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Under-appreciated....Who am I working For Anyway?

Dawn - posted on 04/12/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Who am I working for anyway?
Today was a very busy day for me. I went through my husbands entire wardrobe to get rid of things he and I both know he will never wear but doesn't have the time to purge because it is not very high on his priority to have a wardrobe free of clutter; that's one of my pet peeves not his. Anyway besides that I cleaned a couple of our bathrooms and washed windows and ceiling fans and vacuumed our bedrooms along with washing about 6 loads of laundry and cooking a very yummy healthy dinner for my family, coordinating the girls entry from school with snacks, homework and chores.... In the middle of all that I paused for a moment to recognize the fact that I was not upset as I would have been only a few months ago at the fact I was working so intensely knowing that I would not get the thank you or level of appreciation I felt matched the amount of sheer grit I had to put in. In that moment of thought I asked myself the question, "who am I working for anyway".

What was it that made me so upset in the past about doing something I love to do anyway. I'm an organizer, I love overhauling things so a lot of work is nothing for me. My mind goes into high gear, I shift into get-it-done and get-out-of-my-way mode, and when the work is done I feel a huge sense of satisfaction for a job well done. I know it won't stay that way and that I'll have to repeat the cycle again (hopefully not the closet cause my husband has a ridiculous amount of clothes for a man. I like to tell him that he really loves himself (smile).)

I realized in that moment of reflection the reason I'm not upset is because I've come to the realization that what I do and the way I do things is because I've learned to do everything as unto the Lord. When my focus is pleasing the Lord it takes all the pressure off my family to appreciate what I've done. It takes all the sting out of them missing the opportunity to recognize the beautiful results of my hard work. Don't get me wrong, they have their moments to love on me and show me they care. I'm just pressing the point that even if they never did again I'd be OK with what I do because in the end I know that I'm pleased and the Lord is pleased. Nothing else really should matter so much as to take away that joy from my life. ~ Dawn

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Dawn - posted on 04/22/2012

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I'm trying to talk my husband into someone helping out once and a while. I like overhauling, but every day repetition isn't my cup of tea.

Lori - posted on 04/20/2012

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You are totally right! You have done all things as unto the Lord and He is the rewarder (is that a word?!) of all of your efforts. Praise the Lord for your organizational gifting! We should all have that one!!



lori



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Angela - posted on 04/15/2012

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We have a cleaning lady who is very good. We both hate housework so it's money well-spent!

We're both quite ill at the moment. We phoned her to come & walk our dog for us and she did so.

We pay her and thank her every time she comes to clean our house.

As much as the Lord appreciates her for doing her job, it doesn't hurt for US to tell her so as well.

Misty - posted on 04/13/2012

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Thank you Dawn for the reminder. I forget that some times.

Carla - posted on 04/13/2012

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Dawn, you are very blessed. Most women work their entire lives without figuring this out, and, as a result, go through life angry. I went through most of our lives on a slow simmer--how come my husband can't clean up after himself? Why do the kids' rooms look like a tornado just went through them, and what IS that smell? My husband could care less if his closet is organized or not--he just cares if he can find his Michigan State Spartans sweatshirt when he wants it ;) I finally just washed, dried and folded the children's clothes and put them on the stairs, and by-passed their bedrooms and bathroom altogether. The amount of stress this relieved was immense! If the clothes they brought downstairs were still folded, I put them back on the stairs to be put away again, hopefully ;)



I would get very angry when I spent Saturday morning cleaning, mopping, dusting, only to have it look trashed in a couple hours. We had 3 children, and at any given time had 4-15 for dinner (our kids collected strays ;)). How on earth would I think, with having all these teens in the house, that it would stay clean? When we come to the conclusion that it WON'T stay clean, it WON'T look like House Beautiful, our peace comes, and it's okay if it's a little messy.



God, or our husbands, for that matter, doesn't care if our house is clutter-free, He cares about how our family and their friends feel when they walk in. A house well lived-in is a happy house. Glad you learned that so young--your mental health and spiritual well being will prosper in this atmosphere.



God bless, honey!

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