Should I feel guilty?

Shiloh - posted on 09/13/2010

Jenny just give your worries to God. The best thing you can do is just take care of yourself, and don't stress or worry. It would be great if you could find a support group for women who have had an abortion. Take care.

Carla - posted on 09/12/2010

Wonderful news, Jenny! We are praying for you and your little one!

God bless, honey!

Jenny - posted on 09/11/2010

ok he's doing pretty well. He's premature so it will take time before he gets home. But everything's going ok so far.

Gail - posted on 08/18/2010

Here are some verses from the Word of God that may be helpful. Forgot the exact references and they may not be perfectly word for word but you will get the idea.

"There is now no condemnation is Christ."

"Forgetting what lies behind and pressing forward to the prize of the high calling in Christ Jesus."

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. Acknowledge Him in all your ways and He shall direct your path."

Michelle - posted on 08/17/2010

Hi Jenny,

I found your post just today. I hope you are feeling better about your pregnancy and dealing with your fears constructively. Fear of the unknown is one of the greatest enemies of the unborn child -- after a child is aborted, the parents can never know what the natural outcome would have been. So, it appears as if the doctor has done the best for the mother.

Please get in touch with your nearest crisis pregnancy center (some are called abortion alternative centers). Their counselors can give you hope for your unborn baby, and even help your feelings of guilt and loss over the past.

My youngest daughter was conceived under difficult circumstances, so the doctor advised an immediate abortion. I fought for her life, instead. She was born only 3 weeks early and had no lasting problems. She is a 32 year old teacher now!

If you want to privately message me, that is ok.
Blessings for your honesty,
Michelle

Jane - posted on 08/14/2010

Jenny just saw your post looks like you have received a lot of good advice, Just wondering how you and your baby are doing now? If you have time please post again.

Carla - posted on 08/11/2010

Jenny, any updates?

Sam - posted on 08/11/2010

With God all things are possible! We can not earn God's forgiveness through anything we do, it is a free gift only waiting for you to accept. So don't feel guilty, It's satan who wants you to feel guilty. Jesus wants you to grab hold of him in faith that He will not give you any more than you can handle, and He promises to be with you every step of the way. I was tring to have children and we were lead to fostering children. Just when I found out I couldn't have children I found out we could adopt our foster child. My son is 9 now and better than any son I could have had myself. God sees the bigger picture. He never withholds from those that love Him.

Sarah - posted on 08/08/2010

So many encouraging comments. Our God is in control!!! That is for sure. And His report is the final report. God has a way of making miracles happen...All things are possible through Him! Praying for your miracle!

Donna - posted on 08/06/2010

jenny some women just have problems, i never had an abortion but because of problems, or should i say um permiscuas behavior at a young age i had female problems i no the most likely reason my son was born was because of this, but i also no if it had been ment for me to carry him to term i would have. i am a religious person and i believe God has a plan, and only he knows what that is. this baby picked you for his mom long before he was concieved. he new that whatever the future holds you would be able to handle it. hang in there

Candy - posted on 08/06/2010

God forgives all. Guilt is a emotin from the devil NOT GOD!! I will pray for you and your child.

Jill - posted on 08/05/2010

Jenny i had 2 abortions when i was young and had 3 children to term.... after that... do not take what the dr says as gold... God has a different plan for you and your baby.... God makes no mistakes...NONE!!!!!! and He does not hold it against you when you make mistakes!!!!!!! He forgives you so forgive yourself.... Guilt is from satan and he just wants you to suffer like he is gonna suffer in the end.... give your worries to God and have faith that God;s precious angel in your womb will be protected ,,,, remember God loved that little baby before you even got pregnant.... trust Him he will not fail you...

