We don't celebrate Halloween in our home but our kids are exposed to it at school and on TV; How have you non-celebrating parents handled this issue with your kids?
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Katherine - posted on 11/02/2011
I have 2 daughters: a 3 year old and a 4 1/2 year old. They started saying "Boo Halloween" and acting like ghosts because they would see the commercials on TV. I told them we don't celebrate Halloween. And I told them that there's someone called the Devil who is bad, and on that day that's when some people have a party for him. But we don't celebrate that because God doesn't like it. We celebrate harvest time and that's why we took them apple picking. And they asked me if pumpkins were bad and I explained to them that pumpkins are not bad. They're good because God made them. It's when they are used for Halloween that is not good. At our church, we have a harvest celebration and all the children received goodie bags. So, my kids did not miss out on anything. And when my 3 year old went to the doctor a few days before Halloween, the doctor asked her what she was going to be for Halloween. My daughter said "Halloween is ugly." So, in her way, she understood. Now is the time to teach and instruct our children. I believe we should educate them on this and explain it to them at their level, rather than ignore it and make believe it doesn't exist. Hope I was helpful! :)
Linda - posted on 10/11/2011
I do tell them the origins. I think it is usually appropriate to give a reason for our actions, if possible. Satan is a very real person and children need to know there is evil in the world. However, I would always balance that that with the knowledge that greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world.
Linda - posted on 11/04/2011
This post was addressed to non-celebrating parents. We understand that some of you find no harm in this holiday. I do not judge you--I have many dear Christian friends who celebrate it. However, for me, I cannot justify to myself celebrating a day which glorifies evil and Satan...and also which minimizes the danger they pose to the world. When I was a child, my parents took me out, and we enjoyed the day getting candy. However, today I feel the situation has changed. Wicca is one of the fastest growing religions in this country. People in America regularly participate in occultic practices such as Ouji boards and fortune telling. We do not fear the devil, for greater is he who is in us than he who is in the world....however, we should not miminize him either has he is a very real threat. Each one should be convinced in his own mind as to how to celebrate/or not to celebrate.
Marlene - posted on 10/06/2012
I really like your respond to this topic. I have a 5 year old girl. We have not celebrated Halloween. Now she is in school and unfortunately, they are talking about it and planning to celebrate it. It is hard to be firm in your beliefs when the rest of people say it is o.k. I don't want my daughter to feel left out. And I am trying to explain to her that she understands even when people say "it is o.k" It wasn;t bad before and she accepted it well cause she wasn't at school, but now in kindergarten; everybody makes plans for it. I am cinsidering not sending her to school since they are planning a field trip to a halloween house and a movie. I even asked if I could be there so I could what is going on and explained to her, however; the teacher told me parents can not attend. One thing is for sure, I feel strongly about not participating in it cause I want to pleased the Lord and not the rest of the world. Thank you. Blessings.
Marilla - posted on 06/14/2014
My daughter is an only child, and we have never celebrated halloween. When she was younger, we had no problem keeping her home and watching movies. Halloween was simply an annoyance to her, as the doorbell kept interrupting our activities. But now that she is older, (12) all of her friends are trick or treating together, and she has been invited to that and a party, but she feels very left out since she cant go. She udnerstands why, but she is still very upset that she cant "at least trick or treat just to hang out". I have tried to find something fun we can do, but since all of her friends will be celebrating we cant invite any over, and we cant even leave the house without being engulfed in the holiday. Any suggestions??
Kim - posted on 10/28/2013
Marlene, your post is exactly the same as what mine would be! I have the same issue. We are also in GA. I can not find one family with small ones who doesn't celebrate Halloween. My son's class is going trick or treating in the small town the actual day (thursday oct. 31)in costumes. My hubby snd I have decided to keep him home that day. My convictions are strongly black and white in this area. I feel I can not ignore them and "just go with society". My question is "did you write an excuse note to keep her home"? I don't want to make a big deal. It is just our personal convictions. The laws are there for pulling our children out for religious events but just wondering about exemptions from school activities. Thanks, Kim
Marlene - posted on 10/29/2012
Hello Jamie and Linda, I appreciate your responses. It has been hard for us as (at least here in GA) I have not met a family who doesn't celebrate it. This is the reason I looked online: to find if there was another mom who feels the same way in regards this topic. I thought it was just us. Since even some churches are celebrating their "fall festival" on october 31st doing basically the same that the rest of people.
