Post Partum Depression??

Sylvia - posted on 09/21/2009

Hello Brooke!



I will say it again "you are not alone" Post Pardum can last up until 5 years believeit or not. Now in regards to your anger towards your husband, I went through the same thing. The issue was I was angry (which is okay) I was angry that I was stuck in thye house recovering from a C-section not able to do anything, while he was free. I was angry that my daughter only wanted me to nurture her, I was angry that I had to feed her when I could barely move, I was angry that I had to hold her through 3-4 hr crying spells while he got to sleep. I resented him for his ability to have "freedom" and "choice." No, this had nothing against my baby girl, I never wanted to harm her nor did I despise her. I was sad, lonely, in pain, scared, frustrated you name it, we've all felt it!



However there are resources to help, now here in San Diego as well as across the world they have Public Health Nurses (free service) you can actually get the information easier through your local WIC office. You are assigned a nurse and she comes out to see you as much as you want, her main concern is "you!" My health nurse checked my depression level, paid close attention to my issues and was very comforting. She also checked on my baby, checked her growth & development etc. She didn't just listen but she gave me advice and things to do that would help.



Also, being a mother is very overwhelming, make sure you have loved ones you can trust so you can get out, even if it's just for a walk! It is perfectly normal and please don't beat yourself up about it. You are normal and there is definitely assistance within reach! I will continue to pray for you because my daughter is 15months old and I have to "make" myself get up, shower, get dressed and out the house because I get depressed still. I also try to keep healthy eating habits and get out the house into fresh air everyday!



I will pray for you

God Bless

Sylvia

Estella - posted on 09/21/2009

I got really depressed when my daughter was about a year old. It caused alot of problems in my marriage and finally I ended up divorced. I decided to go to the doctor and also see a shink. I also found it helpful to get a job and get out of the house for a little me time. Babies are cute, but you also need mommy time and some people forget that.

Brooke - posted on 09/21/2009

Thank you all so very much for all th prayers! I am feeling better and better each day. I believe it is the prayers that are helping!!

Marie - posted on 09/18/2009

Brooke, you are not alone. I had the same issues after my third child ( yes, it's my son that passed away according to my profile ). To an extent your feelings are normal. But for them to go on this long is not normal. So for you to have called your doctor is a good thing. Anything that they need to be aware of in between visits is a good thing whether it be by phone call or you writing down notes and telling them when you go back. I will continue to pray for you Brooke. If there's anything we can do, just let any of us moms know. That's what we're here for.

Mufaro - posted on 09/18/2009

yo are not alone. My daughter is 33months old now but ther are sometimes i jus feel depressed or say things to my husband which i'll regret latter. sometimes i even feel like crying for no apparent reason. I talked to a lady from our chuch who told me that the devil is the master of confusion. He doesn't like families. So i encourage you to pray a lot. Read Psalm 42. Discuss this with your husband also especially when you're in a good mood, so that he may know how to help you. a problem shared is a problem partly solved. Also learn to confess good things about yourself with your mouth,because 'what we are today is what we spoke about ourselves yesterday'. May the God Lord help you.

Regina - posted on 09/17/2009

Talk to somebody that will support you.
Let your hubby know how much you are struggling.
It's very important to find a support system right now.

It will pass. I had 4 children myself....eventually you will feel yourself again.

Rachael - posted on 09/17/2009

Hon I am soo sorry!! It is soo hard going through that! Go see your Dr. ASAP and explain to them what is going on. I waited and waited. couldn't seem to do anything. Mine was cause by a hormone shift.. they still are not sure what happened. Hormones do weird things to our bodies and can turn normal happy women into Evil wicked mommy's. I regret the damage I did to my family by waiting. My husband asked me to go to the dr with him one day and once we got in the office I found out it was really for me. They put me on anti depressants and i'm finally getting back to normal. Please don't wait if you don't feel right.

Genie - posted on 09/17/2009

I have dealt with this when I had both of my kids. Recently, with my son, it was the worst. They are horrible feelings and I can't even imagine feeling the way the I felt now. All I remember is that I was extremely depressed and knew it was time for help when I looked at my sleeping son and thought, "I don't know if I can take care of you today." I called the doctor and he put me on zoloft. Well, I am not one to take medication for ANYTHING, but I was at the bottom and feeling helpless, so I took it. I was on it for about a month, and it worked great. When I got off it, I was totally fine. I feel for you...it's really hard and you should try to get help.

Debora - posted on 09/11/2009

this sometimes can becaused by drugs used during delivery.maybe you should try a christain counselor like a pastor to help you and take your husband with you.i suffer from posttramicstress which my mother thaught it was ppd but my dr said no after hearing what i had been through.i will pray for god to take this feeling away since he can and its from the devil.

Alison - posted on 09/11/2009

Going back to work with a newborn at home must be SO hard. This is why I wish the American working women would unite and take a stand to get the maternity leave that they deserve and that so many other nations benefit from!



The best of luck to you!!!

Sandra - posted on 09/09/2009

Just heard a speaker on Focus on the Family this week named Julie Ann Barnhill who wrote a book titled, She's Gonna Blow. You can listen to the interview at www.family.org under "recent broadcasts". It's in two parts & is well worth the time to listen! Hope this helps!

Shannon - posted on 09/09/2009

I had the same thing happen after my third child, by the time I went to the doctor about it my husband was beside himself and I thought they were going to lock me up in the loney bin. The doctor put me on anti-deppresents and I honestly think it saved my life and my marriage and made me a better mother. For some people you would only need to be on it for 6mo. but for me it has been a lifetime thing. Medicine can be a wonderful thing and I believe it was a gift of God for me.

Brooke - posted on 09/09/2009

Thanks so much to both of you! Rabecca ~ You pretty much described what I am going through below. It was when I started back to work that the real issues started. I am having a really hard time admitting it and calling the Dr. but I will do so this afternoon after your and Alison's encouragement. Thank you both so much again. It is good just to know that I am not alone in my feelings!

Rabecca - posted on 09/09/2009

I had the same issues after the birth of my son very axious and would actually have panic attacks I kept thinking something was going to happen to him and had a had time letting him out of my sight even for just a few min but it wasnt really a problem the frist 3 months old when I went back to work thats when I did get really mean I would say I really only wanted to be with him to make sure he was okay and I got extremly depressed .

The best thing and the hardest thing I did was see my doctor it was so hard to say okay I'm depressed I mean one part of me was so greatful I had a buietyful little baby and loved being a mom what was there to be depressed about and truthfully nothing it was just one of those things my hormones had control over not my heart and when I realized really I wasnt being the best mom I could be because of the depression I felt really run down alot I knew I had to do something about it and I did go one a medication till my son was about 1 thats when I really felt myself again see your doctor like I said it wasnt for me until my son was between 3 to 5 months tha I really noticed that difference in myself and when I started to feel alot better I did realize it was even worse than I thought

Alison - posted on 09/09/2009

If you are concerned, you should talk to your GP or Gyn. Try to find time for yourself, and be sure you are sleeping enough. If you have noticed this has been going on for 3 weeks, I think it is definitely worth talking about.