hard to balance beeing a wife and a mom

Shelly - posted on 08/03/2009

Satu,

Give it to God...The most important relationship in your Life after God is your spouce. Are children are blessings from God and blessings are to be shared. Our husbands are are life partners that the Lord has given us...NOT to be shared!! We raise our children to become God Loving adults and send them out into the world...Just keep reminding yourself that some day your children are going to be out on thier own and you don't want to be looking at this stranger you call your husband when that happens. As long as your children are being suppervised by some one you trust you need to relax and enjoy the time that you and your hubby get together...By sitting there worrying about your children you are not giving your husband 100% of you at that moment. And how sad of a statement is that!!! And the other thing you need to keep in mind is that your children are going to learn from your actions on how to have a relationship with thier spouces what a blessing you are giving them by showing them that thier dad is the most important thing in your life at that moment and that you are the most important thing in thier dads life...Just remember that God is smiling down on your marriage when you to choose to honor it...

Delia - posted on 08/02/2009

I understand. I do not stay home, i work, but i do have to juggle my marriage, children, home, work and most importantly my relationship with God. I suggest reading the book i think it is called "woman after God heart." Your relationship with your husband should come first before your children (not God). I try to make time for my husband just the 2 of us after the kids are in bed even if it is only 30 minutes. Also don't feel guiltily of taking time away from your children. Enjoy your time together with your husband. Remember you are demonstrating to your children how married couples connect to each other and how to have a healthy relationship. You are demonstrating a Loving relationship. Read the book it helped me alot.
God Bless, delia

Mona - posted on 07/29/2009

When my children were little they had a regular bedtime at 8pm. It gave my husband and I time alone each night. Even if it was just to watch tv or talk about our day.
Don't feel guilty about spending time with your husband. You are doing it for your children too. Keeping a strong relationship with your husband is keeping your family stronger for your children.
http://moremilestones.blogspot.com

Erica - posted on 07/28/2009

You will never stop worrying. I am a stay at home mommy/wife too. when my husband and i go out we worry about the sitter more than than the kids....lol! but we talk about the kids and the things we want to do with them, and the past when it was easier and no worries, but all in all the future does look better with the kids in it. So yes you are gonna worry, and yes you are gonna talk about them even on date night. They are your kids, you have a family together. so it is natural to worry, but just think it's all good, because they are your blessings and no one elses.

Laura - posted on 07/28/2009

I'm a stay at home mom as well. I have the same problem at times. It's normal to feel guilty when you're out and the kids are with some one else. But the way I see it is that my kids are with someone I trust.



My dad also gave me some really good advice. He told me that in order to have a healthy family life you need to work on your marriage. You need to have those alone times, and sometimes you need them just get a break from the kids because in between laundry, cleaning, cooking, kids fighting, and hubby you lose your mind before you even notice. LOL



Also try putting the kids to bed a little early, make a special dinner just for the two of you. Also rent a movie. Put on something that makes you feel sexy. That helps a lot when you want to enjoy being wife and not have to worry about the kids as much.



In the words of Bill Cosby You have worked hard all week. You deserve this.



Just enjoy life's little moments, and try not to worry about the kids so much while you're out. If they're with someone you trust very much there isn't really anything to worry about. Hope this helps.

Laura - posted on 07/28/2009

I'm a stay at home mom as well. I have the same problem at times. It's normal to feel guilty when you're out and the kids are with some one else. But the way I see it is that my kids are with someone I trust.



My dad also gave me some really good advice. He told me that in order to have a healthy family life you need to work on your marriage. You need to have those alone times, and sometimes you need them just get a break from the kids because in between laundry, cleaning, cooking, kids fighting, and hubby you lose your mind before you even notice. LOL



Also try putting the kids to bed a little early, make a special dinner just for the two of you. Also rent a movie. Put on something that makes you feel sexy. That helps a lot when you want to enjoy being wife and not have to worry about the kids as much.



In the words of Bill Cosby You have worked hard all week. You deserve this.



Just enjoy life's little moments, and try not to worry about the kids so much while you're out. If they're with someone you trust very much there isn't really anything to worry about. Hope this helps.