What about mom's of sons in the military? How do you trust God & not worry?

Shelly - posted on 04/06/2010

Tami,

The way I get through it is I have to remind myself that no matter what happens he will be going home..I would feel better if I knew for sure he was coming home to us, but if something happened while he is deployed to Afganistan then I know he will be going home to our Father...And alot of prayer from friends and family!!!

Carla - posted on 04/06/2010

Bookmark your Bible on Psalm 91 and read it over and over and over. 'A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee.' If he is saved, have him read Ephesians 6, where Paul is telling us to put on the whole armor of God; we do this every morning.



Being a mom is rough, isn't it? You always have concerns over your children; but you can have peace, knowing that as your child he has special rights. The OT talks about your salvation being passed down to generations, which includes your child. If you taught him the best you can, he will trust Jesus to protect him, too. Good luck, and God bless, sweetie.

Roxane - posted on 03/26/2010

Lord i pray that you keep your hand apon this family that is getting ready to have a loved one leave for the military, i pray that you give him the knowledge to be strong and keep safe keep a shield of protection over him so that he makes it back home. lLord give this mother and family strenght to get thru keep there minds free of worry i pray this in your name amen.

Jamie - posted on 03/26/2010

a little different, but my husband is currently deployed, he left the beginning of january and will hopefully be home in august, we have a 7 month old daughter. it is tough, i'm not going to hide that. i pray, a lot, and my husband is good with emailing me as uch as possible. you will always worry though, I know I do. My faith in God has truely helped me through this as this is our second deployment. If you ever have any questions about it or need someone to talk to, fele free to message me. You can also find me on facebook.. God Bless :)

Carolyn - posted on 02/02/2010

I had two daughters in the military. One got out because of motherhood. The other one is making a career out of. God has truly blessed me and my family. She has been deployed to Iraq 3 times. I put all my trust in the Lord. You will have to pray. Prayer is what got me through this.

Brenda - posted on 01/31/2010

Tami,

My son is currently serving in Afghanistan. I know that he knows Christ as his savior when he was younger. All I can do (as I can't change the situation) is Pray for him daily. He knows my prayers and love are with him, as well as a good part of my heart as I am sure yours is for your son also. My prayers are focused for God to place a hedge of protection to surround him and for HIS peace to sustain him. I also find myself getting more involved in church activities... and the older ladies of the church are wonderful prayer wariors not only for my son, but for me as well. read Philippians 4:4-7 it helps also. God has greater plans for our children than we could ever imagine. I will pray that God gives you peace knowing that your son is in His hands

Cheryl - posted on 01/30/2010

I am truly amazed by all your comments! God is good all the time. I am a mom of a son in the military too. Right now he is in the states. Just the worry you feel as a mother to let them go and learn to lean on our Lord is hard. But we must. I remember telling my son..i think I'm finally ok with you not living with me any more. He laughed saying...its about time mom, its been 10 years! I think we just need to remember God has a globel plan too. Just think about that and how God is gonna use our children for the Grace God has for all! I will be praying for you both!

Janice - posted on 01/30/2010

Moms of the military Gods word plainly says if we worry we take the control of what happens out of His hands & back into ours & as far as I am concerned all I can do is love my son while he is there but My God can do all things so if u TRULLY believe His word then every time u began to worry... STOP & tell God that u r sorry that u know He has your son/ daughter in His most capable hands & I refuse to worry because I will not take on the responsibilty of his care while he is over there but You my Lord are every where & just ask God for His comfort for you & your child that you know that you know that you know He will take care I will not take that away from You cause I promise He can handle their care wayyyyyy better than we can!!!! So God bless &all these praying moms over here & just know as we pray just know & remember the POWER of PRAYER is the best & most we can ever do for any of our children no matter where they are!!!Janice Godrfrey, Greenwood SC

Mary Jane - posted on 01/29/2010

You just have to have Faith that God will take care of him as difficult as that is, and the power of prayer is unbelievable. My son is in Afghanistan right now, and I'm am scared every single day, but I have everyone I can reach praying for my babies safe return, even though he would probably kill me for calling him my baby, but that's what he'll always be. I will add your son to my prayer list.

