Wondering if anyone else is having to deal with this and how they are

Rabecca - posted on 07/07/2009

Frist off I am so sorry to hear what a difficult time you are going through. Though I wasnt married to my sons father I was blown away when he left after 7 years and I was 7 months pregnant never expected that to happen but in my heart I always knew my love for him was just deeper than his for me that hurt so I never really comfronted those feelings till much much later.

The fact that he is already to marry to me says she was there before the actual moving out .maybe not but that seems like really fast I hate to say that but you may need to take that into considerstion.

the very first thing you need to do is fill for full custody you ahve to that like yesterday I know that in Washington my ex could have picked up my son from school and taken off with him and no one would make him bring him back if he ever did such a thing .

I know for me even though it really took along time to heal but after a point I did and I clung to God to move me past that hurt and betral he did and he kept telling me that all things work fo rgood for those who believe and I could not see good in all of that hurt but one day I did because I met the man I knew God had planned for me and I can tell you another man was not what I wanted but he was there and he was everything that God had promised me my pain healed and I knew that God wants to reward us but sometimes he makes us rebulid ourselves so we can be closer to hima nd he can show us who we are in him and after he has brought us through that we are better for it even though we dont know why at the time we will one day

God bless

Heather - posted on 07/03/2009

A few quick questions, did he move out or did you? Is the separation legal? I recommend watching the movie Fireproof, and even getting the Love Dare book. He might already be engaged, but you are not divorced, so he is still your husband. If he is a born again Christian appeal to him and say that the Bible says divorce is wrong and you would like to try counseling. Keep praying and allow God to lead you during this time. Turn to the Bible and dig into the word. You are in my prayers.

Erica - posted on 07/03/2009

I can imagine your pain. As to how he can move on so quickly his heart obviously was not in the marriage a long time ago. Unfortunately you have a decision to make you can be hindered by the emotional tormoil or you can put that aside and take care of business. It sounds harsh but the reality of it is that if you let yourself get down and out you are giving your husband the time he needs to build his custody case against you. I imagine it differes in all states but I do know that at lease here in Florida until there is a court order both parents have equal rights to the children. This means that until you or he petition the courts for custody then either one of you have the right to pick the kids up from school etc and once that happens the other can not stop it. This is not to scare you this is to advise you to take action quickly thus being why you can not let your emotions get you down. Once you have secured your childrens future than will be the time to sit down and try to sort through the emotions. As to how to get through it surround yourself with those who love you, your family, your church etc. Take the love you had for your husband and give it to the Lord. He knows what you are going through and he alone can and will heal you. As a single mom I know it is hard and even harder sometimes but know that the Lord will provide. If you need any advice or an ear to talk at just let me know..... Always willing to help a struggling sister.... Good luck and Be with God and you will Prevail. Remember I can do All things through Christ who strenthens me. Another thing I will tell you something that has gotten me through many moments of turmoil is that if God allowed you to be in a situation it is because he knows that inside of you is the ability to get through it, it is just a matter of you getting close enough to Him for him to be able to show you how.

Maureen - posted on 07/03/2009

Get some legal advice now. Check your local courthouse for possible information.

You need to get a separation agreement in place which includes custody, support and visitation issues spelled out. Check out any local women's shelters. Even if you are not in housing crisis, they do offer excellent supports for women. They will also have a local crisis line for you - just in case.

Shelly - posted on 07/03/2009

Samantha,

I don't know were you live but if there is no abuse or neglect on your part he's not going to get the kids and we are not to judge anyone so all you can do is keep praying that the Lord will heal your heart and allow you to be a great mom for your kids...But most of all turn that love you have for him to the Lord he will fill that void in your heart...I will keep you in my prayers that the Lord will put a piece in your heart and that he will be with you and your children during this trying time just remember to turn to him for all of your needs...