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DH won't allow children in church

Maman2x - posted on 02/10/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi, my name is Marie. I'm new here. I was raised in a Christian family and was saved at a young age. When I was a teenager, I kept going to church and still believed in God. However, I rebelled against all the Christian "rules" and didn't want to live as a Christian. I went to church until I left my parents' home at 17. After that, I met my future husband, had children and got married. During that whole time, I still believed in God, I knew that I was sinning, but wasn't ready to follow Him. Finally, after 15 years, I came back to the Lord.



It has caused several fights with my DH. He was raised Catholic and he is against organized religion as he calls it and reading a book that is written by men (the Bible). He says the churches are corrupted and he doesn't want anything to do with it and he doesn't want the children near it or anything else "religious". I can't read the Bible or listen to Christian music while he is around. I do it in my office at home, behind a closed door. I don't pray before my meals so that I don't agravate him. I don't talk about God at all at home, I don't get preachy because I know that will just push him away. However, I pray every day for my DH to be saved, and for God to help me be a good wife to him.



My DH lets me go to church even if he's not happy about it. However, he won't let me bring the children. They are 6 and 3. My oldest has asked me what I do in church and that's about the only question she asked me. I didn't invite her because my DH wouldn't approve. I know that since my DH isn't saved, the responsibility of raising our children in the faith is mine. I would love to be able to do that, but I need my DH to allow me to. I pray regularly so that I could bring my children to church, teach the about God, Jesus, the Bible, etc.



Could you please pray for my husband and children?



BTW, my husband is really a great guy, but when it comes to faith, it's something else.



TIA,



Marie

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Proud - posted on 02/13/2012

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Yes, you are supposed to listen to your husband but God is higher than any man.



You are not your husbands slave, if you want to listen to the music, read the Bible or take your kids to church do not let him stop you.

Maman2x - posted on 02/13/2012

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Thanks everybody for your responses. DH does allow me to read the Bible or listen to Christian music, he just doesn't want to be around when I do it, so I have to go in another room. As for the children, DH will not allow me to teach them about God. He is my husband and I do have to listen to him. All I can do is pray for him to change and for God to protect them until they can be saved by Him. Some friends at church are also praying for us. Ingrid, I am Baptist too :D

Ingrid - posted on 02/12/2012

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Aww Marie, you're having a struggle. My name is Ingrid, I am a born again Christian (Baptist), I attend our local church with my husband & 3 kids. God loves you SO much & He knows exactly what you are going through. I agree with Kimberley here - you could teach your children about Jesus at home & yes Veggietales DVD's are brilliant. Don't give up on your husband, keep praying for him & just let him see Jesus living through you. I will certainly pray for you, your husband & your kids too. God Bless you x

Kimberly - posted on 02/12/2012

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I will definitely be in prayer for you and your family. I agree that if you are unable to take your children to church, you can still teach them at home. There are a lot of wonderful books for kids that tell Bible stories in a simple way that they can understand. And there are a lot of DVDs also, our faves are VeggieTales. You said that your husband doesn't want anything religious around and won't let you read the Bible or listen to Christian music, and you have to hide to do these things. I hope and pray that he doesn't get violent with you if you do these things in front of him. If he does, then you need to IMMEDIATELY get out of this relationship. I also suggest that you talk to your pastor and other members of your church that you trust and see what kind of advice they have for you. I hope that things work out for you.

Carla - posted on 02/11/2012

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Hi, Marie, I will tell you the story of my grama and grampa.



Grama got saved several years into their marriage. Grampa was furious and forbid her to go. She talked to her pastor, and he told her she had to obey God rather than Man. Grampa told her if she went again he would come drag her out. She and the kids went. Soon they heard the doors open and Grama could hear Grampa's footsteps coming down the aisle. He got about halfway down when the power of God hit him! He went out, full length in the floor, and when he came up, he was a different person! In a couple years time, he was pastoring his own church.



I would never tell you to disobey your husband, and I fully believe living our lives in a Godly manner wins many people, but Grama stood for her faith, and God backed her up. I would strongly suggest praying and adding fasting to your routine. I am sure you want your children in church as early as possible, but in the meantime, you can teach them yourself, in your private times with them. I pray God give you wisdom and boldness, when needed, to handle this situation.



We're here for you, honey, God bless.

Angela - posted on 02/11/2012

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If he's the one minding the children whilst you go to Church, he could well be changing his mind soon!



If he's from a Catholic background though (and obviously disenchanted with all denominations after the Catholic experience - not unusual, by the way) I don't know why he disapproves of you reading your Bible. The Bible - or rather regular reading of the Bible - is something of a novelty for most Catholics. They are raised from infancy to heavily believe in the power of Rome and the authority of the Pope and always believe these to be of far more significance than the Bible!



The Catholic upbringing experience is one that may also produce a kind of tunnel vision. Catholics, even those who are accepting of other Christian denominations are often very wary and embarrassed to find themselves automatically carrying out Catholic customs in other Christian church buildings. This might include calling a Pastor or Minister "Father", genuflecting before entering a church pew line, referring to a service or meeting as a "Mass". I've seen this again and again.



Brought up RC myself - now Anglican. Love the Bible. If the Catholic Convent School I attended at age of 14 hadn't put me through tuition to pass a qualification in Religious Knowledge, I would never have had the pleasure of studying the Bible and getting guidance on its meaning. But heard a lot of horror stories from people who've rejected religion in all forms due to RC indoctrination.



Your husband isn't going to be brought round overnight - but I'm sure you know that! I'll pray for you all.

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