Sharleen - posted on 01/28/2010

God grants the "Peace that passes all understanding". My son has been in the Army 6 years and 2 of those he spent in Iraq. On the last tour, they hit and IED (explosive Devise) and flipped their truck. God has other plans for his life and hadn't planned to take him at that time. He got a Purple Heart for helping his fellow soldiers through this. You would be sick with worry if Satan had his way but just trust in God to keep His hedge of protection around your son. Don't expect the worst. It's a job to him and he's proud of what he's doing and we as mom's are so proud of them as well. God bless you and your family.

Shelley - posted on 01/28/2010

I have faced many deployments as a Military wife and now will be facing them as a Military mom - my 21 year old son is a LCPL in the Marine Corps following in his Daddy's footsteps. I am so proud of them both and spent many hours on my knees in prayer for my husband as his unit was in Beirut during the bombing, the Grenada invasion, the original Desert storm and so many others. While I knew that God was holding him safe in His arms, I am after all human and could not stop worrying. I admith that is by far the one thing that I am guilty of more than anything else!! WORRY...
My son is facing Afghanistan in the very near future and while I know that as a US Marine, he is equipped with the training he needs and has the most Awesome Heavenly Father Holding him close, I will pray constantly as well as worry. Your son will be added to my prayers as are all of our brave men and women.....Remember, you are not alone. God is on our side!!!

Marisa - posted on 01/27/2010

I'm praying for you and your son!

Queenie - posted on 01/27/2010

My prayer was Psalms 91 every time a not so good thought came I would speak PS 91 and then spoke those things not as though they were, that he was going to return home unharmed along with all the other soldiers that were around him I prayed for a safe return not only our son but every one else's family member and that gave me great peace. I told the devil he would not and could not have what didn't belong to him. Our son returned home safely at the end of October 09. I also had other people praying for his safe return and I believe your son will also return home safely, God is no respecter of persons, He did it for me He will do it for you. Walk by Faith and NOT sight! I thanked God for his safe return on a DAILY basis. Stand your ground with the word of God, don't let the devil over take your thoughts with fear.

Carla - posted on 01/27/2010

I know how you feel Tami. My boyfriend is also deployed in April and we have a 11month old baby. He is going to Sudan untill November. I'm so sad and worried, but I know God will watch over our soldiers and keep them safe. I'll keep you in my prayers. Never doubt God. He knows what is good for us and what is not. He also won't put you through things He know you can't handle. We must have faith.

Maria - posted on 01/26/2010

God Blessed you with a son willing to put his life on the line for his fellow man. Don't worry. God will take care of him. Pray faithfully and let God take care of the rest. He does not want you to worry. You have other family who need you and you can be guaranteed there are more people than you know out here praying for your son, including me. I am a longhaul truckdriver from New Brunswick Canada at 54 years old, if it was not for men and women like your son, I would not be living my dream. God Bless you are raising such a fine young man and God Bless you and your family. xxxooo Maria

Anita - posted on 01/24/2010

I know it must be very difficult for you, because being a Christian and being a mother is not easy, you still worry about your kids even though you trust in the lord.

I can only console you by saying that the Lord has counted all our days on earth. We are not in control of our lives, only God is. Pray everyday and leave your son's safe keeping in His hands. If you tend to worry excessively at times, ask Christian friends to pray with you. That usually helped for me.
I shall pray with you everyday, even if we are thousands of miles apart!

