cry rooms in church

Molly - posted on 06/17/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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Can anyone please tell me due the church's in the midwest have cry rooms for the parents, for the parents that dont know what a cry room is, a room away from the main hall and its used to spank your children when they misbehave in church.

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Christa - posted on 06/26/2010

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Check out the book "shepherding the child’s heart" by Tedd Tripp. It's a great book and helps guide you to the correct way to spank your child that follows the directives in the bible. It might help. :-)

Angela - posted on 10/07/2012

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Reading the title of this thread, I thought a "cry room" would simply be a place to take a crying baby/child during a service so the rest of the congregation wouldn't be disturbed. I'm horrified that in some churches it's a place to spank a child.

And for someone to specifically seek out a Church that provides such a facility is beyond shocking.

However, for the parents who believe in spanking/physically punishing a child, then yes - a cry room for spanking children in (as well as taking crying babies to) is a great idea. Let's hope that other parents see you inflicting pain on your kid and subsequently report you to the authorities.

Julie - posted on 06/25/2010

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we have a cry room at our church - it's not used to spank little children - little children can't be expected to sit still through an entire service and shouldn't be punished for simply being children. Since I go to an evening service (where is no sunday school) my daughter still goes to the cry room during the service even though she is now 8 (she also has mild autism and can't sit still for a whole service). It's a place for babies to cry and toddlers and special needs kids to be able to play without distracting other people from the service - a place where parents with young children can still hear the service without worrying about who their child is distracting.

Cry rooms are not spanking rooms.

Kathryn - posted on 07/05/2010

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that sounds so crazy! here in new zealand spanking is illegal! i can't imagine actually having a public room for it, although im told that the government don't take serious action against cases of parents disciplining their children with restraint, the law is used more for cases of abuse. So those of us mums that believe in biblical correction of your children, we must find other ways to do it :(

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Heather - posted on 10/01/2012

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The church my sister goes to has a cry room for little ones and since she has a 2 year old and an 8 month old she is familiar with it :) Basically at their church there is a nursery for little ones during the service and she would let her oldest go in there to play with the other kids, but like a lot of other mothers kept her youngest with her during church and if he got fussy or needed to eat (she breastfeeds) she would go into the cry room where they could listen to the service over a speaker in the room and see out of a big window so you can see the service but you aren't distracting anyone in service, the room in sound proof. So you can take care of your baby but not miss any of the sermon while your gone.

hope this helps :)

Teresa - posted on 09/28/2012

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When I read "cry rooms" I thought it was a place to take a fussy baby so it wouldn't disrupt the sermon. I didn't see it as a negaive place. In our church, the children have a service all their own while the "adult" service is progessing. ll children are allowed to stay but if they are disruptive, it is only polite to excuse them, and a "quiet room" is a nice idea.

Betty Ann - posted on 09/28/2012

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My church does NOT have one, for which I am truly grateful. I do know of Catholic churches that do have them in my area NE Pennsylvania, but also in the NYC area where I came from. I don't agree with them because children (and by necessity their parents), fussy babies or children (or in some churches even giggling), are segrated from the rest of the congeration and service.

Kathryn - posted on 09/26/2012

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For one thing the room is used to help calm your child down during the church service. It is not there for you to spank your child. That teaches them to hit and humiliates them. It doesn't work.

Emily - posted on 07/05/2010

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yes in the midwest we have crying rooms but it is not for spanking it is for squirmmy kids anad moms of infants

Amy - posted on 06/30/2010

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I've heard of nursing/mom's rooms and cry rooms, but they have always just had the purpose of being a place for moms to feed infants, or to take little ones who are a bit busy so they don't disturb everyone else, and mom can still see / hear the sermon.

My church has monitors in the hall and the sermon is video cast so parents who bring their kids in can go outside the hall and still participate. We also have sunday school classes. :)

I hope there really aren't churces out there that have specific spanking rooms... even though I do believe spanking can be an appropriate form of discipline... the attitude there just seems wrong.

Cindy - posted on 06/30/2010

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I can see why your feelings are hurt. (((Hugs)))

Hang in there, I think things are being mis-understood. Cry rooms are for fussy children, whether that be for spanking or not. I live in Oklahoma, and haven't seen a cry room in any of the churches we have been in here. I am a graduate of Seminary as is my husband. My Master's Degree in Early Childhood from seminary prepared me to over see and run the children's area of a church. Have MS, stay-at-home mom, and will never be able to do that, just giving you a little background behind what I am saying.

That said, we use the bathroom, if and when needed. Only our youngest has ever had to be taken to the bathroom and only by me (one day.) If there are other children in the cry room, I would not discipline your child in the cry room. If no one is there, feel free.

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I went to a church once with a "cry room" & it was for either nursing your baby or taking your baby there when it was crying so you wouldn't be disruptive..

