Prayers for my teenage daughter

Brenda - posted on 08/11/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I have a 14 year old girl and she is making all the wrong choices. I pray for her and know that God will and is taking care of her, but I am in ALOT of fear for her. How do I turn her over completely to Him and still be a mom to her?

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Gizel - posted on 08/15/2009

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Hello my dear, I have a 17 year old girl and some times its dificult but if your daughter has grown in the church then she does know the difference between right or wrong, All we can do is pray and hope that she makes the right choices, And all you can be is a mom to her and be there for her when she needs you. keep praying that God never gives us more than we can handle He is listening to you. God Bless You

Gabrielle - posted on 08/14/2009

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Quoting Brenda:

Prayers for my teenage daughter

I have a 14 year old girl and she is making all the wrong choices. I pray for her and know that God will and is taking care of her, but I am in ALOT of fear for her. How do I turn her over completely to Him and still be a mom to her?



I have found a really good christian site called VirtueAlert.com after reading the book called " The 5 converstaions you must have with your daughter by Vicky Courtney.  I will also pray for you.



 



Gabrielle

Jessica - posted on 08/17/2009

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I have recently read a book called Loving Our Kids On Purpose by Danny Silk. It talks about having a Heart to Heart connection and parenting the way that God parents us... Really changed ,my views on parenting!

Rabecca - posted on 08/15/2009

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Brenda your a mom and fear is part of that but it does not come from God trust in him and he will never leave her or your side .

I was a wild child myself you name it I did it and I was raised by my mother who I will honeslty say is closer to God then anyone I know she is what I call a prayer worrior

needless to say I was raised by the book and new the words but I guess I never felt them for myself I got into boys young I would sneek out drink ect.. and I have to say I knew what I was doing and for a time thought I enjoyed it it was exciting and I never really got into tooo much trouble

I became a mother at 26 and thats when I realized Gods love for me and how much I love my son he loves me much more than that it became this awsome gift I always had but never felt and as soon as I did I knew I would never leave him again I couldnt it was too great a love and filled me up where I never knew I was empty before and since then he has preformed many blessing in my life.

What iam trying to say is give her to God never stop your praying it may take years but if you train her up in him she will come back to him and perhaps stronger in her faith than you could ever think possible even if she has to take a wrong path now and then those wrong choices hopefully without much consiquence can make her fall harder in love with God in the future you never know and I always try to remember all things work for good for those who love the lord I tell myself that everytime something looks like it's going to end up badly and I would say 99.9 % of the time thise things I think will end up badly open doors to something bigger and better nver stop loving her back to him never stop the prayer . God still changes lives today have faith he knows her heart and he knows your worries give it all to him he will come through

AnnaMarie - posted on 08/14/2009

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When my daughter was going through it I pictured myself laying her on the alter Abraham laid Issac. I had to do it again and again and again. But after two months I was able to leave her in God's hands. It's not easy. But I also claimed the verse above. Train up a child. I would remind God that his promise was that when she was old she will not depart from him.



Also remember Billy Grahm, he is one of America's Greatest Preachers. His son was deep into drugs for years but now he is running his father's ministry.



Our children have different trials to go through. We have to allow them to go through them or they will not grow up to be the beautiful butterflies God intended them to be. Leaving them in God's hands is the hardest thing to do but it is so freeing once you do it because she is God's responsibility.

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Lisa - posted on 09/23/2012

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I need some help. I have a sixteen your old daughter. Always been a good kid until she became a teenager. She has made the wrong choices for herself, she likes a boy in a gang, and he is only 16, been in the gang for two years has a 5 month old baby. I cannot allow her to see this boy, hangs in a terrible area. She is my only child I cannot put her in harms way. She still insist she is going to be 17 and do what she wants and date whoever she wants. She is in a catholic school a junior, I do have her in counseling at the school and now I am getting her in counceling by a professional. More to the story, too much to type. I am just at my wits end, I pray and cry everyday don't know what else to do.



A concerned mom that loves her daughter.

Angela - posted on 09/12/2012

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This is an old, old thread! The 14 year old described in the opening post is now 17.



Juliet, I will pray for your peace of mind concerning the your daughter and her challenging behaviour.

Juliet - posted on 09/12/2012

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Four years ago my younger daughter passed away an accident that we wasn't expecting to happened to us.She was 5 and half.My 14 years old who was 9 then punished herself for the faulth of her sister death.We all did! Now that she is 14 her action toward to her younger sister who is 12 ,her father, and me is very bad. She talks back to us with demanding voice. We tried to talk to her and give her all the attention,but she takes advantage of it.I have prayed for God to guide her in all steps and decision that she makes.We tried to take away so many thing away from her,so that she can show more respect to others and toward the family.We thought that she will change her attitude with giving her punishment and time out,but she gets worst with her attitude toward us.I fear for my daughter who I love very much.I told God that I surrender my daughter to him,and to show her the right path toward the Lord.

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still be a mom to her and love her brenda. you never know maybe she will someday later only remember how commited you were to her but don't make her confuse your motherly commitment and your advice. please be sure to reinforce that you wish God's will for her and that you aren't 'with' her bad choices. love you. will pray.

