Coping with the death of a grandchild?

Ilona - posted on 05/29/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I just returned home to PA after the funeral of my Grandson this past Thursday in GA. I am walking around in a daze. Ricky would have turned 5 this coming Tuesday June 1st.

He battled cancer from the age of 22 mos. I know he is in a better place, but it just isn't fair. He had so much to give to the world. I'm heart sick and worried for my daughter and Ricky's little sister. Any advice on how to cope and help the others?

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Anita - posted on 08/30/2010

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I will pray for you. It must be so devestating............God give you strength...............

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Ilona - posted on 03/19/2012

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It's hard to believe that May will mark the two year anniversary of Ricky getting his angel wings. He is in our thoughts everyday. Our Granddaughter misses her brother very much and talks about him all of the time. Our daughter has good and bad days and is very thankful for her daughter who gives her a reason to push on. We know that Ricky is no longer suffering and is in a better place, and we continue to pray for him and all of the children who are battling the different types of childhood cancer. Much more research is needed so that a CURE can be found and no other family needs to go through the pain and heartache that we have endured.

Audra - posted on 03/19/2012

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I'd love to know how you and your family are doing...I noticed you posted this back in May of 2010...

Ilona - posted on 08/05/2010

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I want to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers. My family is slowly finding our new normal, as they say. My husband and I have gone to the group Compassionate Friends....it helps being among people who have been through this and know just what you are feeling. Our friends mean well, and are very supportive, but thankfully none of them have had to deal with this loss, and hopefully never will.

Our daughter and granddaughter will be coming to PA in a week for a few days, we haven't ween them since the funeral and are anxious to do so. They are both being helped by therapists, child life specialists, and our daughter did go to her first Compassionate Friends meeting in GA this week.

Pamela - posted on 08/04/2010

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My heart goes out to you and your family llona. I too lost a daughter at 51/2 almost 6 with Leukemia 31 years ago. She IS and has been OUR Guardian Angel Jennifer. I was blessed with 2 more lovely girls and my youngest just had her/our first baby boy grandson.
It is not easy to lose a child, it takes years, every holiday, birthday, prom, graduation, etc., but you remember the good times and all that bad stuff at the end, that will go away. I still wonder what she would be like at 36 and how many children she would have, see it doesnt stop and it shouldn't they should always be in your hearts, a part of you, until we meet again.
I wish you all solace in the days ahead.

Becky - posted on 07/27/2010

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The death of a child is never accepted without questions, no matter how old they get. But what God says is that he will not put on us more than we can bare. Hold onto those words. He has a purpose, though it may be unseen right now. But your precious Grand-son is now sitting at the feet of God, no pain, no tears, just happy & smiling to be in His presence. My thoughts & prayers are with your family, May God give you peace, show you his love & wrap you in his arms! God Bless!

Christine - posted on 07/24/2010

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My heart is with you and your family, I have lost my 3 year old niece, And that breaks my heart to see my sister go though all this pain.Your in my thoughts and prayers..

PHYLLIS - posted on 05/30/2010

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I CAN'T EVEN BEGIN TO IMAGINE WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE TO LOSE A GRANDCHILD. I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. LOOK TO GOD FOR STRENGTH AND THE WAY TO HELP THE OTHERS COPE. YOU WILL BE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS.

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