I have been praying a lot about this situation. I understand what you are going through. My daughter tells me Halloween is the topic in every class and subject she has been during this month. It is ridiculous....and of course, the teachers even asking her "what are you going to be on Halloween?" like if that is a MUST. She told me that last week one teacher said she "had to write a Halloween story" She said "mommy the teacher said I have to" As in..... I had no other option. My girl told me: Mommy they said "I have to dress up for halloween" . I told her "you don't have to", but I sure understand that it can be confusing. Since we are sending her to the school; she knows we are trusting this school for our daughter's education and she is thinking that she has to do as they said. So I had to explained to her that we stand for what God has put in our hearts to do in regards this topic. We have to be brave and stand our grounds even when others may think we are weird. We love God and want to please Him. He has giving us the blessing of being parents and I feel strong about obeying His word when it says "train your child in the way he/ she should go"
I have talked to her about it and read the book "Mommy, Why we don't celebrate Halloween?" again. I explained to her the plans her school has on October 31st. We agreed it is better to be home and avoid all that. We will be playing and doing some good activities that she enjoys. God is good and as concern I was about her reaction to not participating ..."since people sell the idea that it is fun"....I found she understood that better than I thought. She is clear she wants to please God not people or their ways. I sure told her to be respecful of other people's ideas or thinking too. I know it can be hard for them as their classmates are doing the opposite. Even for me as an adult, it has been difficult to decline invitations of friends, since I don't want to hurt feelings or make people feel I am judgmental on their choices. I sure love them; I just don't want to participate on Halloween activities.
I recently had PTC and we explained to the teacher we don't celebrate Halloween. Hopefully it will help them to be more sensitive about what they do with their students. I think having good communication with the teacher can help our children. God Bless you and we will keep praying for you and you families!
Linda - posted on 10/29/2012
Jamie, perhaps you could talk to the teacher and tell her how upset your son is. Maybe he can spend some time in the library or an alternate activity if the class is going to be working on halloween things. Or maybe you could just keep him home for a couple of days. That shouldn't hurt too much in kindergarten. If you work, could he spend time with a friend, or grandma?
Jamie - posted on 10/28/2012
This is an especially difficult time for my family as well.My 5 year old knows why we don't celebrate halloween , and came home from school practically in tears because of all the Halloween garbage that is bombarded at these kids this month.He said "why do all my friends like this scary stuff!?!..Uggh it's so hard, I wish I could homeschool, but thats just not an option for us right now.I just tell him that if he ever feels uncomfortable to just ask to sit by himself until the;re done with the activity.
Teresa - posted on 11/03/2011
Halloween, now, in this day and age, is about kids dressing up and going trick or treating. They aren't taught that it is actually all Hallow's eve which is followed by all saint's day and then all soul's day. Kids see it as a time to dress up and have fun. The candy isn't relly all important. There is nothing wrong in dressing up, they do that any other day.
Cyndel - posted on 10/20/2011
We don't celebrate it...I do however enjoy raiding the racks for costumes on sale afterwards...I do believe in make believe and dress up for boys or girls and the buzz outfits or other super heroes etc are super cheep right after halloween.
As of right now we don't have to worry about it, Gabriel doesn't notice and we don't go anywhere on Halloween so he doesn't realize what is going on. Next year though we will have to explain where halloween came from and why we don't celebrate it, we'll do something special at home.
User - posted on 10/15/2011
OMG THIS IS TOO FUNNY!!!!
We did not do halloween until my daughter was 6 years old and her little brother. We have never really been halloween fans either but MaKayla was feeling left out so I decieded to go ahead and do the halloween (trick or treating and all the decorating) but they can't can't there bad stuff only good like this year she will be dorthey from wizard of ozz and Joshua will a racecar driver or something like that. Anyways I felt like they are getting older I don't want them to feel left out while all the other kids are having fun. As long as they know the rules then it should be fun. I feel like they are only kid once so why not let them be a kid and have fun.
Krys - posted on 10/15/2011
In our home we do not celebrate halloween eitheir. Although we do love the fall..and we attend fall festivals..and my child has always excepted this..i get alot of flack from my family but my child is now 12...and hes done okay with it:-) hope that helps:)
Linda - posted on 10/12/2011
Tammy, I would recommend a book which will explain it on his level. http://www.christianbook.com/mommy-why-d...