Leanne - posted on 08/20/2009

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This is a very tough age for them, maybe you could try(if you haven't already) to get her into a really good youth program at your church or if your church does not have one try to find one. Little steps so she does not feel like you are pushing her. God will not leave you or your child, He knows what the plan is, keep the faith and do not despair, anoint her door way with oil or place a little oil in the palm of your hands say a prayer and then touch her, this is also great for those you come in contact with during the day. Brenda, God knows what your are asking for, the hardest things to do is submit completely give up control as humans we don't like to do that, but who other then the Lord could you trust, I will put you and your family in my prayer basket.

Lord - posted on 08/18/2009

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HI BRENDA LET ME TELL U A LIL STORY WHEN I WAS 14 I WAS DOING THE SAME THING AND MY MOM USED TO PRAY 4 ME AND TALK TO ME AND I WOULD JUST IGNORE WHAT SAY WAS SAYING AT THE AGE OF 15 I BECAME PREGNANT WITH MY BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER SARAH WHO IS NOW 5YEAR OLD. AND U KNOW WHAT GOD TOLD ME THAT MY DAUGHTER SAVED MY LIFE BECAUSE A WEEK LATER THE PLACE I WAS SUPPOES TO BE AT THEIR WAS A DRIVE BY SHOOTING AND MY FRIEND GOT KILLED. I STRAIGHTEN MYSELF OUT AFTER THAT. ALL IAM TRYING TO SAY IS KEEP TALKING TO HER AND LISTEN AND LOVING HER BUT GOD IS GOING TO HELP HER OUT HE WILL FIND A WAY. SHE IS REBELING BUT SHE WILL LEARN IT TAKE US DAUGHTERS TO MAKE OUR OWN MISTAKES TO LEARN. NOW IAM 22 YEARS OLD HAPPILY MARRIED HAVE 5 WONDERFUL CHILDREN AND NOW I KNOW AL MY MOM WAS TELLING MY WAS FOR MY OWN GOOD

Shelly - posted on 08/15/2009

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Brenda,

#1 Fear does not come from God...#2 This is were you need to have a strong faith that the Lord has her and knows what is going to happen...You need to lay sown your flesh as a mom and allow the Holy Spirit to take over within you...It's one of the hardest things as a mom b/c we seem to think that we can do it better b/c well we're MOM...You need to give her to the Lord and quit taking her back allow him to do what it is He needs to do in and through her...Pray Pray Pray every day all day and listen for that ever so small voice and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you through this thing we call parenting!!! I will keep you in my prayers

Brenda - posted on 08/14/2009

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Thank you all for your inspiration. It is very helpful in so many ways. I have turned her over to Him and I had a heart to heart with Him the other night. I trust that He has her and she may still choose wrongly, but I know that He is very merciful and if I continue to "practice what I preach" she will see how GREAT He is. I also know she already knows His love, mercy, and greatness and that she just wants to make her own mind up, so that is what I am gonna do. Step back, let go and let God take care of her.

Kaye - posted on 08/14/2009

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God's promise is that if we bring our children up in the way of the Lord, they will not depart from it. This is so powerful to me. Things may get worse before they get better, but God's promise is true and he will answer your prayers. Hold on to the truth and God will take care of the rest. i am a testimony to that......I got pregnant at 19, then married, but he has never left me. My husband and I have been married 10 yrs now and the foundations of Christ that i was raised on still hold true for me today.....and i continue to pass those down to my daughter........we have been blessed in so many ways, and God is faithful. So let go of your fear and spend time with the Lord.....the devil wants to plant doubt in your mind. If you do your part, then be sure that God will do his.

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sometimes we can't see how good God is until we see how bad we are. God is not too small for this nor is He blind to any of your daughters doings. He loves her, and now may be time for you do the one of the hardest things you'll ever do, and that is trust Him .committ her life to Him and let go. In your quiet time with Him pour your heart out knowing that He is in control. You have to allow him to take over so you can live in way that is pleasing to Him, and that also allows you to demenstrate who Jesus is by example. Don't let your fear get in the way of living a life filled with the fruit of the Spirit. You may the only Jesus she'll ever see.

I'll keep both of you in my prayers. Keep us posted. May the Lord bless you and keep you, may He shine his face opon you!!

Kelli - posted on 08/13/2009

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Wow. My step-daughter was in the same boat. She continued to make the wrong choices and became pregnant. The child was born earlier this year and has been adopted by a wonderful family. So I understand the fear. The bottom line is this though....God is good and in everything, He can use for His Glory. Your daughter and her problems are not too big for Him and He knows and sees everything. Continue to set healthy boundaries for her and trust that He will take care of her when she is away from you and pray, pray, pray. God Bless. I will continue to pray for all of you!

Satu - posted on 08/12/2009

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My babies are still little so I don't know what else to say than keep on praying. maybe you shoul also make sure that you and your daughter have some girly time together. Go shopping or to the movies, get your nails done or something else that you both find fun. It might remind you daughter that you care and that you will always be there and that mom is both fun and a parent. Lead by your own example, she will follow you when she is ready.

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