How Do I Get My Adult Daughter To Get Back To God?

Karen - posted on 05/14/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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Hi~



I am new here and I was curious if anyone had any advice as to how I might be able to speak to my 23 year old daughter about getting back to church and God. She was raised going to church her whole life. She goes to the bars, drinks every night whether at home or out with friends and lives with her boyfriend. I'm a bit scared for her.

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Deb - posted on 05/18/2009

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You can't bring your daughter back to God. Only the Holy Spirit can do that. I was also raised in a God-fearing family. I walked away from God and began to live a very unhealthy and dangerous life style. I started having relationships with women and defined myself as a lesbian. Through it all I know my mother loved me. She called me regularly just to keep in touch. I knew she would be there for me in an emergency even though I kept pulling away from her mostly because I was ashamed of what I was doing and I knew it would upset her. My mother showed me by example what a loving God we have. She lived her Christian life and I watched her. After praying for me for 25 years, I was convicted of the sin of lesbianism and I started going back to church. Now we have a very close and intimate relationship. She never stopped praying for me or being there for more. I love her so much for all her sacrifice.

Junetta - posted on 05/28/2009

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When our children grow up they sometimes want to test the waters per say! Leave her alone and pray for her everyday! We have a covenant with God where our children and family are concern! God is faithful! Most of all you have to love her just where she is! Always be positive when speaking to her. She's just looking for love in all the wrong places. I know I've been there myself. God drew me out of all that you see your child doing now. JUST PRAY!

Danielle - posted on 05/12/2013

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I am 15, and I am an atheist myself.... Everyone thought I was rebelling at first, but I wasn't. I truly just don't believe in God. Some people aren't cut out for the belief.

As for the drinking, that isn't because of her lack of god. She obviously has a more serious issue that should be addressed.

And she probably doesn't you bothering her about her faith if she is a struggling alcoholic,

It's annoying and does more damage than good.

Jackie - posted on 06/16/2009

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Hi Karen My name is Jackie and I have three daughters who are all out of Church, and I know it is very hard but this is what I know that the Lord spoke to me. You have loved them with your love now you need to love them with agpha love, with my love unconditional, That is sometimes hard but I have learned that praying for them and not try to change the life they live, but pray and give them to God he can do more than we could ever imagine. Ask god to deal with her heart, and dont say a whole lot to her and when you do, pray before you speak that you dont say anything that will drive her away, I had to learn to do everything in love of Christ with my girls, He will help you Karen

Carla - posted on 05/30/2013

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There's nothing you can do but pray, Theresa. I WISH we could take the top of our childrens' heads off and pour Truth in there. It would save them a lot of heartache. But God doesn't work that way. He doesn't want us serving Him because our parents tell us to, but rather out of love and gratitude for Who He is.

Pray over her, pray for a believing man for her. Pray God show Himself real to her.

God bless, hon

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Carla - posted on 04/07/2014

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You are exactly correct, Sheila. Jesus said a prophet is accepted everywhere but in his own home and community.

Pray for your children, then trust our Father. He loves them far more than we ever could.

God bless, hon

Sheila - posted on 04/06/2014

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Karen,
I teach those who have children away from God, you will just drive her way by preaching to her. You pray that God will send laborers to her and prepare her heart to receive. Then pray that God will send ministering angels to her every where she goes and open her eyes of understanding and give her a hearing heart to receive the Word of God. Then pray that God will put a hedge of protection around her to keep her safe until she gets saved. Then remind God that the jailer in the Bible was saved and his whole house hold were saved shortly after. If He did it for him you expect Him to do it for you. Then everytime you think about her, thank God He is answering your prayers. Treat like she is saved. Love her to God.
This is how I prayed for my children. My son got saved 4 days before he died. It's not how we start out but how we finish is what matters to God. My youngest daughter worked in a strip club and lived with her boyfriend. I prayed the way I tell others to pray there was a man who came in the club and asked her if she knew anything about the rapture. The next day she called me and I told her about the rapture. She called serveral later asking Bible questions because that man was coming in question her. She would go back to him and tell her what I told her. Today she is married with 2 children and leading the praise and worship in her church. My other daughter is serving God in her church as well. I pray now that they will grow spiritually and will stay faithful and not quit serving God until He should come or call.

