Kids taking grand children away to be mean.

Christine - posted on 08/08/2009 ( 86 moms have responded )

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My daughter has taken my grandaughter away after living with me 3 times.It not only heuts me but my grandchild too.Anyone else deal with this?

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Joanne - posted on 10/25/2012

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The first time my daughter kept my grandchildren (2girls) away from me and the family it lasted 8 months. I took my daughter to court to exercise my right as a grandparent that raised my oldest granddaughter for the first 3 years of her life. Because my daughter was unsure of whom the childs father was and did not find out until the child was 2, I was able to petition the courts for some custody rights as the childs father did not exercise his rights of visitation even though he pays court ordered child support. The judge ordered my daughter and my self to go to mediation which we did and I thought we worked things out pretty fairly, so because she is my daughter and I do love her and wanted to trust her when she said she would "never" keep my granddaughter from me ever again, I chose to believe her and settled out of court. Now it's been 10 months since I've seen my grandchildren and 6 months since anyone in the family my mother included have heard anything from any of them. They moved out of state in January with my daughters abusive, useless husband whom I refer to as Satan, I do send cards and packages to the address I was given which happens to be "his" mothers address and I do put money in my granddaughters savings accounts which I opened for them. I will always be here for my girls and my skin will always crawl whenever I have to see or hear the demon my daughter married. I worry every day about their safety, I'm just not sure where to go from here.

Wendi - posted on 07/05/2013

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My daughter had a baby at 17 year old. Just the fact that she got pregnant was very difficult on my husband and I, but we were there for her as much as we could be. I am a nurse and was there for the delivery (10 days after I had major surgery). I was there when the babies father smashed her phone and her ipad. I was there when she had to call the police on him because he was stalking her. I was there walking the floors with a crying baby, and loving on him with all my heart and soul. One day, out of no where I come home from work and find the baby gate missing. A step further and the crib is gone. She left, with my precious grandson to go live with the father and his family. That was 4 months ago. I miss him so much. They live so close, sometimes I just drive by trying to get a quick look at him to see how much he has grown. I saw him walking the other day. I could just break in two....I miss him so much it hurts!!! How did I raise a child to be so mean and hateful to me? I just don't get it.

Kim Aka Mamaw - posted on 09/17/2012

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I have basically raised my grandson this first year. But I've been basically blackmailed by my daughter. If I don't do what she wants when she wants she threatens me with never seeing him again. He's already involved with cps when after a 2 month stay with me he returned home. The 2nd day he ended up with a head injury. She knows if he gets hurt again she can make me feel guilty...and yes I would if I didn't go get him. But I'm in ill health now. She's killing me. My stress is hurting me. I have lupus, I've had a stroke, etc. Yet she still wants me to run whenever she calls. Advise....I just don't want this baby hurt and CPs here stinks.

Noodles - posted on 10/31/2012

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Jo Ann,

I am sorry to hear that your daughter is such a piece. You deserve every right to see your grandchildren, as they do not deserve to be kept from contact with their family. Your situation is disgusting. Those little girls should not be going through any of that. You sound like a wonderful grandmother, a great person, and it is unfortunate that you daughter found herself in a relationship with a teratoma. You must lose a lot of sleep at night worrying, especially knowing that you have done just about everything that you can do. My heart goes out to you, but more so to your grandchildren who are truly suffering at the hands of their mother. Children are so helpless and vulnerable; parents should not be allowed to rip them away from a family that is only wanting to love them. Angels will look over them though, and one day maybe your daughter will see the light to just what she is doing (and has done).



Everything happens for a reason. Bumpy.

