

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Losing a loved one is always a horrific event in our lives. We are all born and eventually we will all pass away, that's just a part of our lives. Being only human we question why when we lose someone who is very important to us. It isn't GOD doing it to US...God is good, this is how things are....it was set up that way so we could be saved and live for eternity to be reunited with all of our loved ones. It will happen, but, yes we greave....because that is also a human response to loss. It's okay to cry....even while speaking to his girlfriend....I know myself, from losing my late husband, that if others don't show emotion it's difficult to accept that they really did care for the one you have lost....does that make sense to you?....We don't always have to be strong....no, we don't. I have lost my Dad, Husband, baby, and daughter...in that order. I am no stranger to loss, and am facing the possible loss of my GreatGrandson who is 3mo. old due to hydrocephalus at this time. I will be praying for strength and understanding for you. I pray the Lord wrap his protective wings around you and your friends loved ones during this time of grief and loss. GOD bless you. Carolyn

Melanie - posted on 02/25/2010

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My brother died 03-10-08 at the age of 13. He was to young as well but I believe that God took him home because of the situation that he was in. He lived with his father in a home that should have been condemned. He was a "special" child as well. God was tired of seeing his child suffer and took him home to a place where he would be safe from all kinds of harm.

All you can do right now is cry. Soon you will realize that instead of crying you will be rejoicing that he has gone home to be with the Lord and is in a far better place than he was. I am crying as i write this but I know as time goes on it will get easier.

Cindi - posted on 11/20/2010

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God does not take people from us it is appointed that man will die because of the fall of man. Where anyone ever came up with God took them because he needed them is far beyond me, or he needed and angel, the Angels were created before man and a little less than man, man will one day judge the angels. The word of God teaches it rains on the just as well as the unjust,
We find comfort in that if they were born again we will one day see them again if we are as well thats the goodness and promise of God. It is never easy to loose someone we love and Truly God will sustain you Love the ones who are greining sometimes a simple hug speaks volume for things produced from the heart are so powerful
God Bless you my Child

Cynthia - posted on 03/03/2010

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Jesus said "happy are those who mourn, God will comfort them!"Mathew 5 :4. rely on him for comfort , trust in him even if u don't undestand the situation he is wise and his ways are not our ways and his thought not our thought.(iasiah 55:8) comfort your friends with these words.Thks God bless!

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Sarah - posted on 03/02/2010

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Hi Summer, I am deeply sorry for your loss, my dad killed my mum when i was 8 and i to asked the same question why did God let this happen. As Helen said I to have come to the revelation that God does not take people from us, He loves each and every one of us. There is a small book called 'Dont blame God' by Kenneth Hagin it only costs about $2 and it may help any questions you might have regarding this. Just being there for your friends girlfriend will mean alot you may even find and opportunity to open up to her about Jesus and his unfailing love for us.
God bless and take care.

Christy - posted on 02/28/2010

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I felt the same way when my mother-in-law passed away. Please don't blame God for your friend's death. I'm sure it's a very emotional time for you. I remember not knowing what to say to my husband or his family (even though we had been together for almost 10 years at the time). But as far as talking to his girlfriend goes, you may be surprised at the comfort you find in each other. Just let her know you will be there if she needs to talk. You will probably always miss him, but it will get easier. As I'm sure many people try to tell you, try to focus on the good memories. Praise God for the wonderful friend you had instead of blaming him for taking your friend away. I'm sure you would rather have had the time you did with him than to have never met him. You are blessed to have had such a great friend.

Lori - posted on 02/26/2010

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You simply calling and saying nothing (just cause you care) is all you need to do. They will be glad you called, they need your support and I bet they will be able to help you too. Hang in there. God has a plan and it is good. Hugs!!

Janet - posted on 02/25/2010

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No one knows why this happens. Sometimes for the ones left to draw closer to the Lord., or maybe later someone else will be going though the samething and you can be a witness and a confort to them. I know if he knew The Lord you will see him again and he is in a great place . If his girlfriend don't know the way of salvation now maybe the time then she will understand God has a special place for those who believe in his son.

Cheryl - posted on 02/25/2010

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I am so sorry to hear about your friend. May he rest in peace....

I lost my partner to cancer almost 16 years ago. I have 5 children with the oldest being 101/2 and the youngest 10 weeks old. I had to tell my children that Jesus had knocked on their daddy bedroom door and had gone to live with Jesus because Jesus loved daddy just a little bit more than we did and that daddy was going to be well again. It helped me cope with his death and also helped me raise my children the best way I could. Just let your friends girlfriend know you are there and when she wants to talk you will listen...Listening is so important to someone who is grieving and it may help you too.

Andrea - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hi Summer I am new to Christain Mommies but I am not new to this kind of tragedy. My fiance and I both lost our dad's just 6 months apart, his in a car accident and mine from complications of diabetes. We are expecting our first child and everyday we think of our father's and how our child will never know them, its very hard.



When my father passed away nothing but prayer ever made me feel better. It seemed almost cruel how people ask you over and over how your doing or how are you feeling, it was hard to remember they were just trying to help. My advice of what to say to your friend's girlfriend is just that you loved him and you will miss him and that you will be thinking of her and praying for her, also let her know if she needs someone to pray or cry with that you will be there. As for your own grief the same applys, just pray. God knows what you need to heal your heart and the more you pray the more you will feel him working in your heart to heal you. The pain of losing a loved one never goes away but with time it numb and through God you can find peace again!

Christine - posted on 02/25/2010

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I agree with Helen, I lost my Boyfriend and first sons father to a murder when I was 24 and he was 25. My son was 15 mo old at the time.It was so tragic, and he was such a "life of the party" kinda guy.. God allows things to happen because we have free will, and we make choices everyday that have an effect on our lives and sometimes the lives of others. I will certainley keep her in my prayers, as I know from experience that it is a long road back. I hope she has God in her life, that is the only thing that kept me going, and of course my baby!

Amy - posted on 02/24/2010

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Don't talk, sometimes silence is best. She will know you care!
I use wonder the same until, I was told , God takes the best and he leave time for the rest to get it right . Be content with knowing because of the character of your friend, his home will be in heaven and if you live such as he, your home will be their also, so you will see him a gain.

Amy - posted on 02/24/2010

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I always hated it when I was younger and my mom would tell me, "Well no one said that life is fair." Somethings really aren't fair, and many things we do not understand. Death such as that of your friend is one of those things. No matter who passes away there is always someone else left behind to grieve. God knows our every thought. He has numbered the hairs on our head. He knows our every moment from beginning to end. He knows. I am so sorry for your loss. Perhaps that is all you need to say to your friend.

Helen - posted on 02/24/2010

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I am so sorry, Summer, how horrible for you and how tragic. I know people view this differently, but I don't personally believe that God takes people away because He needs them. I believe that sadly bad things happen to good people because God put us on this earth and gave us free choice, and if He were to intervene in every sad situation and stop it from happening, then we would not live in a world where we have free choice, we would live in a world where God controls us and everything that happens. I do however believe with all my heart that God loves your friend dearly, and is grieving just as you are that his life on this earth has come to an end. I wish I could say more to help you but I can only pray that God will give you strength and comfort to get through this sad time. Don't worry that you won't know what to say to his girlfriend and don't worry about breaking down when you talk to her either - sometimes just sharing grief together is all that you can do in these situations and provides some comfort to know that you are not alone. If you know her well could you perhaps visit her in person, as you may find that less difficult than trying to have a conversation over the phone and not knowing what to say. Lots of love and hugs xx

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