J - posted on 11/09/2013

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i was brought up in a Christian and I know Jesus drank wine. isn't a case of how much she drinks?
sometimes if parents nag children it can make it worse, if she wont discuss religion you could try a non-religious route and present her with the pure facts about alcohol consumption you can get disks from gp's that explain the calorie content and alcohol content, if she's sensible she'll make the right choices you can't live her life for her. the same goes for drugs too there's lots of information out there to help people make good choices even if they are not religious people.

Theresa - posted on 05/29/2013

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HI, I am a Believer of God, My daughter raised Catholic with background
of Christain values , Love, respect, Honesty, has now become an aeithist
She went to pre K to finished HS with this, shortly after HS met Boyfriend
& proclaimed she is Spirtual but not Catholic, now 2nd boyfriend she is total
atheist, had always family background, both parents who love & care but
does not attend church & fights us on all christian beliefs, Topic of God
a Taboo, cannot even try to mention, all is cut down as Sinister and all bad,
Religion in general a Taboo, Respect that she is adult, but behaviour is so
lacking in respect from us, Does not communicate when not at home, & arrives
& expects all to be paid for ? any advise? Catholic Mom at wits end ? How do I
respond, I repect her individuality but lack of communication is so scary in this
crazy world.

Carla - posted on 05/22/2013

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JoAnn, I hear ya. What I hold to is 'train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart'. My daughter is 46--obviously she isn't old enough yet ;) But God's promises are true, and I hold to them, knowing what He says, He will bring to pass.

You pray for my child, I will pray for yours.

God bless, hon

JoAnn - posted on 05/21/2013

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I am having the same problem. My daughter was raised in church. When she had her first child, she was determined to raise him in church and was even a youth group leader along with her husband. Three more grandchildren later she is divorced and not living a very Godly lifestyle, but claims to still love Jesus. I've tried to speak to her but she gets really upset saying I'm judging her. I don't mean to worry and I know we are suppose to cast our cares on the Lord. But how long before her lifestyle has long term bearings on my grandchildren? Please pray for my daughter too. Thank you. And any advice is welcome.

Hope - posted on 09/21/2012

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Karen, there is honestly nothing you can do. I was raised in a very strict catholic family, I hated every minute of it. Some people are just not believers, it doesn't mean you should feel compelled to make her believe just because she's your daughter. It took me zero effort to admit to my father that I never believed in God. He was very accepting of that fact. Ever since I could talk I would question the stories, etc. I was kicked out of catholic school so I wouldn't "poison" the other children's minds. I lived with my boyfriend from age 18 til now. We are married and have a 3 year old. Gee, you think I turned out so bad? Co-habitating isn't bad, this is 2012. More people are doing so than you think. I think it's absolutely stupid and very un-christ like to treat non-believers like that. If your daughter doesn't believe in god, it's not the end of the world. She just doesn't. It doesn't mean you are better than her, or she's worse off. It's her life and she should live it how she pleases. She's an adult and able to make decisions for herself. The less you're on her case, the more open she will be with you. Try and be accepting of a lifestyle that is different of your's. I know it's hard, but what's harder is losing a daughter because you're trying to control her life.

Cecelia - posted on 09/17/2012

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Pray to the lord and tell him your concern and leave it, Once you pray your pray is already answered, so it about having faith and put it into action, Remember no human being can tell you what do, Jesus is the answer, just keep praying and read the word of god. Jesus not the author of worry or fear that just enemy



Have faith my sister

Sheila - posted on 06/19/2009

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My journey is the same as many of the ladies on here. I echo what all the other ladies have said, PRAYER! My mom prayed Colossians 1:9-12 for me faithfully as I rebelled for many years, did drugs, got pregnant, then married, slowly, ever so slowly God finally got my attention, and now I am sold out to Him and helping teenage girls who are struggling, PTL. I am now 41 yo, and am praying for my teenage son. Salvation of another is up to God, not us, just keep praying and trusting. Thanks ladies for all your posts, they have reminded me today that the Lord is watching over our oldest son (soon to be 21). I think that words of encouragement from others that have struggled are such an uplifting thing for me. Thanks again!!!

