I can't get my two year old son to stay in his bed! What can i do?
Diane - posted on 07/14/2009
I had this problem with both of kids, my daughter was especially difficult. It's not easy but I found that the best way to deal with it is to just remain super calm and keep putting them back, don't say anything, don't give them any toys, don't turn on lights, don't respond to crying or laughing or anything else, just be a robot and put them back. It only took 3 or 4 nights of this to get it dealt with and now we have no problems with it. You'll be tired and frustrated for those nights but it'll be worth it in the long run because they learn to do what they're supposed to without expecting something in return. Also, when they do finnally stay in bed give them lots of praise for it, tell them you're so proud that they're doing so well and give hugs and kisses. If for some reason you go into their room while they're still awake and they happen to be in their beds tell them thank you for staying in your bed, I really appreciate it when you're so good. Hope this helps, it worked for us. Good luck and pray for patience first.
Crystal - posted on 07/13/2009
I have been extremely lucky that my two year old son has been compliant with this. What I make sure is that I am consistent. I make sure my son's bedtime routine is the same or very close to the same each night. I sit and sing to him before bed and when he is becoming sleepy I lay him in his bed. If he gets out I immediatley return him there. I tell him firmly that it is bed time or nap time and he must be in his bed. It does take work but you have to stick with it. The one time you give in and they got you. My son does not leave his bed at all. When he wakes in the morning he stays in his bed, calls for me and waits until I come and get him. This has been instilled in him since 4 months old when I did sleep training with him. I would say do a consistent bedtime routine and make sure he knows he must be in his bed. If he gets out retunr him there and tuck him back in. It might take two hours the first night but once he realizes that he isn;t going to win he will eventually give in. It will probably take the better part of 4 nights. Hope it helps.
Carrie - posted on 07/13/2009
Mom of 4 here! I had this problem with 3 of them. We got to the point where we used bribery (a small toy, treat, special time). Start with 1 night, then the longer the streak of nights in own bed, the bigger the treat becomes....maybe a special trip to the zoo, amusement center, something to that effect. Good luck!
Join Circle of Moms
Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.Join Circle of Moms