(On a favorite coffee mug) "Meanest Mother in the World" plus my own encouragement

Karen - posted on 09/03/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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"I had the meanest Mother in the world. While other kids had candy for breakfast, I had to eat cereal, eggs and toast. While other kids had cake and candy for lunch, I had a sandwich. As you can guess, my dinner was different from other kids' dinners too. My Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. She had to know who our friends were and what we were doing.
I am ashamed to admit it, but she actually had the nerve to break the child labor law. She made us work. We had to wash dishes, make the beds and learn how to cook. That woman must have stayed awake nights thinking up things for us kids to do. And she insisted we tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
By the time we became teenagers, she was much wiser and our life became more unbearable. None of this tooting the car horn for us to come running: she embarrassed us to no end by insisting that our friends come to the door to get us.
I forgot to mention that most of our friends were allowed to date at the mature age of 12 or 13, but our old fashioned Mother refused to let us date until we were 15. She really raised a bunch of squares. None of us was ever arrested for shoplifting or busted for dope. And who do we have to thank for this? Your right, our mean Mother.
I am trying to raise my children to stand a little straighter and taller, and I am secretly tickled to pieces when my children call me mean. I thank God for giving me the meanest Mother in the world. The world needs more mean Mothers like mine."

Moms, when your kids, or their friends, call you mean you are showing God's love for them. Boundaries and standards keep them safe and give them the sense of true love, comfort and high self esteem. Don't let the world, friends, psychologists, school counselors, etc., tell you they know better than God. He is the true source of all things good. Proverbs is a great way to set your believing images for yourselves and your children. Many chapters have, in the first several verses, the standard of children to listen and retain what parents tell them for long life. " Prov 3: 1 My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments: 2 For length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee." The King James Version. This is a very strong desire I have for my children. Blessings to all.

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Karen - posted on 09/15/2009

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It was on the cup about the age to allow dating. I didn't let my kids date until they were 16 as well. I learned from my mistake, I was married at 16. And I admit I was very foolish and too immature to have done this. But I am thankful that God covered for my foolishness and I have my son because of it. I also made sure I knew the person they were going to date, as much as I could before they went out on their first date.

Anne - posted on 09/14/2009

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I also was raised by not only a mean mother but also a mean father. I Praise God often for both of them. Our daughters are now adult young women and they now thank me for being a "Mean Mother"

Shelly - posted on 09/13/2009

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Karen,

Your mom wasn't as mean as mine...We couldn't date until we were 16...LOL I have always said to my children when they tell me I'm mean.."Thank you that means I'm doing something right!!!!"

Karen - posted on 09/09/2009

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I found out that when my kids would literally say, "I hate you", that it was an opportunity to let them know how unconditionally I love them. It is wonderful when they feel so comfortable and loved by you that they can be open and honest with their feelings. There were many times my son, now 28, would talk about how his friends thought I was a mean mom. I just let him know I wasn't in a popularity contest, and what they thought about me does not change my decisions. Thanks for replying.

Karen - posted on 09/09/2009

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I have basically raised two only children. They are 9 yrs apart. I am so glad both of my kids did think of me as a mean mom. My daughter, 19, and I tease about it. But she also says she wants to be as mean a mom as I was. At one time my Son, now 28, got me a coffee cup which says, "Mom...I sometimes wonder what makes you so great...and hope it's hereditary!" If you can't tell I collect coffee mugs, the large ones not the small ones. I am so blessed to be able to have raised my children in the ways of God. And they are seeing me live it even greater now that they are on their own. God's best to all.

Betty - posted on 09/08/2009

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I love this! My mother would fall into this category and so would I. I have raised my first set of children now ages 28 and 23. I am working on my late blessing my now 8 year old daughter. With God's help I will also raise this one according to His word.



Thank you for sharing.

Heather - posted on 09/03/2009

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I love it! Thanks for sharing! I too had a mean mother, and my kids, I'm sure, have thought that about me. I can see it in their eyes even though they don't dare say it. Usually before washing the dishes or going to bed at 8 on a school night.

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