SAC - posted on 10/18/2011 ( 27 moms have responded )
I don't normally do this, but have come to a point where I am at a complete loss anymore.
I have been with my husband for almost 35 years and we will be ?celebrating? our 29th Anniversary in less than 2 months. The children are grown, though the youngest does still live here on our property (not inside our home). My challenge is this:
I have always done my best to be a non-nagging type of wife (I have seen so many run their husbands off) and make him feel warm and loved in his home. What I mean is, I showed him how much I loved him in the ways that he liked...hot meal on table when he got home, hug and kiss when he walked in the door, ran errands he needed run, baked and cooked from scratch, gave him huge birthday parties every year for his birthday that I spent months planning and preparing along with cooking for 3 days to a week getting ready because everything was homemade from scratch...I gave myself to this man heart and soul (except what I have always given God). We have raised 3 sons together while everyone else was becoming a blended family...we stood strong through the years.
My challenge comes where the TV is concerned...as much as I don't like the word...I have come to "hate" that TV and so often want to just smash it!!! It pulls my husbands attention so very far away from me that I feel as if I am walking through life alone with a "dummy" that sits on the couch. To his credit, he works very hard...I understand this, but when he is home, he watches TV. He will do yard work or help anyone who asks (except me). For the past several years, it has been a joke between my sons and me about their father's TV stare...he just gets so focused there and doesn't hear a word I say (or at times our sons either), but should someone come over he is at full attention. It absolutely breaks my heart! I have worked extremely hard for many years to have the best marriage I could and try to keep it alive for when the kids were grown. Now they are grown and I find I don't have much of a marriage...it belongs to the TV.
Yes, I have tried talking to him. I even left earlier this year and went through a reconciliation. It has been just a few months since I have returned and he again won't even go to a friend's home or out for a hamburger...he just stays focused on that..........TV!