Two of my children stopped believing in God.

Kenitra - posted on 09/02/2010 ( 129 moms have responded )

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I have a 25 year old daughter that stopped believing in God as a teenager, and now my 14 year old son just told us he didn't believe in God either. My 14 year old tells us that it is the people that do good things, and God has nothing to do with working through them. He also says he does not believe in the devil. The 25 year old could not have influenced the 14 year old. How do you handle that? How do you bring them back to God?

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Bev - posted on 03/22/2013

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Hi, in my experience you have to trust that the Lord loves your kids so much more than you do... I know that may sound weird. He is looking out for you children. There are promises in the Bible which tell us that our 'whole household will be saved', do a study to find these and stand on them. Cast the care of you kids onto the Lord because 'he does the caring for you.' Worrying about our kids means that we are not trusting them into God's hands. We as mums feel we have to worry about them, but actually worry can do nothing, instead lets allow God to work in their lives and to bring them to a place of faith in Jesus. I have seen this happen with my own children. When I take my hands off, God takes over. He has set up meetings in miraculous ways. An example, my son was waiting for the bus, the driver got out to stretch his legs, and struck up a convo with my son. Then he said, 'you know what you need? You need Jesus!' This had a profound effect on my son. He is not 'saved' yet, but I call him 'saved'. I believe he is saved and I act accordingly.Thanking God is the most powerful prayer we can say for our kids. My main point is.... Trust that the Lord is more than able to work in your kids lives! God bless you.

Terri - posted on 03/21/2013

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amen juliet Gods ways r not r ways trust his word pray every day and hold un2 his promises the devil trembles when Gods people pray so pray without ceasing 4 this is Gods will WHAT AN AMAZING GOD WE SERVE CREATE THE ATMOSPHERE WERE BREATHREN DWELL TOGETHER IN UNITY GOD COMMANDS THE BLESSINGX

Terri - posted on 03/21/2013

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Patricia just trust Gods word in Gods time he will bring r loved ones un2 himself he promised 2 save us and r household hold un2 the promises of God his word stands secure it has standed the test of time pray never give up prayer changes things i am living proof

Terri - posted on 03/21/2013

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amen Gods timing is perfect because he is a perfect God

Terri - posted on 03/21/2013

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scott all i can tell u is 1 day u will stayed be4 a mighty God who loved u so much he sent his 1 and only son 2 die on a cross 4 u and me what other king would leave his throne i just want 2 tell u the God who loves me loves u from the inside out there is nothing u could do 2 make him love u more and nothing u could do 2 make him love u less but if u leave this earth and havnt trusted in the finished work of christ u will go into a lost eternity which is hell but God and i would love u 2 be in heaven with him i am from Ireland belfast i was almost dead on life support 15per cent change of surveying but God performed a mordern day miracle God will not give up on u JESUS THE KING WHO LEFT HIS THRONE BECAUSE HE LOVES U SO MUCH TELL ME WHAT OTHER KING WOULD LEAVE HIS THRONEX

Terri - posted on 03/21/2013

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all the advice i can give u is prayer changes things if ur children has ask the Lord in2 the hearts at an early age hold on 2 Gods promises dont under estimate what r God can do nothing nothing is 2 difficult 4 r God it tells us in his word if we bring up a child in the way it should go when it is old it will not depart from it live it with God he hasnt left them God will bring them back 2 himself u could talk 2 u hav no words left believe me u just keep the faith live ur life bout be4 them dont talk the talk but walk the walk pray and pray more this is gods promise he will save us and r household hold on 2 the promises of God i live in northern ireland was born a roman catholic was born again 31 years ago my mum came 2 church 4 the first time on 17th of feb she passed away on 3/3/2013 believe God was working in her heart xkeep trusting him prayer changesthings keep praying all will be well God blessx

Carla - posted on 03/21/2013

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I hear you, Sarah, and my heart aches for you. Children can hurt you in ways you can't even imagine until you experience it yourself. It sounds so trite and flippant to say 'stop and pray', but prayer is the most effective tool you have. The God of the Universe loves us, just as He loves your son. Although your son thinks he is done with God, God isn't done with him! When I walked away, the Holy Spirit would come whisper in my ear 'Are you ready to come back yet?' I would say no, and He would leave--for a while, then come whisper again. Thankfully, I had the good sense to stop trying to do things myself and came running back, like the Prodigal Son.

