Welcome to the new group Christian Single Moms

Lillian - posted on 11/11/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I would like to extend my warmest greetings and welcome you all to this group. I would like to introduce myself and maybe give a little bit of my story and why this group was created. I had become a Christian at the age of 16 and bounced between back sliding and being involved with my Lord. (Thank you Jesus for your patience) At the age of 32 I moved into a house with a friend from work and her child, boyfriend and roommate. It turned out that they were real slobs and the house was filthy. When social services came to take the child away and we lost the house I agreed to apply to foster the little girl (who had just turned 9) It took 6 motnhs of fighting to get the ministry to do their job in order to have her live with me. Boy was I in for a shock. She had violent tantrums that lasted for hours. When I isolated her she would work herself into a bigger rage and when I put her in time out she wouldn't stay. As the guidlines for being a foster parent stated I couldn't remove any of her toys or possessions I was at a loss for what to do. She had started attending Church with her previous foster parents and so at her requests we looked for a church. The first to church's I was ignored and not spoken to even once and another spoke to me but only truly welcomed me when they discovered she was my fosterdaughter. After about 3 months and since my daughter was mostly native I decided to try the First Nations Church in our city. What a small church but we were made to feel like family immediately and invited to participate. I repented of my backsliding and became a member of the church. When my daughter had been in care for 1 year and their was still no sign of her mother being able to get her back we were given a choice. Either she was to be placed on the permanent ward list and up for adoption or the parents could give me custody and the ministry would release her to me. We agreed and I was granted Sole Custody and Sole Guardianship of my daughter. I thank God every day that he used my daughter to bring me to a new life with Him. I hope that you will join me on this discussion board. Faith, Friendship and praise as well as testimonies and calls for help and advice are what we are all about. God bless you all.

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Lillian - posted on 02/13/2010

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Thank you for sharing your story. It's awful how the devil has gotten a foothold in so many Christian's. I have to admit that he had a good hold on me for the longest time. I know there are Godly men out there and those that claim to be Christian that don't act like it will be held accountable at judgement. I didn't find it was the men with me so much as the women that were cold. They seemed to forget that God is the one who is judge and that all sins are viewed as equal. Unfortunately so many people jump to conclusions. I was very blessed to find the church that I went to and I know that you will be blessed too.

Julie - posted on 02/11/2010

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I can understand how you feel.... Many "christians" can be so judgmental.



I did all the right things when it comes to marriage and children - I waited til I was married for sex, I married a man who seemed to be a genuine Christian, I just didn't know he'd not only backslide to how he was before he "became a Christian" but that he'd end up even worse.



I tried everything to save him from himself and tried everything to save our marriage, but he insisted on a divorce to marry one of his many mistresses. To this day, he remains a violent, mentally disturbed drug addict who continues to have sex with many women and men.



Yet despite the fact that I was everything you could ask for in a wife to him and did everything to save my marriage, I find that "christian" men treat me like total dirt.



Even after pointing out I've never had sex outside of marriage and never will, nearly the entirety of men who call themselves "christian" treat me like as I am a slut. Most demand sex, saying things like "oh you're not a virgin, so you got no right to be all high and mighty and refuse to have sex before marriage", and the rest (even ones who are not virgins themselves) say they don't want anything to do with a woman who is not a virgin.



In three years of being single again, I have only met a handful of guys who are not like this - two were shallow and unchristianlike in other ways, two were seriously disabled, and one was a genuinely nice guy but is moving very far away and is not interested in a long distance thing.



It's sad to think of the thousand of single men i've come across in the last three years, few call themselves christians, and only a handful act like Christians.



But in all honesty - it's the one who call themselves Christians who treat me like as if I'm "easy" because I'm a single mother, that get me down.

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