Shirley - posted on 06/16/2009

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I know prayer works, and tho it may not happen as fast as we want it to, if we keep praying, and trust in God's power, they will turn to Him

Melinda - posted on 06/15/2009

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gosh that sounds so much like it could be my daughter. All we can do is pray and trust that we raised them with core values that they will come back too. Unfortunately, my daughter has chosen to stray, but I know that GOD wants her to come back to him more than I do. I just found out that she is pregnant with my first grandchild. Babies are always a blessing and GOD will use this to bring her back...I pray. I think of an analogy that I once heard. She is running and every time I call, text, or email her she feels pressure to run faster & farther. If I don't contact her then the pressure is off and she may stop running, and eventually turn back to us & GOD. Good luck

Shirley - posted on 06/12/2009

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I have an adult daughter that I am trying to get back to God. There is no easy answer. One thing I do a lot of, is pray for God to help me find a way. I try to set an example without being pushy, I often tell her things in a lite hearted way that God has done for me, or helped me with, or seen me through. I tell her all the time how beautiful she is, how much she means to me, so I am always reminding her that God has always been a part of our lives. I don't know when the change will come, but she was raised in church, and I know she believes, and with God's help, she will turn back to Him. I am confident that thru Christ, all things are possible and nothing is impossible. Don't give up hope, just trust in God, ask Him for His will to be done, and to show you how to lead her, and He will.

Casey - posted on 06/07/2009

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Quoting Cathy:

Hi Karen-

I am not too far away from the place you are with your daughter. My daughter will graduate from high school this week. We have impressed on her that she will live under house rules as long as she is under our roof. One major house rule is that we do go to church as a family each week. Rather than "preach" at my daughter the way my mom, who was the church organist/pianist did, I choose to talk about spiritual things differently with her. Unlike me and my mom, my daughter and I are very close. The following passage of scripture from Deuteronomy chapter 6 has impacted my way of teaching my daughter:

5.Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.
6.These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.
7.Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
8.Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.
9.Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

This passage tells me that teaching my children is a lifelong process. It involves relationship building, not just laying down a set of rules with an iron fist. As long as my daughter and son are at home, I am going to fulfill this command to the best of my ability, with help from the Holy Spirit.

Once my daughter leaves home (my son is special needs, and so I will have him home longer than my daughter), then she will be able to make her own choices. I pray that she would not turn her back on God. If she does, I know that He speaks in such a still, small voice that cannot be ignored forever. Because she has made a profession of faith, He will never let her go, as promised in John chapter 10:

28.I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand.
29.My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father's hand.
30.I and the Father are one."

It does not matter how long my daughter, or yours for that matter, will struggle to get away, God never lets go. Sometimes, it is through the difficult times that we realize our need for God. The following passage says: 2 Corinthians 7:10 NIV
"Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret..." This tells me that God will use all things, even the bad things in life, to bring me to himself. That goes for your daughter and mine as well.

May the Prince of Peace comfort you with these words tonight and always.


I agree with this and it has been my approach with my children as well. I'd like to add to this that perhaps it is detrimental to what the Holy Spirit is trying to do in our children when we constantly tell them how "concerned" we are for them. After all, being "concerned" is the same as worrying and worrying means we are living in fear and living in fear means we are NOT trusting God to take care of our lives or the lives of those we are praying for. Trust means I walk in peace knowing that God is working no matter what the circumstances are. If you are praying, God is working. It is arrogant of us to think we need to SEE the results to know He is at work. If we are praying, He IS working. When we are praying for someone, we have NO idea what is in the heart of that person or What will bring them back to the Lord. Often, what looks like it's taking them farther away from Him is actually drawing them closer. He passionately pursues us all. He is passionately pursuing your daughter and only He knows what will draw her in. Your job (besides praying which I'm sure you do constantly) is to believe God is actively moving in her life, and love her. When you are with her, just love her. Ask God to show you what loving her looks like in your life. People can give all kinds of advice that sounds great, but only God knows you and your daughter intimately enough to know what love really looks like between the two of you. If you ask Him and then take the time to listen, He will show you how to love her. Also, being in the word daily and speaking the word out loud is very powerful. Remember, you can only change you. And really, God is the one who does the changes. You can only control your own choices. If God is going to use you in this situation, it will be through your choices. What does love look like for you and your daughter?