Dominique - posted on 06/23/2010

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No, but I think we need one. Look theres no use in pretending that children don't act up. They do, and sometimes you need to slap a thigh and sometimes you need to give them a fime spank on the butt. If you don't have a strong willed child, I don't really expect you to know what I am talking about, but sometimes they need it, not to instill fear, but to get them under control. Sometimes they are just down right being a brat and you need to get a hold of things befor you end up on a talk show saying ' My child is 9 and he beats me', or 'My daughter is 12 and wants a baby'. God gave children to parnts to be corrected, and I would rather correct her at my will then have her go to jail for something and the guards correct her for what I should have in the first place. Children need to know there are bounderies everywhere, even at home, and if they don't respect them, there are consequences, be it time out or a spanking. But seeing that my child is so young, she just gets a firm slap on the hand and she goes to sleep (she usually only acts up when shes overly tired and can't seem to get to sleep by any other means). Thats just what I think.

Yolanda - posted on 06/23/2010

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I'm in CA and we have a nursing room. I too have never heard of a cry room. I do not have a problem w/ parents spanking their children in public. How can you as a parent wait till you get home to discipline your child? doesn't make sense to me. If your child acts up and isn't responding to your verbal cues and the next step would be a spanking, you can't avoid it b/c your out in public. I also think that children under the age of 7 shouldn't be expected to sit quietly through an entire sermon either. Hope this was helpful.

Jill - posted on 06/23/2010

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i think spanking should be done in the privacy of your own home... i am gonna have to agree with Heather and Christa

Jessica - posted on 06/23/2010

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I have never heard a cry room is for spanking and yes i believe in spanking. I have heard cry rooms are for kids that can not sit still or babies that cry hence the name cry room. My church has a nursery and a children church for kids 3 and up if the 3 year old do not behave they move them back to the nursery. I think it depends on the church what kind of set up they have.

Carla - posted on 06/23/2010

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Molly, I hope you don't think all of us feel the way a certain person who answered did. This is a forum to ask ANY question. Goodness, how are we supposed to learn if we don't ask? God bless you, darling, keep asking!

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I don't know about the midwest, but most churches here in TN have nurseries for babies & toddlers. We also have "children's church" for kids age 4 through 3rd grade (some churches have different ages and/or more groups/classes depending on the number of kids). I only spank as a last resort, but when I do, I just take my kids outside, to the restroom, or use an empty classroom.

Molly - posted on 06/22/2010

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I see I will due as you ask sorry to of asked a question thanks for making me feel welcome bye

Lara - posted on 06/21/2010

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I THINK YOU MUST BE JOKING!!! HAHA. a cry room or a baby room is a room where you take your baby/toddler so that they can play etc while you can still listen to the sermon. We have one for babies up to 12 months (with breastfeeding space too) and one for toddlers up to 2/3 and after that its Sunday School so why would the kids be misbehaving? They would be in Sunday School. anyway i live in South Africa and we dont have those rooms that you are talking about here!

Christina - posted on 06/19/2010

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I live in Michigan and attend a catholic church that has a crying room but its just for crying infants or busy toddlers that cant stay still so they dont distract other... although I have heard a parent or two threaten to take a child in to the crying room and give them something to cry about.

Carla - posted on 06/19/2010

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I used to take my kids out to the foyer, away from the service. I've lived on the west coast and now in midwest (Michigan) and haven't heard of such a thing.

Christa - posted on 06/19/2010

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I've never heard of it being used for that purpose. I'm for spanking but I don't think that sounds appropriate at all. In fact I don’t think I’d go to a church where they thought that was the proper way to spank.

We have cry rooms, but they are in the back of the worship center and you can see right into them. They are for noisy infants whose parents want to enjoy the service without disturbing the rest of the congregation. You could also nurse but people can see right in, so it’s not really private.

Heather - posted on 06/19/2010

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Seriously? Geesh. I would NEVER attend a church with such a room, so I guess I'll just bow out of the conversation here.

Krys - posted on 06/17/2010

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Wow i live in Georgia and i have never heard of this...i always took my son when he was throwing fits out of the church and explained to him if he didnt stop he would gain a spanking...:/

Molly - posted on 06/17/2010

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yes thats sounds great but the whole reason for the room is for parents to correct childrens behavor by spanking them I heard there is a web site that makes furinture for them and sells paddles, I think attud adjustment something. anyone know please tell me thanks

Shelley - posted on 06/17/2010

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we have a babies room for breastfeeding mothers at the back and a creche for up to 3 and sundayschool for the rest although i don't have a problem with smacking i don't think thats what a cry room is for. we take our outside if their behaviour warrents that

Heather - posted on 06/17/2010

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we have a cry room, but it's not used for the purpose you mention... it's used primarily for infants who begin to fuss during service and need to be nursed, for example. i've seen it used at times for older children who are being antsy or loud to go play awhile....

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