Rebecca - posted on 12/30/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )
I have a 15 yr old daughter who can't tell the truth about the time of day. I don't know what it is?? We are always open and allow her to talk. She lies to other people about what we do or what she does and has been busted and subsequently has NO friends...not one to speak of. mainly becuase it's too much work for her to talk about someone besides herself. She is 15, looks 19 and acts 11. She has ADD and I try to take that into consideration, but she won't take responsibility for anything she does or doesn't do....and am I the only parent of a teen that checks her text messages online and doesn't let her use it all night.....that doesn't let her lock herself in her room with a computer, that makes her stay in the living room....that trusts but verifies???? It seems like it. The parents I talk to have this attitude that they need to be free. I have NO reaon to trust her. She has been "talking" to an 18 yr old and a 20 yr old and while I can say with positivity she hasn't had intercourse, she has engaged in oral sex (when did oral sex become so casual?) We take her phone and everything she owns practically away and she earns it back and within a week she does the same stuff again. I pray for her everday and for protection of her heart and mind, but nothing gets through to her.....any parents struggling too? I am soooo tired and concerned for her. We let her play tennis because the coach is a Christian and so good for her, but I don't want to reward her for bad behavior.....at least there she socializes with decent kids, just doesn't talk to them off the courts. Only boys. My husband is very involved with her and close to her....so it's not a father complex. We have tried counseling several times but she is manipulative and we end up feeling like we are throwing money away as the counselors are not sure how to help her because she won't acknowledge there are issues.....HELP!