Jerrie - posted on 03/05/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am new to the site, so not quite sure how it all works-little story I will share. Also, a disclaimer-I am married to a wonderful man and he came with two beautiful girls. So I am the stepmom. The girls live between two houses. Sadly, their mother is very far from serving the Lord (as of now, but we are praying). Their mother gives the girls everything-it's like Christmas all year round.
So, our older daughter has money, but she left it at her mom's house. She wanted to go to the discount movies with her friends, we asked "did you bring your money" The answer was no. My husband said he would lend her the money, but she had to pay him back. And our beautiful daughter said"It's only two dollars". It was very upsetting. I said, "I'm not sure how you meant that, but it sounded to me like you think we should just give you money whenever you ask for it. I didn't really say too much else because I didn't know what to say.
Recently, we have paid 1,000 dollars for her to go on a school trip, we paid for her to go to the movies at full price just the weekend before. It's not that we make her pay for everything, we don't. Some things we give her and buy for her because we love her, but sometimes she needs to use her own money.
I feel like she is ungrateful. She doesn't even seem to care or value the amount of money we paid for her trip. It makes me feel sad. I want to teach her value.