maybe a dumb question.....

Sharon - posted on 10/04/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I have an amazing son who is about to turn 8. I love him with all of my heart. I am a single mom and wanting to meet someone. I don't think its appropriate to go to church to "look" for a soulmate. I have never actively particpated in looking for a relationship because I just figure that God will lead me to him. I am wondering if you have any ideas of SAFE places to meet a christian man. I don't really enjoy bars anymore and of course that is never the best bet. Just looking for some ideas from christian people.

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Andrea - posted on 10/14/2009

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serious i have several loved ones who found love on e-harmony. for some people that works. i dont see any problem with wanting to meet up with someone from church thats actually a good place to find someone with the same morals and values as you. but dont go to church to find a man remember the real reason for your time there. i would never suggest bars i havent seen a single one of those scenarios work. but you are also right the Lord will provide in due time.

Jill - posted on 10/14/2009

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pray for a mate... that's how i found my husband ... and God supplied him to me... i wasn't even a Born again Christian when i prayed for him and God still answered my prayer.... i asked for a non drinking ... likes to stay home ... decent man and God gave him to me.... my husband was engaged to be married when i met him and i was in a relationship for 4 yrs with a horrible person.... we met... broke off our relationships .. and the rest is history.... the funny part is ... i am from PA and he was from NY... how we ended up in a totally different area to meet each other was up to God.... He has a plan for your life.... ask him

Judy - posted on 10/08/2009

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Sharon, God gives you what you need. However, you must have a personal relationship with Him in order to hear what he has to say to you through His Word. Read, study, attend worship, and get that personal relationship with God established and He will take away your worries and give you what you need. That may or may not be a soul mate. He will change you from the inside out and the person to reap the most benefits from this will be your child. Take it from an older woman who has been there, follow Him wherever He leads you. He has your best interest at heart!

Elena - posted on 10/08/2009

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You say you do not feel right going to church to look don't go there looking if he's there thats great he will lead his way to you.

Renee - posted on 10/07/2009

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What about letting your friends know you are available and ready to date. Friends love to set people up. That's how I met my husband. You never know what friend has that special someone that you just have to meet...

Tricia - posted on 10/07/2009

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Well I met my husband online... I made my beliefs very clear and my values. I was a single mom of a 3 and 6 year old at the time with a full time job. I really had no time. There are christian online dating sites. I would check them out. As I always say Yahoo!

Tammy - posted on 10/07/2009

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Are they any churches in your area that offer single mingling? Our lutheran church here offers singles night- just a thought...but overall you are right on- God will lead you to whom he has for you! Keep the faith!

Ramona - posted on 10/06/2009

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Quoting sharon:

maybe a dumb question.....

I have an amazing son who is about to turn 8. I love him with all of my heart. I am a single mom and wanting to meet someone. I don't think its appropriate to go to church to "look" for a soulmate. I have never actively particpated in looking for a relationship because I just figure that God will lead me to him. I am wondering if you have any ideas of SAFE places to meet a christian man. I don't really enjoy bars anymore and of course that is never the best bet. Just looking for some ideas from christian people.



Sharon:



My son who is now 31 and still living at home found his soulmate on a dating service via computer. He of course meet some other girls before he found Samantha but now is finially asked her to be his wife and is getting married next March, and finially moving out into his new home he just bought for her. He didn't have to go to bars or even Church. The service matches singles with simular backgrounds and like, dislikes. You are not obligated to any of these people and can always go dutch at first to see if he will make the grade.

Rabecca - posted on 10/06/2009

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I was also in that boat myself about 6 years ago I was focused on my then 3 year old church friends I didnt really want to date but once I did I just started praying I prayed for God to bring my soulmate into my life and I guess I just expected him to turn up at church and once I started praying it wasnt like harp music and he appeared haha I guess thats what I thought it would be like an there was this period of not a man in sight okay this may sound vain but never in my life have I ever not dated when I wanted to and when I wasnt ready still very raw from the break-up with my sons father I had lots of offers but I had made a choice and talked with God that I wasnt going to settle I wasnt going to date just to date I wanted a soulmate and I really felt like God was telling me that also that he had plans for me and then I was like okay Lord I'm ready and NOTHING not one offer for dinner a movies talk about dry spell well I guess I really felt alone and like God was telling me No that my life was ment to be spent alone .

I kept praying and finally I was like okay God I guess this is it my son and I .I was almost 30 years old we live in a small town maybe I just have to wait or maybe I am just not going to to be blessed in that way I gave it to God let him have control of my life and one day I was blown away by the most handsome and genuine man at of all places a Mcdonalds drive thru and on our frist date it was like all of the things I had asked God for they were here in person in this man down to some obscure things that I just though would make the perfect man I was in awe of Gods work in my life on a date of all things he showed me love and reasurrance that night that he still was there always doing his work in my life and on our first date it was like we knew and both said wow we are getting married arnt we and that was it 6 years later he is still my best friend and leader of our home (under God of course) he loves my son like his very own I adore his parents and they love me like a daughter (which is one of the things I wanted and prayed for a close bond with his family ) ask God to put you in the right place he knows the plans he has for you and I think he always want to bless us with a husband and a family and it may be church and it may be at a coffee shop somewhere down the line his timeing is not on our timeing and his is always perfect trust in that and ask God to do his work in your life he will answer

JaNette - posted on 10/06/2009

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A good place to meet could be a coffee shop, or a restaurant, or even a Christian Cafe. Keep praying to God for you to meet your future husband and for God to help them right now with what ever they need help with in their life, even tho you do not know who he is right now, God does.

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Hi! Just wanted to share a book with you. It is named When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy. It is a good book and gives an insightful way at looking at relationships.

Christa - posted on 10/05/2009

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My parents have been divorced for 8 years now. My dad started looking for people within the church he dated a few women, but then he'd exhausted that "pool'. He now uses Eharmony, he has found two women that he has had long relationships with and is currently dating someone he met on there. His #1 requirement is that she is a Christian and it's worked very well for him. Obviously he hasn't found "the one" yet but he's heading in the right direction. He is super conservative and you'd never see him as an "online dater" but that site has really worked for him, you could check it out. Good luck, I hope you are able to find someone. :-)

Diana - posted on 10/05/2009

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It's not a bad thing to look for a guy at church as long as that is not the only reason you are there. In my personal experience, God will bring that right guy to you at the right time, and you just have to have your eyes open. I had two boys, age 9 and 15 months, when I met my husband, and it was totally unexpected. I didn't meet him at church either. :p

Genie - posted on 10/05/2009

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I think the church would be an awesome place to look for your soulmate. Of course, I would hope it wouldn't be the ONLY reason you go church, but I don't think its bad to hope you find someone there.

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I think is appropriate to look for a soulmate in church. Just as it is appropriate to look for a car on a car lot.

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I think is appropriate to look for a soulmate in church. Just as it is appropriate to look for a car on a car lot.

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