Cathy - posted on 06/03/2009

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Hi Karen-



I am not too far away from the place you are with your daughter. My daughter will graduate from high school this week. We have impressed on her that she will live under house rules as long as she is under our roof. One major house rule is that we do go to church as a family each week. Rather than "preach" at my daughter the way my mom, who was the church organist/pianist did, I choose to talk about spiritual things differently with her. Unlike me and my mom, my daughter and I are very close. The following passage of scripture from Deuteronomy chapter 6 has impacted my way of teaching my daughter:



5.Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.

6.These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.

7.Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

8.Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.

9.Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.



This passage tells me that teaching my children is a lifelong process. It involves relationship building, not just laying down a set of rules with an iron fist. As long as my daughter and son are at home, I am going to fulfill this command to the best of my ability, with help from the Holy Spirit.



Once my daughter leaves home (my son is special needs, and so I will have him home longer than my daughter), then she will be able to make her own choices. I pray that she would not turn her back on God. If she does, I know that He speaks in such a still, small voice that cannot be ignored forever. Because she has made a profession of faith, He will never let her go, as promised in John chapter 10:



28.I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand.

29.My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father's hand.

30.I and the Father are one."



It does not matter how long my daughter, or yours for that matter, will struggle to get away, God never lets go. Sometimes, it is through the difficult times that we realize our need for God. The following passage says: 2 Corinthians 7:10 NIV

"Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret..." This tells me that God will use all things, even the bad things in life, to bring me to himself. That goes for your daughter and mine as well.



May the Prince of Peace comfort you with these words tonight and always.

Crista - posted on 06/02/2009

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Karen, i know how hard it is to watch a loved one when they aren't walking in a relationship with God ( my children are little but my husband is a struggling alcoholic who has left and we are now in the middle of a divorce). He was raised in the church but turned away for many reasons. I too, followed him for many years, not drinking but trying to make him see how much better life is with God in it. I love him so much and it hurt to see him suffering. I spent so much of my time worrying about his relationship with the Father, i lost mine. on the outside i went to church and i did pray (for my husband) and i talked about Him so much...but lost myself. I say all this to get to my point. i am young (30) but i have learned so much this year. God is patient and He has a plan. I have learned to accept the things i can't change (other people especially), He has given me courage to change what needed to be changed (myself mostly) and wisdom to know the difference. I turned from God because i thought i had a better way, a way to save him (my husband). Jesus died a long time ago for us but i still thought He needed me to save others. I forgot that while we can plant seeds, God does the saving. In His time. His way. I still pray daily for my husband but i now walk with God more closely than ever. I thought i was making such bad choices (and they were) but God meant them for good. He works through all things. I hope i am not preaching lol. I have just learned so much and even though i mourn for the loved one that's "out there" I now have Faith! You have no idea what God is using to grow and mature your daughter. We learn from the valleys. Keep praying but make sure your walk is strong and your daughter will see him in you. I know my mom prayed for me and worried too. Seeing me come through this with God has caused her to grow more too. Bless you both!

Rabecca - posted on 06/02/2009

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My mom always told me that she could not have my realtionship for me that I had to own my faith she brought it to me but it had to be to choice only I could own my faith and I yes did flounder for sometime and took off and did the whole bar thing lived with a boyfriend until I too got pregnant at 25 and was like wow this is how much my mom loves me and how she only wants whats best for me like I do this baby and that love she had for me had me look at the love Christ has for me too and I began to own my faith I know she prayed everyday for me as with all of her kids but really I thank her because she gave me the chance to acept Christ for myself it was never forced or she never tried to guilt me into anything my mother goes to church or a home group everyday she is a prayer warrior to say the least and has always just been there to love us and except us for who we are even when we mess up she is a living example to me of how we can fall and mess up but we always have a parent who is there to put us back on the right track just as Our heavenly father is there to guide us back to him have faith sometimes we just need to go through something before we can find our own way to him and I believe come out stronger in our faith because of it I have felt him move in my life not just knew that he could but felt it for myself amybe she just has to feel it too sometimes I think God tears us down just so he can rebuild us

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Pray. My husbands stepson just started to go back to church. He is 21 and stopped drinking and smoking. - There is hope. Just keep him in prayer and pray that God will surround her with his angels and keep her from harm.