Angela - posted on 01/22/2010

Hi Tami~

My oldest son is in the military, he joined straight out of high school, we had to sign him in as he was still 17 yr old. His 1st deployment was 15 months to Afghanistan, I cried and prayed everyday! As a mother there is no way that you can make yourself NOT worry, but if you realise that God loves your son a million times more than you are humanly capable, that might give you some peace in your heart. My son was hurt and received 2 purple hearts (by the age of 20), it was so scarey knowing he was hurt and not being there to see how he really was, in my motherly point of view. Pray for his protection each and every day, trust that your God is able to take care of him and He can see your son's every move, ask the Lord to give your son guidance and wisdom beyond his years. Proverbs 3:5-6 "TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING, ACKNOWLEDGE HIM IN ALL YOUR WAYS AND HE WILL MAKE YOUR PATH STRAIGHT"

Camillia - posted on 01/21/2010

I think i might be able to help you . theres was only a little faith when my husband went into the army yeah he may not be my son but i look at it in any perspective .I was only 19 years old when my husband went into the army and i stay by his side i then waited for the 6 months were up my dad had died and i was pregnant to at the same time when he went in and after my dad died .
i then finaly started to pray for my husband to make it home to me safe he did when the 6 months were up i cryed and cryed though .
after he came home i gave birth there where complications with me and my son we both were highrisk . i then tryed to set my fears aside and let god handle them and stayed strong after the 7 days were up he had to leave to go to his duty station and i thought gee this is it this will be the last time i see him .it wasnt i left for ga after 6 weeks and i stayed there for 3 months and he was deployed two weeks and 3 days later i thought oh no what am i going to do i love him so much and im scared .
i had to stay strong becuase he needed me so did my son and i would read my wedding vows everyday i would get up read the bible talk to friends and family and hold my son a lot more then what i would ever do when things like this get hard read a bible and pray more and stay strong for the military becuase they need those prayers more then we do right now .
yes crying is oka to cry and to let a tear out every once and awhile it just lets the person know you miss them more then you imagined you would .
just believe that god will make your fears go away if you have to carry a cross with you i did that to i know it sounds stupied but i turned to god when times got hard for me I had to deal with a 15 month deployment and a 6 month basic and ait and i only seen my husband for 4 month 5 days and its hard but think of your son cause he needs you to stay stronger now then ever ill be praying for you and your family if you need anything email me

Phi - posted on 01/21/2010

there is no not worrying we are not asked not to worry but we are promised that God will not give us anything we cannot handle and trust that you will be taken care of if anything happens you get used to it, trust me and your fine man made the decision to support his country which is a verry Godly thing to do Bless your son and bless you for rasing a brave boy

Lisa - posted on 01/21/2010

Wow that is a powerful question. How to trust God and not worry with your child in the military. As I am posting this I just returned from welcoming home a fallen Soldier. I did not know this young man, he was from a town about 20 min from me. As I stood there watching the escorting I was in tears for this family. They have made the ultimate sacrifice and my heart aches for his family. While I was standing there I was Thanking God that it wasn't my son. Not sure if that is bad or not, but he is serving his second tour in Iraq right now, so it does hit home a little.
As to trusting and not worrying. I have prayed to God many times thanking him it wasn't my son and I know that at any moment it could be. I just trust God to do his will and give me the strength to handle whatever that may be. Does that mean I do not worry? No I still worry and hand him over to God again.
For those of you who do not know, there is a group out there for mom's of children in the military. I am part of that group and we understand, as you can't understand unless you have been there. The web site is www.bluestarmothers.org, go there and you can find a local chapter in your area. I will be praying for all moms with children serving home and abroad. Sometimes I think we have the toughest job when our children choose the military. I love you son and thank you for your service.

Pam - posted on 01/20/2010

My youngest son was in Iraq, when the war started. My advice to you is to pray for God to watch over him & keep him safe from harm. Trust that the answer will be yes- my son came home with some scary stories, but no physical wounds. Write to him as often as you can while he is away. Mail means so much. I printed jokes off the internet & sent them to him. Ask your friends & family to pray also, the more the better. I can't tell you that you won't have times when you are scared, but don't tell your son about your fear-he will have enough to think about, without worrying about you.. Our military is thoroughly trained, your son will know what to do when he gets there. Ask him to tell you about his job, he just might knock your socks off with his knowledge.Trust in God, your son, & his training.

