Amber - posted on 09/30/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )
I need some help please.
My will be ex-husband and I are working though a divorce on pretty congenial terms I have been told.
Short version of my problem and question to this point: He got back with a girl he dated seven years ago after telling me he wanted to reconcile our marriage. He visited her twice then she came to visit him and moved in the next week with her three kids. (when he went to see her the first time he moved me out) The five of them are sharing a campus apartment (like a thousand square feet) and when our three are there the kids share beds and rooms.
How do I approach them about the fact that they are sleeping together (have been having sex for the fiveish months that they have been dating-mind you we are STILL MARRIED as I speak) when our three kids are there (seven, five and four). I don't want them to grow up thinking that is ok to have a b/g-friend for a month (how long they knew about her before she came to visit then moved in) so they can start have sex, or to start having sex at a young age due to the exposure.
Now I realize some of this may come from the lack of someone myself so the jealousy factor but on a spiritual and future level I don't want this to effect my kids and I would hope I would not chose to do the same thing when/if I get someone.
How do I approach the subject, with him or both, and am I wrong to ask that they sleep separately until they are married at least when my kids are present?