Wendy - posted on 05/13/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )
My daughter who has never given me any trouble, is a straight A student, and is a christian thinks she is in love with a boy she met at church that is 19. He seems crazy about her also. I have heard only wonderful things about this boy from other parents in the church. Since she is not old enough to date, I told her that the only way that she could see him was if he came over to our house when we were home or at they could see each other at church. I know that they tell each other that they love one another. He has been nothing but respectful to us and seems to treat her very well. I felt ok about this relationship since he is a christian and there were strict guidelines that I put on their seeing one another. I just found out tonight though, that he has been sneeking into her room at night through the window. I am hurt and feel stupid for thinking that this relationship could be ok since there is such a big age difference. She does not know that I know yet and I dont know how to confront her about it. I dont know what the consequence should be either. I want to take her phone and computer away and forbid her to ever communicate with him again. I'm not sure this is the right way to handle it though. I feel like he has taken advantage of her emotions and has somehow made her think that what she is allowing him to do is ok. I dont know if anything else has happend because I again, haven't confronted her just yet. I just need advice on how to confront her and how to handle this. She has always been so open with me about everything so I am really shocked. HELPPPPP!!!!