Debbie - posted on 01/20/2010

We as mom are given the ability to care for and protect our children. As they become adults and make their own decisions we are given a new responsibility... Support. I also have a son that was in the military...Marines... We worry because we love. And we confuse that worry with the inability to have control over fixing anything that may be in harms way. We have been their protector since before birth and now we have that abilily taken away. But as a military mom you are gonna experiance the most pride you have ever had. Your son chose to me military because that is what he wants to do. They want to be deployed, as crazy as that sounds. Because that is what they are trained to do. The hard change is when they get out. They have a hard time finding their place in civilian life. You will worry cause you are Mom. But God can and will give you peace and confidence as a Mom to handle it. My prayer is that God will protect your son as well as all our military and bring him home safe.

Michele - posted on 01/19/2010

My oldest son is a Marine, and he is in Japan. I know thats not in a danger zone, but you never know when they will be deployed anywhere. You will worry no matter where they are. First you need to know that is where God wants him. Once you are comfortable with that, then you must turn him over to God for his guidance and protection. This isn't an easy task God has given us, but we have to know God is in control. Michele

Roberta - posted on 01/18/2010

You must put your faith in the lord my son is deployed right now in afghanstan.I pray for him everyday we he got his orders I asked if he was scared he said I trust in my father and somebody has to go .He said every soldier is somebodies son daughter father we are all fighing for our country to serve and protect so we can keeo our freedom and believe in our lord .Keep the faith pray and put your trust in the lord

Charla - posted on 01/18/2010

Hey hun! I don't think there is a way to teach anyone how to trust God, its a relationship that you have to work on with the Lord. He is an awesome God and,it is by faith and not of ourselfs that we trust in him. I so hope this helps you even if it is just a bit. Stay in his word daily and worship is a great key to our trust in him for anything. God Bless! (HUGS) Sincerely In Christ Charla"

Jennifer - posted on 01/18/2010

I don't know how not to worry other than focus on other things. I think it bothers my son more when I communicate my worry, so I put on a brave face and tell him I know he is going to be safe. I pray and meditate on peaceful things, God's grace and mercy, and leave it all up to Him. My son deploys in September, so I know as it gets closer, it will get harder.

Irene - posted on 01/18/2010

I have a daughter in the Navy. My son's are home-school and working.They are all grown up ages 18-25.As mom's it doesn't matter where they are or what they are doing we always worry about our kids.Natural instinct.You have to continue to pray for them and trust God. We have to keep ourselves busy.

Laura - posted on 01/17/2010

Tami: Worry is a natural part of life and of motherhood. It is as natural as breathing in and out. God will wrap your son in his warmth and love and keep him safe, I believe that. I also have a son who is in the military and has been in Al Asahd since August 2009. He is a 1st Lt. and my husband spent 20 years Enlisted in the Army, retiring in 2006. Drew wanted to mold his life after his Dad's.

God knows that we cherish our sons and he will take care of those who ask for God's deliverance. Put your worries in god's care and he will protect your son and make you strong.



Take care and if ever you need someone to talk to...I'm always available to help!



Laura Wilson

Tacoma, Wa.

Kimberlee - posted on 01/17/2010

Remember that God is there with your son, when you are not, or might not even know what he is going through. I've found this eases my anxiety when my son is just away from me at school, which is another kind of battle. I have thought about your plight, as mine wants to go into the military ( he's 12), and I've always had anxiety about it. However, I try to relate it to other times that I was in despair and God saw me through it. He is faithful to us if we are faithful to him. Pray without ceasing..

Judi - posted on 01/17/2010

I have a son-in-law and a son both being deployed very soon. I do worry but you have to remember God is in control of all. I just try to remember that my time can be better spent doing positive things and not worrying.