Karen - posted on 05/24/2009

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Thank you for your advice. I sometimes do tend to push just a little when we happen to get into a conversation about God. Especially when it comes down to her lifestyle. We don't fight really about that too much, a lot of eye rolling but otherwise it's pleasant conversation. So I will just talk to her as "Mom," about other things, lead by example and pray...and hopefully things will turn around for her in God's time.

Karen - posted on 05/23/2009

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I WAS that person! I got pregnant at 23 and got married 1 month before I had my oldest son. My husband was also raised in the church, and he wasn't any better. We fought like crazy! He wanted to go out still and drink, & I got left home with a new baby. He got sent to Iraq for 7 mo, after we'd been married a year. He came home, and we had a 2nd boy. He still drank, and smoked, and cussed. I still wanted to party with my friends. We'd go to church occasionally, to appease my mom. Eventually, something we'd been missing clicked inside of us at church. He's now interim youth pastor, with plans to go back to college and go to seminary, and I'm heavily involved in church, and we just had a baby girl.

All my mom did was invite us to special occasions at church that she knew we'd attend as often as she could, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, she prayed. And prayed, and prayed.

It may not happen as quickly as you like, or in the way you imagine, but if it is God's will, it WILL happen. In God's time. Pray for your daughter, and for wisdom, patience, and peace. God Bless

Christa - posted on 05/21/2009

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Quoting Karen:

How Do I Get My Adult Daughter To Get Back To God?

Hi~

I am new here and I was curious if anyone had any advice as to how I might be able to speak to my 23 year old daughter about getting back to church and God. She was raised going to church her whole life. She goes to the bars, drinks every night whether at home or out with friends and lives with her boyfriend. I'm a bit scared for her.


I was your daughter.  I'm 27 now happily married with one beautiful little girl and very much a Christian.  I was raised in the church in a very loving christian home, I accepted Christ when I was 3.  But when I was about 16, I hated church I didn't want to go, I thought God hated me because nothing in my life was going the way I thought it should.  I drank A LOT, we are talking 5 out of 7 days a week minimum.  I went to class drunk, etc.  This lasted into college in fact it wasn't unti shortly after my 21st birthday that I drank so much I almost died.  This was my wake up call.  It was also shortly after I started dating my husband.  That was my turning point and I decided I needed to seek out God and get back to my roots.  My parents were always there giving me warnings and gently trying to get me back.  They never pushed and gave me room.  I'm sure they did a lot of praying too! :-)  My advice would be to continue to pray for her, talk to her (but don't push or force), let her know ou are worried for her and that you love her.  God sent me several people who all helped gently push me back on course, it didn't happen over night.  Hopefully God will send her a wake up call too.  I will pray for her!

Annmarie - posted on 05/21/2009

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Hello, I can so relate. My 19yr old son was so in love with God not to long ago. Sometimes he even had more faith than I did and would encourage me. Now he is living on the streets, doing drugs, hanging out with gang members, and completely turned his back on God. However, this is what I know to be true. We are completely powerless over the choices are children choose to make, they are on their own journey and must find their own way. All we can do is lead by example and pray without ceasing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I don't feel that heartache constantly, I just know the God I serve dosn't let us go just cuz we push him away. Our children especially. He promises that our household will be saved as long as we keep our focus on Him. Love your daughter and let her know God still loves her too. No matter what. She will come back all on her own. Have a Blessed Day, I will pray for your daughter too.