Father, we pray for Sarah's son and all the sons and daughters who have decided Your ways are old and obsolete. We pray, Holy Spirit, that You wrap Yourself around them and take the blinders off their eyes so they can see You, the REAL YOU. We also ask for forgiveness. We have played church, embraced theories and doctrines that take our eyes off the Love You have for us and turn it inward, to please us. Teach us to mirror Jesus, and to just love--the world needs this. We ask for a blessing on all the mothers who are hurting today, give them the faith to believe even if they can't see it yet, the grace to go on, when we want to crawl into a hole and die, and the love to win the world to You. In Jesus' Name, amen.

God bless, baby, God's here.

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2013

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My son told me the same thing last night. I am so numb and have such grief it is difficult to function this morning. I feel for you. It feels like I am grieving for the death of a child, because even though He accepted Christ and was baptized when he was younger, he has chosen to not continue believing at all. Until last night, I thought my son with be with me into eternity.

Jana - posted on 03/21/2013

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When your children tell you they do not believe in God it is heartbreaking. This is time to pray without ceasing. Satan would love for you to be discouraged. Take your pressure off your kids, stop talking to them about this and pray. Learn to be a good listener. I know it is heartbreaking but you need to pray. When we pray, our God is working at that moment. His Holy Spirit is working. Satan hates that. So you need to pray more.

And for you in this situation. It is time for you to have the kind of faith that Moses had. Can you imagine running from enemy towards a sea? It sounds like a trap and a very helpless situation. It was helpless for the humans. But not for God. For he is Mighty and can do great things. Memorize Eph. 3 17-24. It is powerful. Whenever your minds goes to habitual thinking, go to that instead. I emphasize memorization. That way it is going through your mind all the time. It will help.

Yes, I have been through this and my son seemed far far away. He is back. I learned a lot during that time. Most of all he did not want me, mom, judging or talking to much. Yes I was worried and frusturated and did not trust God enough.

Carla - posted on 03/18/2013

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Tara, you can't see the wind, but it's there. You can't see oxygen, but it's there. God is every bit as real as these elements, HOWEVER, we all have free will to believe or not. I choose to believe, having seen 62 years of miracles in my life.

I taught my children about our Lord, and our son is now studying to become a minister and our daughter is teaching her children. They both went through periods where they had to try out the world, but came back, after seeing the world can't compare to Jesus.

So before you decide God isn't real, try contacting Him. Talk to Him just like you did with us in your post. 'God, I am searching for Truth. If You are real, speak to me'. We are ALL looking for Truth, Tara. There is a God-shaped hole within our consciousness, and until that hole is filled, we are empty and alone. Lots of people haven't believed, but have been shown God through the love of His people. I hope and pray you find what you are missing.

God bless

Tara - posted on 03/17/2013

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God is a manmade , man made god up to explain the unexplainable , do you really think there's a man up in space looking down at us? No it's all based on faith , and a book written by men , not god if my parents told me that a giant monster lived in the sky made the world I would believe them and tell my kids does it mean it's real ? No that's like god can someone show me proof

Tara - posted on 03/17/2013

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I wouldn't do any thing , god is a man made idea , and we only believe because our parents tell us that god is real and teach us how the world was made and these stories , but these are lies and if were taught and told it's real then it's real to us , but doesn't mean it real let them make there own mind up , or show them god is real somehow

Jana - posted on 03/11/2013

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Jo
You sound like an angry person. I want to let you know that you are loved by God, through Jesus Christ, the son of God. John 3:16, if you choose to go there, will tell you how you too can have eternal life.

I would love to loving hear why you are so angry. I am praying that through these postings, you will have a heart change.

Jana - posted on 03/11/2013

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Be the parent you want your child to be. They will come around I am in the same position with my 17 yr old son. I want his faith to be HIS once he decides to come back to God.

