i'm a grandmother of three children whom i adore but there mother is not a nice person & doesnt look after them, she hasn't registered their birth & also hasn't had their immunisations done. what can I do

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Diana - posted on 07/30/2009

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Honestly, I would do anything & everything possible to intervene, but that's just me!! I understand there are different opinions about immunizations, but you stated she doesn't look after the kids!! Keeping quiet just to maintain the "status quo' wouldn't be an option for me if my grandsons weren't being cared for properly!! I've never seen a parent not register the births of kids & truthfully, can't imagine a legitimate rationale for that at all!! You said you're getting nowhere with Social Services, I'd go higher- everyone has a supervisor & I'm a firm believer in "if you can't help me, get me someone who can!!" I'd also keep detailed records of all your concerns & whatever you tried to do to rectify things!! Wondering, if you don't mind... where's Dad stand in all this??

Patti - posted on 07/30/2009

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All I can say is watch them as much as you can. If you report her,they'll probably take the children and then to get them you would have to go to court and apply for custody. It could split the kids up,too. Just pray for them and the mom. How did she get away with not registering their birth?

CAROLYN - posted on 06/16/2009

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Hey Gemma, Don't forget you have grandparent rights so if you see things are not being done which affects the children then by all means step in, good luck and keep us informed.

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That's true in Georgia about sending your children to school or day care that you'd have to have them immunized. However, if they don't go to a state regulated day care and if you home school them, then it's not necessary to immunize them. It's a personal choice. I personally don't think its wise, but there are so many statistics lately about the harm that vaccinations are causing.

Mary Jo - posted on 05/31/2009

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I have friends (Dr's) who don't believe in immunizing their children. They believe in the herd effect (something about once everyone gets it their body will develop antibodies naturally). that doesn't make them a bad parent. You could try to make a family dinner once a week and have an outdoor game. Show them how much fun parenting can be with the right attitude. Sometimes moms just need a break. I put my daughter in daycare 1 day a week for 4 hours. This gave me a break, refreshed my patience, and helped me to see all the beauty my child brought into my life. Maybe she is just overwhelmed with today lifestyle. Try giving her a little break. That being said please understand that I don't know your situation personally and don't know what you have tried.

Chris - posted on 04/20/2009

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Hi. here in Georgia, you have to have had the children immunized before they can start school. I would check the state laws and with social services. In Georgia, this would be considered abuse because the children are not being protected from the viruses and diseases they could get otherwise.

Sheri - posted on 03/16/2009

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I would go to SOCIAL SERVICES depending on where you live, they have offices in Raleigh,Durham just about every county has an office check the phone book. If you love those children like you saw you do, then you need to move fast. (like in the morning)

Adria - posted on 01/25/2009

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Gemma, there is much to know about immunizations; and first, you need to know your state laws.  For instance, here in Vermont it is not illegal to not immunize, it is personal choice.  Just because she chooses not to immunize doesn't mean she's a "bad mom".  Have you asked her why not?



 



As to not registering their births, that is a whole 'nuther can of worms!  Were they born at home? 

Gemma - posted on 01/24/2009

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thank you very much for your advice. we are not getting very far with social services but i'm not going to give up. Yes your right about it being very tricky, we are trying everything at the moment, thanx for your prayers as well, we need them

Cyd - posted on 01/24/2009

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This can be a tricky situation; I'd consult with a nurse about the immunizations, they have numbers to call with questions like this.



If the situation is serious enough you might want to contact social services and have them "monitor" her actions.  They are usually overloaded though, so you may need to give them more to go on, pictures might help.  Good luck!  I'll pray for the children!

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