Laura - posted on 05/18/2009

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You also need to remember that it is her life. And in a lot of ways you are sounding like my mom with whole all I need to do is pray and not even try to figure what's going on her head. My mom knows I have my reasons, but she has never asked me my reasons and to a point I don't like that. She might even just show up at church one day you will never know. To be honest one of the reasons why I married my husband is because when I talk to him and ask for some advice the first thing out of his mouth isn't you should and need to pray about it. When it comes to making some decisions we need to hear thoughts not just pray about it. Yes, I grew up in the church with sunday school, bible studies and all that, but I have always thought and knew that there was more to life than that. My husband was never raised the way I was but he has never said there wasn't a God and went it comes to going to church especially he actually considers an open field, a waterfall, or whatever that's nature related a church, not a building. He believes in his own way and so do I we just have different ways of showing. Maybe she does believe, but doesn't want to talk about it because she doesn't consider that her whole life. I know that you think differently and so does my mother, but my husband and I respect her beliefs and she respects ours especially after I explained our beliefs to her even though she doesn't know my reasons. She understands and excepts it. Just be a mom, not saying you're not being one. I'm just saying show her the side that of you not doesn't require being religious in any way. Like being proud of her, tell her you're proud of her for somethings, offer her advice that doesn't have to do with praying to God. Because there will be times when she'll just be looking for your thoughts and caring words. Yes, words from the Bible and God can be soothing at times, but from my experience that didn't always help I wanted more and I wanted real thoughts, and caring words from a PERSON in this world mainly because it gave me more to think about and piece together about what I wanted. Just take it one day at a time. Just talk to her.

Gunilla - posted on 05/18/2009

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Well,well!I think preaching does no good.Perhaps she needs to stray away from God a while so that she understands how awful it is to live without Him.As a mom I would pray hard for her and with my own way of being and living like a christian try to show her that a life with God isn't dull and gray.Talking too much and certainly to try to persuade her will drive her even further from returning to the church.I will support you with my prayers.I
have a similar situation,our daughter and son both think religion is not for the young allthough I raised them with evening prayers sunday school etc.I just pray for them that they some day discover how wonderful our Lord is,hoping that I with my life can show them that a christian gets help and support from God in every day life. May you and your daughter b e b lessed!

Deb - posted on 05/18/2009

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Karen, please don't feel the guilt of being a bad mother. Jesus was sent to die on the cross for us so that we can get rid of our guilt. Ask for forgiveness if you think you did anything wrong in raising your daughter. Pray for your daughter. Then watch God work a miracle in her life. He has a plan that only He knows and understands. God bless you.

Karen - posted on 05/18/2009

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Thank you all for your kind, sincere thoughts and prayers. Even though I don't know any of you it does mean a lot to me to know there are christian people to talk to that understand my situation. I often think about the fact that God will watch over and protect my daughter throughout her life and pray that as Pamela said "God will remind her of things she learned growing up in Church and a Christian home." I do feel like I have failed as parent in some way. I know she's 23 and makes her own choices but still I feel like it's my fault she's chosen the path she has. It's like I missed something along the way and she didn't get it.



Thank you for praying for my daughter. It's comforting to know that others care enough to say a prayer for someone they don't know. I certainly do appreciate it.



She does like to read and I've heard a lot of good things about the book "The Shack." I'll mention it to her and see what she says about it. I will read it myself.

Tammy - posted on 05/18/2009

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I think prayer is the best answer that I have read in the post. Pour your heart out to God. It will change her life and heart, without tension between the two of you, let the Holy Spirt do the work inside her. You might also look into fasting. If you have an opportunity to give her books and if she likes to read I highly recomend 90 minutes in hell and The Shack.

Joanne - posted on 05/18/2009

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We are told to "Raise up a child in the way he should go and he will never depart from it." Well, my daughter did depart from it, as I did before her. She got pregnant and as the pregnancy test read positive I said, "Maybe this is God's way of slowing you down." She met and married a wonderful young man, they had a second child. She returned to church with her children and has a stronger relationship with the Lord than ever before. I agree with Cindy about the power of prayer. Pray. Trust God. Don'[t bug your daughter about it.

Cindy - posted on 05/18/2009

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hi karen the power of prayer! When I was a child I went to church then when I became of age I went down the road of partying. Always in the back of my mind I knew it was wrong It took me about 20 years to get back to God but I was saved and baptized 4 years ago. Don't know if I had anyone praying for me durning those years but your daughter have you and your husband and I'm sure many more praying for her. So keep the faith God does answer prayers but in His time not yours. Is she saved? If so God will deal with her and let her know she needs to come back to Him. conviction! I pray it will not take as long as it did me but if she is saved I'm sure it won't. love in Christ Cindy

Pamela - posted on 05/17/2009

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He promises us that his word will not return void, and that he is not a man that he should lie. That means you have to have faith that God will honor his word, therefore the time that she spent growing up in church did have a positive effect on her. There will come times in her life even though she is not walking on the path that God has planned for her, that he'll remind her of things she learned while being in a church and in a christian home. She will call on his name and undoubtably he'll answer and be right there to catch her in his loving arms. I have a daughter that will be 20 years old in August of this year and she is on a journey down the same road as your daughter. But, I have full confidence in God and believe he has his eye on her. I believe that, because I was once in the same place she is and because of a praying mother and father and God's word resounding in my spirit, I found my way back, and he was right there with his arms opened wide when I did. I pray God's blessings on you and your family and pray that he will give you peace and confidence in what he's promised you in his word.