You can read this with him and answer his questions. You never want your kids to feel like Christians don't have any fun....but I think it's important to explain to them why we don't do certain things, whether it's Halloween, or certain movies, or music or whatever. Unfortunately, we are living in a post-Christian culture, and much of what goes on in our culture is contrary to what God teaches in his Word.
Tammy - posted on 10/12/2011
Linda, My teenage son has read up on the holiday and understands the why of not celebrating the holiday. It's my younger two that concern me. They attend public school and I've asked the teacher to give them alternately themed worksheets/activities that don't involve witches, ghosts, etc that are usually done in classrooms around that time. But my kindergartener wants to know why and I don't want to freak her out. She feels she's missing out on the fun that the other kids are having. But, there's no classroom celebration, so that's good. I also try to have candy for them that night as well and we watch a movie together. Thanks for your reply.
Tammy - posted on 10/11/2011
I appreciate all your replies. I guess I was wondering how much of the origins of the holiday do you tell them so they know why you don't celebrate it as opposed to just mommy saying we can't. I don't want to scare them, but I want them to understand a little bit about why we made the decision not to celebrate it.
Tina - posted on 10/10/2011
We celebrate FALL and the changes around us from summer into Fall. I take the kids out that weekend to collect colored leaves, sticks, decorate happy face pumpkins. We decorate our door and windows with nature. The day of we just stay in doors as a family and watch our fav movies with smores.
Julie - posted on 10/08/2011
We explain why we don't celebrate, and they accept that. We play dress up all year, and do candy treats as well. I have handed out tracts and candy from time to time. Now our church is throwing a Halloween party for the preschoolers...we are going and everyone in the famil is having fun with it. I grew up doing it, never thought it was much of a big deal spiritlly.
Angela - posted on 10/04/2011
It's only in recent years that Halloween has gained in popularity in the UK. We always had "trick or treat" and kids would be going out every night for a week or more leading up to Halloween in order to accumulate as many "treats" as possible. Very wearing for the adults in the neighbourhood - and in the UK children are more expectant of MONEY than candy. Only in recent years have children (and adults) been dressing up for Halloween though - it was rarely seen a few years ago.
I remember my Church having a party on Halloween night for the children. NOT a Halloween party but just something to keep children happy and discourage Halloween activities. One well-meaning mother that wasn't a Christian sent her son along to the party with a pumpkin lantern!
The reason Halloween wasn't especially popular in the UK was that we have Guy Fawkes night falling very close to Halloween on 5th November. This brings with it firework displays, bonfires and lots of food & drink similar to that enjoyed at Halloween (toffee apples, mulled wine, spiced fruit punch, jacket potatoes etc ...) Because Guy Fawkes was a Roman Catholic who was put to death for his "treason" it's been suggested that celebrating November 5th is offensive to Catholics. However, many Britons (regardless of ANY religious affiliations) now prefer to say they're celebrating the only person who ever went into the Houses of Parliament with "honest intentions"! LOL!!
Many "events" on the calendar are business opportunities. After summer and harvest, the next marketing initiatives to present themselves in the UK are Halloween and Guy Fawkes night - once they're over with it's Christmas which is the biggest money spinner of them all.
The celebration of Halloween doesn't interest me at all. However I've noticed that it is now at least as popular with adults as it is with children here.
The only time of year you see pumpkins on regular sale in the UK is during the last half of October. The day after Halloween, any leftover pumpkins in the fruit and veg stores are sold for next-to-nothing.
I'll be grabbing myself a few bargains on 1st November! LOL!!
Linda - posted on 10/03/2011
We homeschool, so school is not an issue for us--however, it is everywhere. We usually ignore it. If there is a church program that night, we will go to that. Sometimes, we go over a friend's house. A few years we have stayed home and handed out candy along with tracts. My kids understand why we do not celebrate it. I always made sure that I gave them a candy stash around that time so they were not missing out on goodies.
Hope - posted on 09/30/2011
Speaking for my husband, who was brought up not celebrating halloween- his family simply didn't celebrate it at all. Decorations were for fall- Thanksgiving instead. I was brought up celebrating the holiday. We live in an area where it really isn't celebrated as much as it use to be. Some churches have fall festivals for families as an alternative. Depending upon where you live, you could celebrate fall-season instead of halloween with: hayrides; apple orchards; corn mazes or renaissance/fall festivals. We are hoping to go to a renaissance festival to see jousting. :)
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