Ashley - posted on 04/28/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
My husband and I are very close and if we lived in a bubble life would be perfect. However, recently the stress of outside influences have affected our relationship. We started arguing over the most ridiculous things and recognized this negative pattern and are now in marraige counseling through our church. However, my husband and I do not know how to deal with his mother. When she found out we were working things out she stopped talking to him. She is a very negative and condescending woman who would rather say "I told you so" than "I love you and want you to be happy"...She is a wonderful grandmother but for some reason, is very caddy and hurtful to us and especially our efforts to make our marraige work. Basically, we don't know what to do from a Christian standpoint regarding her. Do we go out of our way to include her in our lives and suffer the stress she adds or do we limit our contact with her to just when it deals with her granddaughter and limit our personal contact with her. Is it okay to just "walk away - turn the other cheek" or should we try harder. She is in her 60's and will most likely not change this behavior. She is the source of a lot of stress to both my husband and I and we don't know what the correct thing to do is...