Carla - posted on 03/05/2013

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I am not sure who Jo is directing his/her attack at, but I have reported him/her.

We pray for you, Jo, that the love that Jesus has to give to ALL people will find a way into your heart.

God bless

Jo - posted on 03/04/2013

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You are a psychotic bitch. Of course your son has an option of whether or not he believes in fictitious beings invented to rationalize and control stupid humans.

Jo - posted on 03/04/2013

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You praise your Great Imaginary Being that you somehow managed to raise 2 intelligent children, and stop trying to force your stupidity upon them.

Jana - posted on 12/12/2012

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I am praying dear Lord that B,T and K claim you as their Lord and Savior. That you would bring others into their lives that will show them and point them towards you. Help the adults in their lives not get in the way, but to support and love their children. Help them be Godly parents. Give these kids a place with their parents where they do not feel judged, but where they can share their hearts. Help mom and dad to bit their tongues if their responses are not from you.

Have mercy on these hearts oh God. Forgive them. Keep them safe and from evil. Help them remember that you are their God. You love them. I love reading Eph 4 17 through 21 over my Kids. Whenever I think of the scope of God's plan, I fall to my knees and pray to the Father, Creator of Heaven and Earth. I pray that His glorious, unlimited resources move through BT and K and that mighty inner strength move into these kids through your H.S. And I pray through Jesus their hearts would learn to trust Jesus more and more.

Convict their hearts and help them in their own spirit be close to you this Christmas and always.





Amen

Jana - posted on 12/11/2012

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Did your children every believe with their hearts?

Jana - posted on 12/11/2012

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I will do just that. I have been through this. It helped me to memorize scripture. My favorite is Eph. 4 17 through 24. It starts with Whenever I think if the scope of God's plan, I fall to my knees and pray to the father, creator of heaven and earth. It goes on.



My mind goes to habit of dwelling on hard things. This scripture, I turn to every time I do that. God has helped me separate joy from trouble and worry, which is not of Him.



I hope this helps you deal with all this. Yes, I will pray for your children and definitely for you.



Jana

Lisa - posted on 12/11/2012

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I SO needed this, thank you!

Lisa - posted on 12/11/2012

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I SO needed this, thank you!

Julie - posted on 11/02/2012

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Are you a single Mom?



That will do it - our first picture of God is through our Dad...



Pray for your childen and love them.



Watch t.v. programs on Sunday mornings that show people giving testimonials - not about money blessings, but real live miracles.



Spend time with your chidlrena nd do no tjudge them for their storm they are growing through.



Pray God brings them another teen/24 yr. old that will be an influence on their lives - He will.



♥ LOVE THEM!

Carla - posted on 11/01/2012

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Father, we bring Judi's children, Brandon, Tobias and Kylie before Your face. You said 'put Me in remembrance', and so we do. Judi's heart is broken over her children, and is crying to You for help. This is exactly what You told us to do! We know You have them in the palm of Your hand, and that You love them way more than Judi does. So, give Judi that wild, crazy faith to believe when she doesn't see change, to know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that You WILL bring them back to You, then peace to rest in, knowing You do ALL things perfectly. We thank You in advance, knowing You already are working. In Jesus' Name, amen.

Judi - posted on 10/31/2012

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Jana......please pay for Brendon, Tobias, Kylie

Jana - posted on 10/31/2012

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Another thought, lets all pray. Where two or more come together, things happen. Can you list their first names only on this site? I don't know. I will put their names, or use initials, on my desk and remember to pray. Anyone game? Let's see what God does to encourage our sister. Jana

Jana - posted on 10/31/2012

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My son, in his 30's fell away from God. I hounded heaven with prayer. I asked God in so many ways to have mercy on him. He came back a year ago. I do believe that if they once had their salvation, they will come back. It is important to not bring it up constantly. Allow your words to matter. Develop mutual respect with your children so the care about what you think. Do not condemn them, but PRAY!!!



I will pray with you.



Jana

Kimberlee - posted on 10/30/2012

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Why do you think it's not possible that the adult child influenced the 14 year old ? - Just curious.

Kimberlee - posted on 10/30/2012

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I would be proud that I was raising intelligent children who question things .