Dotti - posted on 01/17/2010

Cast ALL your anxieties upon the Lord, for He cares about you! Tami, my son is in the military also, he is deployed he has a wife and two small children at home. I knew when the Lord blessed me with my son, it was for a time. He has always been in the care of the Lord, whether or not he was near you. When you sent him to school, he was in God's care. When he was on sleepovers, he was in God's care. When he learned to drive, he was in God's care. As he deploys, he will be in God's care. We do not know what tomorrow may bring, give each day to the Lord and place your trust in Him alone. Also remember that more people are killed each year in America in car crashes than in the military. God bless you!

Rosalind - posted on 01/16/2010

I have no sons in the military. They will never be able to serve due to health issues. However, I have had brothers in the military. I missed them when they were away. I cannot begin to fully understand how you feel, but know this "God is able and willing to love, protect and comfort". We have to remember who is in charge - not man. Put you faith and trust in HIM.

Jo - posted on 01/16/2010

I have a son and daughter who between them have had four deployments to Gitmo, Afghanistan, Iraq and Kuwait. My daughter is a MP so she deals with some pretty nasty people. They have both left families behind (my daughter has a daughter who was 1yr 2wks when she left the last time and my son has a 7 year old son). Yes, you will worry but that really does not help. Keep them covered in prayer and know they have been trained and they do know their job. Send plenty of care packages and letters and keep them up to date with what is happening here and be positive when talking to them. Emails are great!! Keep in touch with their spouses and kids and you will be supporting your son/daughter as you support their families left behind here. Accidents happen here as well as overseas so no matter where they are at or what they are doing remember the Lord is in control and your children are in His hand and He will supply your and their needs without fail.
Also, many times their unit will have a family support group which meets regularly which is a huge comfort. God bless you and your family.

Lulu - posted on 01/15/2010

FAITH is the answer the only way you will get through it is by FAITH trustig that our FATHER will never leave us nor forsake us. My family will pray for yours. Just remember seek the LORD wholeheartedly. GOD BLESS

Leah - posted on 01/15/2010

My son is two so I don't know what is like to have a son thousands of miles awy however my father was in the Marines then Army and now my little brother is now in the Navy getting ready for his 3rd tour to the Middle East. My brother and I grew up as the best of friends and even as adults we've staied great friends. I try to stay very positive, anytime I get a little frightened and start thinking the worse I remind myself this is his job, a job he believes in and he has the best training possible to deal with everything and anything. I can't question it or think the what ifs, its only going to drive me crazy. I don't think you can stop worring, we can just be around people who understand what we are going through and pray. If you are needing more support you can find groups in your community with moms, wives and family members who have soilder deployed. Many times your local armery may have a group that meets, you can start looking there. Or even start one of your own:-)

Becky - posted on 01/15/2010

Tami,

I have a 21 year old son deployed right now in Iraq with the U.S. Army and I can tell you that you are right to PRAY, but you WILL still worry. It is natural for a mother to fear the worst when her son is in a foreign country, so far away from home. My son has been deployed since August '09 and there is not a single minute of the day that I don't worry about not only his personal physical safety, but also his mental and emotional well-being. I think that is just a normal emotion for a mother/father to feel. I would suggest that you find other military moms thru "Circle of Moms" or Facebook, that you can communicate with. My son's unit has a facebook page with info and pictures of what the soldiers are doing and it has helped me feel connected to what my son is doing. Check with your son's military unit and see what they have to offer for mothers of deployed soldiers. They might have support groups too.

And I try to keep in mind what my husband told me one time when I was very anxious and having a hard time with my son's deployment. He said: "Becky, there are thousands of mothers around the Country in the same shoes as you. If they can do it, so can you." At the time, it sounded to me to be slightly uncaring of my husband to put it so bluntly, but when I thought about it, I realized that he was right, and I would just have to be strong, so that I didn't project that worry/fear onto my son, whose main objective should be doing his job and staying safe; not worrying about his momma back in the states....