Leslie - posted on 08/04/2010

Jenny, I went into the hospital at 24 weeks because they were convinced that I'd never make it to term. my uterus was shortening already and I had gestational diabetes to the point I had to inject insulin before every meal and before bed. I was 38 years old with 2 previous C sections....you cannot get much more high risk. At 31 weeks they sent me home because nothing had happened. But I was on bed rest -- with 2 other kids to look after? yeah right. I felt my body was betraying me...or had I done something in the pregnancy to cause this? We hadn't planned this 3rd child...which is not to say we didn't want it....but was God maybe punishing me for those tough early days of the pregnancy. No....I know my God doesn't work that way. He was showing me the true desire of my heart. He doesn't punish His children like that.....God gives good gifts to His children. And He has given you a wonderful gift. And this gift is in His hands. That is what I kept hearing when I would pray in my lonely hospital room.....you are in my Hands. And we were....she arrived safe and sound at 38 weeks. But when I was in the hospital I toured the NICU and saw the preemies. And while heart-wrenching, it was amazing what they can do these days!! One newborn was just over 1 lb....but doing great. So you cannot lose Hope. You have to forgive yourself and stay strong for this baby. And remember....you are in His hands and they are strong and loving hands. My doctors couldn't believe that I made it....that the baby didn't come early...they couldn't understand anything about my case. They said it would be a miracle if the baby ever made it. See.. God does work in mysterious ways! Sometimes the world just needs a reminder that He is still in control.

Jamie - posted on 08/04/2010

Well, my brother and sister (who are twins) were born at 26 weeks. My brother weighed 1lb 13oz, and my sister weighed 1lb 9 oz. They were in the hospital for 3 months, but guess what... they are now 8 years old now!!!! They are healthy (never had any illnesses except for the common cold and chicken pox). They are super intelligent. They have both already skipped a grade. Eventhough the doctor's told my parents terrible stories and recommended abortion. Sure some preemies have problems, but not all. Pray to go to term and for a healthy child. God is more powerful then any statistic or doctor.

Carla - posted on 08/04/2010

Jenny, first of all, I had small babies, I was a small baby, and we were born just fine. Do not borrow trouble.

Abortion affects you far after the procedure is over. This is one of the parts they don't tell you about. Even if you felt you had no other choice, even if you were at peace with it at the time, the enormity of the act lingers. There are good Christian post-abortion agencies you can hook up with that will help you deal with your feelings. I urge you to find one.

Now, on to #2. If you have confessed this to the Father, and asked forgiveness, you are forgiven and clean. The problem is, we ourselves don't feel like we should be forgiven, and so we start beating ourselves up for God. We can't begin to conceive the fact that all we have to do is be truly sorry, and ask for forgiveness, and the slate is wiped clean. I know I beat myself up for years, til one day God said, in almost an audible voice, 'enough!' Satan uses the guilt as a club, to constantly beat us into feeling even more guilty, so we can't accept the wonderful gift of salvation. What I had to do was, when the guilt started creeping in say, 'oh no you don't! I am clean.' And I would have to say it 100 times a day, then 50 times a day, then 20 times, then 10, then 1, then it was gone! Satan doesn't want to let us go, so he tries as long as we will allow him access.

Put your baby in the Father's Hands, honey. He loves that child far more than you ever could. He will make sure he/she is born healthy. And, if you give Him your guilt, shame and hurt, He will make you healthy, too!

God bless, darling, keep us updated.

Cindy - posted on 08/04/2010

First of all, Have you asked for forgiveness from Our Awesome God? I feel like you have and remember that he has so you need to forgive yourself. The things done are in the past and you can not undo them so you need to move forward. Take good care of yourself and do what you need to do to carry the baby as long as you can. I had a son at 34 1/2 weeks and he is now 27 and has had no problems, other than being the goofy guy he is, but htat is another story. A friend of mine had a baby at 28 weeks and she is now going into 1st grade. Do not try and stress yourself out at this point over things that MIGHT happen. It does you no good and the baby no good. I know this is easier said than done. Remember also that God is in control and pray and ask him to hold you and your little onw growing in you in hi arms and to take care of you and to be with you no matter what happens.
I will be praying for you and your baby.

Shelley - posted on 08/04/2010

Jenny I'm so sorry that this is happening pray and god can lift those heavy burdons of guilt. My daughter was born at 36 weeks with no ailments some little babies do so well.