Stephanie - posted on 10/23/2012

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Their hearts are seeking for God if they know it or not. Every person is looking for the one thing that can ground them to the all healing arms of God. we all are longing for Him. .. my advice is be the devoted Christian woman and wife You can be. And do not hide Your sins(or deny them to Your children) for a lie from a believer is more powerful and hurtful then from a nonbeliever. and Your children do not need that. .. Don't push them to go to church.(tho do encourage them to when they are not living on their own) for on a nonbeliever church is worthless and cant be more harmful then to just talk to Christians out side of a over powering presence of worshiping believers .. Everything is out of our timing and wishes and hopes but in God's hopes and wishes for us. .. God cares greatly for You two babes. But longs for You to be a even more divoted in being true to Him and not longing after Your children. God has work for You to do and some times that does mean You(anyone with chidlren who are still seeking) to take a step back and let His voice call out with out a word from you. ..

I sure hope You find comfort in God's arms tonight and that You can be a wonderful insightful mother in all things that Your children come to You for. *hug* i will keep praying with You. i know some of what You are going threw tho it is not my child but my sister that i worry a bout.

Chris - posted on 10/22/2012

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You don't. Unless you do not care about the truth. Or, at least, do not care (not proud) that your children are honestly discovering the world around them. It's called an education. After all, they are growing up. Just like you did. But, if you HONESTLY wanted to "bring them back" then do your homework. Do not try to sell them on fable and guilt. Why not find out the history of the bible. Where did it come from? Not the bible told me so history either. How did the book come about? Now you might just say you know. Is what you know what you have been told? Or, base it on a funny feeling you have inside calling it the truth or real? Not good enough.



Remember, the world is not flat, we are not the center of the universe and Thor does not make lightning. How do we know this? Through HONEST discovery and being honest with ourselves.



You expect your children to study, learn facts to better themselves and their future. Preparing them best. But, you feel the need to redirect them with information that is ONLY founded on blind faith and a desire to believe. How many times have you told your child that they might not like a decision you have made but like it or not. It is truth and fact at least I hope you do not lie to get your way. Like teaching them the importance of crossing at the green. It was not a gut feeling but through observation that you learned the safest place to cross.



You deny this SIMPLE understanding to your children when you want them to believe just because you do. I find that doing more harm then good. How about trying to see their perspective. YOU MIGHT LEARN SOMETHING. Look up Bart D. Eharman. It is a good place to start. Unless you just want your children to never learn more then you have and to just understand what you blindly follow and think you know. Your children are our future too. Not our past.

Erin - posted on 10/11/2012

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They're growing up into a more evolved mindset don't try to force your faith on them they'll just resent you more..I told my parents at a very young age right when I began sunday school but I don't think they took me seriously til my 20s. Yes I've read the bible repeatedly and studied theology in school...before you ask. Please don't waste your prayers on me either which studies have shown have no better results than chance outcomes. If you think you have a hotline to a divine all powerful entity them pray for those that need it the most such as ... the starving ill masses in the world, children who suffer abuses and are killed or taken or lost everyday. I can't wait to share the history of religion worldwide with my son, read the bible with him without cherry picking out the horrors and hypocrisy. I hope your children find a path of peace and enlightenment that they can share with you someday and you will listen and not just close your eyes and ears in fear as so many christians do.

Carla - posted on 10/05/2012

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Carla you are so fucking stupid, I am going to report ever single one of your answers from now on, and I have like 50 accounts so you LOSE. HAHHAHAHAHAHA you cannot win, I am much smarter than you are.

Angela - posted on 09/30/2012

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Moderators needed desperately on Christian Moms!

StraightJesus - posted on 09/27/2012

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DON'T BELIEVE THE SOUTHERN FUCKING INBRED HICK THAT POSTED BEFORE. JESUS LOVES ALL HIS NORTHERN CHILDREN AND HATES THE RETARDED HILLBILLIES LIVING IN THE SOUTH. GOD HATES YOU AND LOVES THE GAYS AND NEGRO KIND. FUCK YOU WHITE TRAILER TRASH CONSERVATIVE BITCH. YOU WILL NOT ENTER THE KINGDOM OF HEAVAN BECAUSE YOU LIVE IN THE SOUTH.