You can do it sweetie.

GOD BLESS OUR SOLDIERS..... They are TRUE AMERICAN HEROES.......♥

Jennifer - posted on 01/15/2010

Worrying is human nature, especially about your children. Know that God is in control, pray for your son and all the other soldiers and know that whatever God's plan is it will be ok. Your son was a gift from God to you and the world. He became a soldier because that was his wish and belief. We thank him and all the soldiers that are serving their country and it's people. I have friends that don't understand when I say everything happens for a reason. That is because they do not truly trust and believe in our Lord. My thoughts and prayers will be with you, your son and your family. Keep your head high for having raised such an honorable and distinguished young man. We thank you.

Shelly - posted on 01/15/2010

Tami,

Mine leaves in March...Sweety this is when your faith is really tested this is were the rubber meets the road with your faith. It's easy to say we are believers until it's tested!!! How I have gotten through it is I ask my self whats the worst thats going to happen??? He'll go home to sit face to face with the Lord!!!

Michelle - posted on 01/15/2010

After having a couple of miscarriages and then actually having a live birth, I praised God for the chance to teach His child. And as we've gone through life, that's something that I've always had to remind myself... "She is God's child only here for me to teach her for His plans." Remember that your son was only placed in your care, but he's God's child and God will take care of His own. We are lucky to have God's children for the time He allows. But His plans are perfect and even though we never fully understand His plans, we need to know that God is always right, just, and perfect in His plans.

I pray that your son returns, but mostly I pray that your son does God's work and help to fulfill His plans. We're with you and thank you for your son courageousness to do another tour of duty. Bless your family.

Bridgette - posted on 01/15/2010

Cast all your care on the Lord. Ask for his grace to help you through this time. Believe that God loves you and keeps his word. Remember if you find yourself worrying, them you have not given God your burden. He will see you through ANY situation. Trust HIM,

Tammy - posted on 01/14/2010

I am the Mom of 4 sons and a daughter. When the oldest left for boot camp in 1998 it was the most challenging thing I ever faced. The clothes that he was wearing when he left for boot camp were mailed to the house. I was alone when I got them and it smelled like him--I put it on his sweatshirt and didn't take it off for a couple of days. Over the years I had to learn step by step to pray God's word over him. Ps 134 says ...though i make my bed in the utmost parts of the sea even there you are with me...and PS 91 I would pray--Lord please give Your angels charge over Kevin to keep him in all of his ways."

Everytime there was world wide trouble my son was right there in the middle of it--the bombing of the USS Cole, the plane that "crash landed" China, the mission to the Phillipines when the missionary was recued and her husband killed. Through it all God was so faithful and I fianlly did get peace about God's goodness and that death--even of a son is not the worst thing that could happen--eternal death is the worst. He finished his time in the Navy in 2003

Last year , my youngest son returned safely from deploment in August and will be leaving again in May. I know that he goes with God and when I am tempted to worry I stop myself and remember to lift him again in prayer. He is comfortable with the risks to his life--I need to be too.

Cendie - posted on 01/14/2010

I think all mothers worry, no matter what. I just pray knowing he is in God's hands and what better place to be. I also do not watch the news or listen to the media about what is going on over there. That helps. My son is in Iraq right now on his second tour.

Sherry - posted on 01/14/2010

The same way you do when your child needs surgery or when ur pocket book doesnt have as much as you need to get by. God is SO big.. Pray for peace and comfort that only comesf from God. Know that God will take care him..

I will be praying for you!!

Alison - posted on 01/14/2010

This must be so hard! I imagine it would be the same as trusting God on any issue, focus on his grandeur and his sovereignty.

Tami - posted on 01/14/2010

Thank you!

Melissa - posted on 01/14/2010

I wish I could help you, but my son is only 7. Tell your son that we do appreciate his service and to try to stay safe and that we will pray for his and the resdt of the soldiers safe return. God will be with him.