In need of prayer

Valerie - posted on 04/07/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I am feeling a little overwhelmed and burnt out. I have a 4month old. Whose a really good baby. But I was up last night dreading the weekend. My husband is playing drums for a concert and he wants my support, but I don't feel like sitting in the cheering section for 5 hours with our little guy.
My husband helps around the house, for which I am grateful. I do all the babycare feeding, diapering waking up. My hsband needs more sleep than I do, since he works and gets up early. The less sleep he gets the shorter his fuse. We have had some pretty tough weekends with emotions since the baby was born. Yet when I don't sleep I get more depressed and feeling overwhelmed. Right now I am feeling a bit angry with my husband because I don't feel like I get any breaks or free time. When I do I am running to the store or some kind of errand. Anyway.. Just pray for me sisters..

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Amber - posted on 04/07/2009

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I will keep you in my prayers! I know how you are feeling i have a daughter who will be one on april 13th and another baby on the way so i get really tired really easy. My husband works and i stay home with her, I know hes the one makeing the money and everything but i still feel like he should help out some and give me a few moments to my self every now and then. He doesnt see it that way!

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Chris - posted on 04/21/2009

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I will keep you in my prayers. I have 4 children: 20, 19, 10 , and 9. I am glad that phase of my life has passed but I know it is hard going through it. Why not ask for him to let you have a day to yourself? Just one day a week would be nice, huh? And that isn't too much to ask.

Arlene - posted on 04/21/2009

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I am praying for you, I know how you are feeling, my husband however decided that being a father was too much work for him and moved abroad whilst I was expecting our third daughter.

It may be an idea to speak to a doctor about how you are feeling because there is a possibility that you may be suffering from post natal deppresion. Take some time to sit down and discuss with your husband exactly how you are feeling and try working out together how you tackle this problem because left unchecked little things become big issues. He needs to realise that while you understand and support his place in the family he also needs to help by supporting you in your role as a new mother even if it is just listening to you moan or delight in the days events. Is there perhaps someone who could look after your little guy for a short time to allow you to have 'recharge' time either alone or with your husband to remind you of why you love each other so much and why you chose to raise a family together. With time and prayer you will find a solution and your energy will return. good luck and God bless x

Zimmersgirl - posted on 04/20/2009

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Definitely keeping you in prayers. And agree with what Kendra said. When we look away from ourselves and look to God, He will give us the strength to keep pressing through.

Chanda - posted on 04/20/2009

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Quoting Valerie:

In need of prayer

I am feeling a little overwhelmed and burnt out. I have a 4month old. Whose a really good baby. But I was up last night dreading the weekend. My husband is playing drums for a concert and he wants my support, but I don't feel like sitting in the cheering section for 5 hours with our little guy.
My husband helps around the house, for which I am grateful. I do all the babycare feeding, diapering waking up. My hsband needs more sleep than I do, since he works and gets up early. The less sleep he gets the shorter his fuse. We have had some pretty tough weekends with emotions since the baby was born. Yet when I don't sleep I get more depressed and feeling overwhelmed. Right now I am feeling a bit angry with my husband because I don't feel like I get any breaks or free time. When I do I am running to the store or some kind of errand. Anyway.. Just pray for me sisters..


 

Kendra - posted on 04/19/2009

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I promise it gets better, I felt the same way. It was almost if I lost me, lost my joy, my peace, but then I remembered that God is in control of all things so I just began thanking Him for my situation, and things began to change, I received strength I didn't even know I had left.

Cindy - posted on 04/18/2009

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I am an old mom (47), we have four children and I have always been a stay at home mom. I used to meet my husband at the front door when he came home from work, take the keys out of his hand and drive to a neighborhood park. There I would sit by the lake and just take some time for my own thoughts. Usually 20 or 30 minutes would be enough time then I would drive back home. This was time I could just totally relax, knowing no one was going to make demands on me. This was before cell phones too! Take advise from someone who has been there- if you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of someone else.

Let us know how you are doing. God Bless

Patricia - posted on 04/17/2009

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i have a 7yr old and 1 yr old,im a stay home mom for almost 2yrs so ive been on both sides,i used 2 feel bad 4 needing me time,but im realizing i shouldnt feel bad even though my husband works(at nights)he gets hr break 4 lunch& gets 2 go 2 the bathroom as needed and fishes and golfs every once in awhile and sometimes thats alot more then i get so when i need a break i dont really ask i say i need this &ill b backeven if its a run 2 sonic,i think there should b balance and as long as we show our husbands were willing 2 give them a break they should want 2 do the same!im praying 4 all of us!dont misunderstand i have a great husband

Denise - posted on 04/14/2009

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Dear Lord , Bless this family, the father, the mother and the little baby.  Keep them all in your loving care and let them know of your love and protection...Holy family of Nazareth, pray for them....

Sibyl - posted on 04/13/2009

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heavenly father, i pray that you will guide and direct this young new mother in all that she does. be with her and her family, keep them safe, fill each of them with the holy spirit and give them the peace that they desire within and with each other. please bless them with understanding of each other and each ones needs. i pray all these things in your name dear lord if it is your will. amen........my prayers are with you dear

Kimberly - posted on 04/13/2009

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I will keep you in my prayers. I am in the same situation myself. I have a 16 month old and I have done everything with her since she was born. It is bad to say - but my husband has to ask questions about how to fix the bottle. However, I must take some of the blame. When she was first born I had that new mommy energy and didn't need any help. Then by the time that the energy had worn off - she had gotten used to the way that I do things. Just be honest with your husband. If I get to the point that I really need a break - I will tell him and he will do what needs to be done to help me. I even have a bit more of a situation as my husband plays the drums in our band - but I play the keyboards and sing also. And so I have to be at all band functions and I usually end up being the one that takes care of her while on stage. I can do my part with one hand if I have to - He can't. Anyway - I will pray for you and just remember things will get better. Sometimes as a mother you have to be selfish and demand a break.

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You and your family will be in our prayers! I work during the day while my husband takes care of our 9 month old and then works in the evenings. I have to remind myself that my husband caring for our child is just like another full-time job. Especially when I come home and there are dishes piled in the sink and messes all over the house! Keep your spirits up. God won't give you more than you can handle. Trust me on this as I am also a step-mother to a beautiful 5 year old with a crazy mom and disowned from my family because I married outside my race.

Valerie - posted on 04/08/2009

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Thanks Amber.. I am sorry to hear about you needing a break too. It seems the more I talk to other moms it appears that is the common thread unfortunately. Our husbands certainly have a hard role, spiritual leader, bread winner, Dad and husband. No wonder Divorce rates seem just as high in the Christian Community, with all the temptation and weariness both husbands and wives feel. We must keep praying and encouraging one another in Christ as Paul tells us too in Ephesians.

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