GayJesus - posted on 09/27/2012

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THE SOUTH WILL RIZE AGAIN. THE FUCKIN NORTHERN NIGGER LOVING HOMOSEXUAL FAGGOTS WHO DON'T BELIEVE IN JESUS ARE JUST SPREADING THEIR SCIENCE BASED LIES . PRAISE THE WHITE LORD WHO CREATED HEAVAN AND EARTH AND ALL THESE SMART MINDED CHRISTIAN WOMEN WHO ARE REBUKING THE EVIL SATANIST CHILDREN WHO ARE HACKING THIS SECURE WEBSITE WITH THEIR DEMON GRANTED POWERS.

Patricia - posted on 09/27/2012

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Thank you and God Bless you!

N - posted on 09/27/2012

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JUDAS VERSE 17-23... THAT IS FOR THE 2 LOST CHILDS WHO WROTE IN THIS POST. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND HOPEFULLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT SAYS. I ONLY HAVE A SPANISH BIBLE SO CANNOT WRITE WHAT IT SAYS IN ENGLISH BUT IF ANYONE CARES TO WRITE IT DOWN IT WOULD BE HELPFULL. THE BOOK IS THE ONE RIGHT BEFORE THE BOOK OF REVELATIONS. THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS AGAIN!!!

N - posted on 09/27/2012

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PRAYERS!!!! IF HE SAYS THAT GOD HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WORKING THROUGH THEM, IN A FUTURE (HOPEFULLY NOT TOO LONG FROM NOW) HE WILL SEE THAT THROUGH YOUR UNSTOPPED PRAYERS HE CAME BACK HUMBLED TO GOD'S FEET. MY BROTHER IS NOW 18 AND ABOUT A YEAR AGO HE SAID THE SAME THING. HE EVEN DARED TO SAY THAT HE WAS A GOD. MY PARENTS ARE PASTORS AND MY DAD KIND OF FORCED US TO GO TO CHURCH WHEN WE WERE ALL YOUNG AND WHEN WE GOT TO TEENAGE YEARS WE GOT OF THE PATH OF JESUSCHRIST. I CAME BACK AND SO DID 2 BROTHERS AND 1 SISTER. WE ARE PRAYING FOR MY OTHER BROTHERS AND SISTER TO COME BACK. ANYWAYS ABOUT MY BROTHER, BECAUSE OF OUR PRAYERS AND GOD WORKING THROUGH HIM, HE NOW READS THE BIBLE AND IS VERY CURIUS ABOUT GOD'S THINGS. HE EVEN STOPPED SAYING THAT HE WAS A GOD.. THE POINT IS JUST PRAY, PRAY, PRAY. I WILL KEEP YOUR SON AND YOUR DAUGHTER AND YOU IN MY PRAYERS. MAY GOD ANWSER YOUR PRAYERS AND MAY HE BLESS YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES ALWAYS.

Cud Chewing - posted on 09/22/2012

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Oh noes! I am haxoring this website by clicking the post reply button and then giving a fake email address. That is some high tech genius shit right there. It is far more complicated process than most creationists can comprehend, I know. Your God cannot stop me. MUHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Carla - posted on 09/22/2012

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Giordi--I will add your name to the list of children who are lost. There is a freedom in Jesus that you know nothing about. Rather than being 'repressive and ignorant', His ways bring wisdom and joy. There is a God-shaped hole in your heart, Giordi, that only God can fill. Does spending your time on Christian sites, mocking and laughing bring you peace? What about in the middle of the night when you are awoken and the fears creep in? We, as Christians, know we can call to the Father, and He comforts us.



Father, I ask for Giordi and all the other kids that have been hacking our sites lately, that You whisper Your love in their ears. I pray You show them that getting to know You and developing a loving relationship with You is the greatest thing they could ever do. I pray You speak the Words of Life that will turn their worlds upside down. In Jesus' Name, amen.



I am asking God's blessing on your life, Giordi, you ARE loved.