Laura - posted on 05/17/2009

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I believe in prayer. Go into her room or if she does not live with you. Annoint her belongings with oil and pray for miracles to begin over her life. Annoint her room and house and anywhere she is staying or living. Do it without her there. It works. I annointed my 9 year old room and shoes and pillow and about two weeks later he was saved. Get bold and do not be scared. We are fighting an enemy that wants the souls of our loved ones. Take back what the enemy is trying to steal. Right now in the name of Jesus of Narazarath I pray for Kren's daughter. Lord Jesus you know her and we proclaim ahead of time that this young lady will no longer love the world but will fall in love with Jesus Christ. In Jesus name I pray, a-men.

Karen - posted on 05/17/2009

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Hi Carolee~ Thank you for your reply. We decided a while ago (about a year) not to talk to her about it or at least not say the "you shoulds and you shouldn'ts" anymore. We did that with college for a long time after she graduated from high school. She said she'd go, of course she never went...sigh. But I just feel if she'd go and get her degree, she'd be better off in life than a fulltime waitress and drink at the bar every night. She might feel better about herself...and maybe..just maybe start to go back to church and connect with all of her christian friends. I know it's her life but it's just so hard to watch her do that rather than say I've been down that road, walking away from church for a few years and my life became difficult...you're better off getting an education and moving on. I need to keep praying and have faith, I know God will answer my prayer in His time.

Carolee - posted on 05/16/2009

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Hello Karen my name is Carolee .We have 4 kids ranging in ages 5 -19 years old. I am a personal Life Coach. Thanks for opening up. My thoughts are, maybe don't talk to her about church for a while. You be the presence of God for her. Help her to understand that God's love for her isn't dependent on her church attendance. Church is benefit NOT a requirement. I love that we get a choice . She will too! Casually tell her that the Bible is not a book of requirements but a gift that serves her. NOT the other way around. Young people love when God doesn't sound religious :D It's sad I know to watch people we love make wrong choices . I don't think it gets any easier . Maybe if you aren't already, talk with her about God in terms wisdom and good choices, NOT wrong & right, sin & guilt . she will listen She will come "home" soon :D Carolee@ SHINE

Laura - posted on 05/16/2009

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I grew up Christian and I left the church for multiple reasons. My mom still goes to church with my step dad and my 2 year old half brother. You may never know because maybe she feels like she can't talk to you and your husband. That's how I am with my mom. I don't feel comfortable talking to my mom I will be the first to admit that it was because of church. I'm kind of starting to come around after I told my mom to stop talking about religion in front of my son. My husband was never made to go to church, but he knows that I've kind of been wanting to go back and he said he won't stop which is just one of the many reasons why I love him so much. I know you may want answers now but so does my mom and she isn't getting them because of multiple reasons, and I don't speak my reasons unless I'm asked personally and I have told that to my mom and she still hasn't asked.

Karen - posted on 05/15/2009

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Thank you Julia for your kind and comforting words of encouragement. My husband and I pray for her at every opportunity we have but sometimes we want answers "NOW" rather than wait for God's time. It's hard trying to have faith that he'll keep her safe and get her back to Him in some way...His way.



I hope everything works out well for you and your son. I will pray for you and him.

Julia - posted on 05/14/2009

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I understand what you are going through a sI have a 19 year old son with similar actions. All you can do is to continue to pray for her and ask God everyday to placed someone in her path. It is going to have to be a decision she has to make. You just continue doing whatever you are doing, at some point she'll catch on and get back where she needs to be. I continue to do this for my son and he is slowly, very slowly, but slowly making progress in a better direction. Keep your faith that God is watching her and protecting her.

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