IS IT WRONG TO MASTURBATE WHEN YOUR SPOUSE IS INPOTENT DO TO IILLNESS, WHAT ARE YOU SURPOSE TO DO?

TRACY - posted on 10/10/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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IS IT WRONG TO MASTURBATE WHEN YOU SPOUSE CAN NO LONGER HAVE SEX DUE TO ILLNESS?

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User - posted on 10/18/2012

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I MARRIED FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS. HE IS IS KIDNEY FAILURE AND WE HAVEN'T BEEN SEXUAL IN ABOUT SEVEN YRS. HE IS SICK AND HOW CAN I LEAVE HIM NOW , IT LIKE I AM HIS CAREGIVER. I AM 47 AND HE IS 73. WE HAVEBEEN TOGETHER OFF AND ON FOR 17YRS. I AM GETTING A DIVORCE BUT I WILL STILL HELP HIM OUT. WE LIVE AS ROOMMATES. THIS IS SO HARD FOR ME PUTTING MY NEEDS AND WANTS TO THE SIDE TO HELP SOMEONE ELSE. BUT I KNOW GOD WILL REWARD ME AND GET ME THROUGH HE HAS SO FAR AND I AM GREATFUL. THIS IS WHERE MY LIFE IS AND I WAS JUST WONDERING IS IT WRONG IN A CASE LIKE MINE!!!!!!

Vanessa Jacky - posted on 10/31/2012

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Absolutely. It sounds like the intimate part of your relationship has been over for some time and your relationship as a man and wife has changed. Your life and your body are the most valuable things you have on this earth. By all means, take care of you too. Don't waste a moment of shame over it. Making ourselves feel good is NOT a shameful act. It's simply a natural part of being human.

Wendy - posted on 10/22/2012

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I have been disabled - paraplegic for 13 yrs . When I had intercourse before my illness (Lupus in my spine) got extreme, I had pain and spasms during and after intercourse. That wasn't anyhing I looked forward to! Now I enjoy everything up to the intercourse. I can't feel anything in my private area, just the pain and spasms. My husband's kisses, his hands all over me and the excitement (I can remember) getting to the climax and then my husband and I stay together and I help him masturbate. The holding, closeness and the carressing and his final moments are great for me and my husband lets me share his moment. We have a marriage of sharing and adjustments on some things. I have a faithful husband of 30 yrs. and I still feel him love me.

Carla - posted on 10/11/2012

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Only you and God can answer that, Tracy. To me, the guilt just wasn't worth it, AND it left me feeling unfulfilled.



Paul says to possess your vessel with honor. Paul was celebate and he was a man. If he could do it, so could I. This is something you and the Lord are gonna have to talk over. If you are trying the best you can to live a Godly life, He will help you get through the rough times. I'm older, but I still have urges ;)



You say your husband is ill, is he too ill to participate at all? Sometimes you have to get a little creative, but any physical intimacy with your husband is better than doing it yourself.



I pray the Lord give you wisdom for this, honey, God bless.

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Sarah - posted on 09/24/2016

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Another, years old post? Do you not have anything else to do Gergana than troll masturbation posts

Gergana - posted on 09/24/2016

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It's not wrong if your husband participates .You can be intimate without even doing anything with him . There are toys ,machines if he gives you positive feedback , your relationship can prosper. What is wrong is to stay with a person that you don't love but you just care about him .... Just because the Bible says so. Do not waste your life.

Stupid - posted on 11/03/2012

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God will hate you if you experience pleasure, God gave you sensory structures to test your faith, and if you indulge in them you are going to hell.

Carla - posted on 10/23/2012

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This is what I was talking about, Wendy, mutual enjoyment. Your husband understands your limitations and you, together, work for mutual pleasure.



God bless, hon!

Angela - posted on 10/12/2012

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When you say you "don't look at him that way" - do you mean you don't EVER look at him that way? Have you ever looked at him "in that way"? Have you ever fancied your husband? How long have you been married?



Your profile states you're divorced - and there is no mention of you having any children - this is Circle of MOMS!!



Sorry if this is intrusive but I'm not sure how a person can marry someone who isn't interested or capable sexually. Or how someone can marry a partner they don't fancy. Of course I'm jumping to a few conclusions here.



If you have had a fulfilling sex life beforehand and now his health prevents this, I would say masturbation is OK if you're both taking part and/or together during the "sessions". Remember, it's important to foster the closeness and intimacy of a couple. Masturbation, simply in terms of "solo sex" (one person whose spouse isn't even present) doesn't really promote married partnership!



Hope I don't sound judgemental!

TRACY - posted on 10/11/2012

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THANK YOU, MY HUSBAND 73YRS OLD AND IN KIDNEY FAILURE AND I'M 47YRS OLD AND I DON'T LOOK AT HIM IN THAT WAY. WE SLEEP IN SEPARATE ROOMS JUST LIKE ROOMMATES. I HAVE TURNED INTO HIS CAREGIVER.

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