Why We Should Wait to Have Sex

Kristina - posted on 08/28/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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God has been pressing this message on my heart. This is something that I have gone through personally, and I finally understand why God wants us to wait to have sex. He wants us to wait so that we have a can have a chance at knowing true friendship, true romance, true understanding of one another, true devotion, true loyalty, true compassion, and true love. He does not want us to inherit the pain and destruction that sex before marriage causes. When we get involved with someone God wants us to go through certain staged so we can find out the true meaning of love, He doesn’t want us to jump into a relationship and then jump right into sex because it is hard to go backwards through these stages. Its hard to retrace your steps, love was not supposed to happen that way and we wonder why our relationships don’t work out and why we get our heart broken every other weekend but we let it happen to ourselves. We let this damaging pattern destroy our lives.
One day me and my fiancé were visiting another church and this man walked up to us and said to him “stop defiling her bed” and then looked at me and said “stop defiling his bed” he said this out of not where. I was shocked and a little offended at first but that’s when God showed me what I needed to do to get my relationship to the next level with Him. At first my fiancé was frustrated that I made this decision without consulting him but he understands why now. Even though we have been together for four years, we knew about God, and we were good people most of the time, for some reason bad things kept happening with our relationship, our lives at that fact kept happening. This is all too clear to me now but I would sit there and wonder why certain things would happen to us, I would never see ungodly people go though these things, and this is why, I knew god and was still doing ungodly things I was giving Richie a part of me that I was not supposed to let him have yet, doing this I gave the devil a doorway to reek havoc on every area of my life. Sex isn’t bad but its is something that needs to be treated with respect, not everyone you date or don’t date deserves to have that part of you. That is supposed to be for your husband/wife the man/ woman that god has placed in your life, the man/woman that will treat that part of you with respect and cherish it. Just letting anyone have that part of you is emotionally robbing your self, hurting yourself, and damaging to your soul, getting that self respect back is so hard. Said by my best friend. Prov 6:32 but whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks heart and understanding; he who does it is destroying his own life. Sex before marriage bring thing into our lives we were never supposed to experience. Sex comes with so much baggage it is not even funny. Emotional Problems: felling guilted into having sex or so badly needing affection you think you need to sleep with someone to get the affection you need. Pregnancy: you were never supposed to be in each others lives now you are stuck for at least the next 18 years. Now dealing with a number of issues that comes with parenting; staying together and fighting over everything or being apart and dealing with child support and halftime parents. Possibility of one parent bailing and then having to raise a child on your own, not to mention the effect it will have on your child. Some of you may think about abortion, you cannot even begin to understand the effect that can have on a woman. STD’s: yeah sure most of these STD’s are treatable but what if you do not find out in time and you become sterile and are not able to have children? AIDS and Herpes: this is something that you will deal with for the rest of your lives, something you wont be able to runaway from. What if you find the one for you and they don’t want you because you have these things? Or what if you want children? There is a chance you may not spread this to your baby but are you willing to risk that on your child’s life?
Sex is a gift you are supposed to give to your husband or wife on you wedding night, and when you have sex before marriage look at the effects sex can have on your life. I’m with “the one” and still I only wish we would have waited. I wish we would have took the time to get to know each other so that we would have loved the right way, so that we don’t have to take the hard road backward in out relationship, so that we don’t have to work so hard getting true friendship, true romance, true understanding of one another, true devotion, true loyalty, true compassion, and true love that should have been there form the beginning. Just because you have had sex before doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it. I re-gave myself to the lord, I am refraining from sex until I am married with the man God made for me and it has brought nothing but blessing from God, I am on a new level with God that I have never known before. It is amazingly beautiful. Like my best friend says with a new level you get a new devil. When you achieve a goal like this do not be so blinded that you thing the devil will leave you alone, he will step his game up but you will be aware and have the tools to defeat him. God Bless and thanks for reading. Leave your own testimonies!!!!! I would love to hear them

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Kristina - posted on 08/31/2009

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Quoting Penny:

How amazing ladies! Let me share my love story. My husband and I met while he was stationed in Iraq. We actually met online and corresponded via email for about 9 months until he came back to the city where we both live. For the first time in my life I didn't pursue the guy and waited patiently for him to ask for my number and ask to meet in person. Before our first meeting I prayed that if this man was not a man after God's own heart then let something happen where we couldn't meet (I didn't know at the time, but he was praying the same thing). I had been in so many bad relationships where God wasn't first that for the first time I promised God that I would do things his way. This was super hard because we both had tasted the fruit and knew how good it could taste. But it took both of us putting our trust in God for us to be able to wait. And let me tell you, on our wedding night, it was magical. For the first time we had let God lead our relationship. We aren't perfect and neither is our relationship, but our God is. And all we can do is put our faith and trust in Him.


awesome that is an amazing love story!!!!!!!!! and amazing lesson as well. we just need to give ourselves to God and he will direct our path and when we wor on our own understanding it always fail. 

Kristina - posted on 08/31/2009

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Quoting lauralee:

wow, that's a great testimoney and i totally agree!! i wasnt a christian when i got together with my fiance but became one a yr after we married. he's dead now and am alone. i get lonely but guys just want to jump into bed and i can't do that obviousely. so i wait for God to bing someone He want in my life if anyone at all. God bless, lauralee


oh my i am o sorry you had to go through that, humble yourself, tell God the thing you are looking for, tell him what you want, and know that all thing are possible through Christ who strengthens us and that he will never put you in a situating that you will not be able to handle.  keep your faith, my fav scripture Jeremiah 29: 11-14 For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, And I will Listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, When you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back from your captivity. God bless as well


 


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How amazing ladies! Let me share my love story. My husband and I met while he was stationed in Iraq. We actually met online and corresponded via email for about 9 months until he came back to the city where we both live. For the first time in my life I didn't pursue the guy and waited patiently for him to ask for my number and ask to meet in person. Before our first meeting I prayed that if this man was not a man after God's own heart then let something happen where we couldn't meet (I didn't know at the time, but he was praying the same thing). I had been in so many bad relationships where God wasn't first that for the first time I promised God that I would do things his way. This was super hard because we both had tasted the fruit and knew how good it could taste. But it took both of us putting our trust in God for us to be able to wait. And let me tell you, on our wedding night, it was magical. For the first time we had let God lead our relationship. We aren't perfect and neither is our relationship, but our God is. And all we can do is put our faith and trust in Him.

Lauralee - posted on 08/29/2009

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wow, that's a great testimoney and i totally agree!! i wasnt a christian when i got together with my fiance but became one a yr after we married. he's dead now and am alone. i get lonely but guys just want to jump into bed and i can't do that obviousely. so i wait for God to bing someone He want in my life if anyone at all. God bless, lauralee

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