Giordi - posted on 09/21/2012

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Be glad that your children have gained critical thinking skills. It should be the wish of every parent that their children live a better life than they had, and your children dumping a repressive and ignorant set of beliefs that have pretty much been scientifically and historically disproven at this point will surely lead them to having a better life than you had.

Patricia - posted on 09/20/2012

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Merry sorry to heard about this.. My prayers goes to you, your son and your fmily. I hope he will realize that God is great! Blessings and all the best to you'll.

Merry - posted on 09/19/2012

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http://www.answersingenesis.org has tons of help for people looking for answers to the worlds attack on Christianity. There are books and articles to build our understanding of what we believe. My son is also living anti- Christ. He is posting satanic things on his facebook and listens to horrible metal music, he drinks and smokes and thinks he can do whatever he wants without fear of hell. He acts like Satan is cool. I am worried for him and I pray for him all the time that he will come back to Christ. He did once claim to be saved. I am not sure he was, he may of been doing it to please us. But, I am sure Jesus will forgive him if he does repent someday. Until then, I am trying to learn all I can to teach him the truth about sin without attacking him as a person. I only want to be able to build a strong defense for Christ. If I am not able to explain why I believe what I believe I am weak and cannot be a good witness. I must be able to defend Christ against what the world is teaching. Please pray for me that I can be the example Christ wants me to be until the time comes that my son will see his ways are wicked and repent and be saved if he has not already done so.

Patricia - posted on 09/13/2012

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I agree Carla what you say! thanks.

Carla - posted on 09/12/2012

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"Focus on something more important"? More important than our children's salvation and eternity? For a Christian mother, there is NO more important matter! We spend our lives teaching our children to love God, to love their neighbors as themselves, to be good, Godly citizens and fathers and mothers.



I see from your profile that this is the only community you have joined, and, indeed, this is the first comment you have made. If you are looking for good, Godly advice, relationships with a great bunch of women or have something edifying to add, please feel free. If, however, you are part of the hacking that's been going on today, I pray you stop. We believe in Jesus, and nothing you say changes any of that.



If you ARE a mother, I am praying you will understand the awesome responsibility you have been given, and then take it very, very seriously. If you aren't, I pray God speak to your heart and find the love that fits in that God-shaped hole in your heart. He's waiting for you!



God bless

Patricia - posted on 09/12/2012

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Thank you Juliet for your kind words too! God Bless you! and believe me I pray every day and I am sure my daughter soon or later will believe in God!

Patricia - posted on 09/12/2012

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Thank you Judy for your kind words. you are so right when you say our job as parent is to raise a good person no more words only thank you again and God Bless you!

Juliet - posted on 09/12/2012

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Have faith,and keep praying for them.It is God time not ours and the Lord will never forsaken them. The Lord will always walk with them no matter what.He loves us and I know God hears our prayers and our cries for them. Keep your head up because you serve a Great God! Our problem looks big but God is bigger.God Bless,and soon you will see your children walk in the Lord.

Judi - posted on 09/11/2012

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Candice, that comment says to me that you are possibly not a Mother. It is a Mothers job as a parent to shape a child's thinking, behaviour....we do it everyday from birth. Some do it with the highest and most noblest of hearts. To mould their child to be kind, generous, considerate, unselfish, humble, gentle community minded, compassionate..etc etc. Who btw are also taught to think for them selves, but not to always want to take or to be about just them. These parents teach their child to be independent and give back to society forthe greater good of ALL mankind.

Others, unfortunately, who posses none of the above qualities mould their children to be selfish, self centred, disloyal, unkind, aggressive, rude, takers....not givers, resentful and jealous people who thinks the world owes them the kind of life they believe they deserve.

Your comment makes a very obvious statement about who you are and what side ofmthe fence you choose to sit on.

You should really try sitting genuinely on the other side. Read the BIBLE...I challenge you. Sit on our side ofmthe fence and do it before you have children, because your children deserve a better life, a better parent than your comment says about you. No disrespect is meant. You made the statement, I'm just commenting on what I see. BY THEIR FRUIT YOU SHALL KNOW THEM. The FRUIT of your words are obvious.