Darla - posted on 05/08/2012

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I had my granddaughter who is now nine, taken away from me for three years. I had to learn to let go because I was not going to allow my son and his wife bully me by using my granddaughter. It was hard, especially since my sister who at the time lived five houses from me flaunted that she got to see my granddaughter by having her play out front where everyone could see her. Finally my son matured enough to realize that not only did he want me in his life he wanted me in his daughters life. I have to say that our relationship is based on love and respect. He knows he cannot use the kids as a pawn to get to me. They have now decided to move to New York, we live in California, and I am having good days and bad days about it. But in the meantime, I try to spend as much time with the grandkids as I can. The only advice I can say is to hang in there. Time will change things. Try to write letters to your grandchild and your daughter...keeping it light and letting the two know how much you love them and miss them...but don't allow her to bully you by using your grandchild as a pawn.

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JEANETTE - posted on 07/21/2014

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you don't it just hurts my so remarried has 3 boys 13 ,11 and 8 . new wife just had a baby we are not aloud to see her the new wife calls the shots !! the x is a nut !! you just hurt some days more than others !!

Patty - posted on 06/24/2014

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I've dealt with this before with my daughter and it was devastating. I cried and I normally don't cry very often. Your daughter is doing it because she wants to have the 'power' over you.

My advise is to wait it out until she is ready to let you see your grand daughter again. She will come around I promise. Just have patience.

When she does, make sure she understands that it not only hurts you but your grand daughter and that grandparents are important people in grand children's lives.

I did just that and ever since, my daughter hasn't caused any issues.

Mary - posted on 05/19/2014

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I raised my 3 children practically on my own. They didn't have the love and nurturing of grandparents that wanted to be involved. Now my middle child has a 3 year old that I have been extremely close to since her birth. I was in the delivery room when she was born. I felt hysterical with love for her. She is my first grand child, those of you who are grandparents know it's like your first love. There's nothing like it. My daughter in law allowed me to dress her for the very first time. They sought my advice on everything for her. When she was a tiny baby she cried a lot and I was always able to calm her down. From the time she could express joy to see someone she has been overjoyed to see me. When she was just 6 months old, she took my face in her little hands and rubbed her face all over mine! It was the sweetest thing in the world! My daughter in law told me as a child she was molested over and over again. It broke my heart! I promised her I would NEVER leave her baby alone with anyone to ensure that no one would ever hurt her child on my watch the way someone allowed her to be hurt and I never have, not even my own husband. Now they are accusing him of it. They took her away from me based on a lie. While my daughter in law was drunk she asked the baby if someone hurt her little "vagina", my grand daughter doesn't know that term. I asked her one day, what her leg was, her nose, her eyes, etc . . .I patted her bottom and said asked what that is, she replied her butt, I said "Where is your vagina?" She told me it's upstairs in her room. My daughter in law asked her who hurt her "vagina" babies answer; Papa did. She has 3 papa's, she doesn't know any of their names. She loves my husband more than any of the other papa's and is always so excited to see him. The other 2 are my daughter in laws dad and my son's father who I am not married to anymore because of lying cheating and abuse. She doesn't like either of them and refuses to let them hold her or have anything to do with. One day she (the baby) told me Papa gave her dog a boo boo. We bought her a fish, I accidentally killed it, if you ask her why the fish died, she says Papa did it. She showed me a bruise she got on her leg one weekend when we didn't see her and said Papa did it. She is a baby. No big deal. But my daughter in law didn't ask her how papa hurt her or to show her what papa supposedly did to her, they didn't take her to the doctor, they didn't report it to cps. They used that against me to try to end my marriage because they don't like my husband. That was 6 months ago, they only let me see her once a week. Now someone called cps on them and they are blaming me and refusing to let me see her at all. My son told me 6 months ago it was due to his wife's jealousy over mine and my grand daughters relationship. She doesn't want her daughter to love me more than she loves her mother. What she doesn't know is she creating a situation for her daughter to resent her later for keeping her from me. I read the articles on here and I can't even imagine treating my parents this way and they were not as loving by a long shot as I have been to my grand daughter. I will pray for you all, you all pray for me.

Laureen - posted on 02/27/2014

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I have been raising my granddaughter since she was six months old her mom and dad have had many issues with the law and also with drugs my son is in federal prision right now due to his addiction my sons ex girl friend is pregnant by someone else and I don't think is doing drugs the whole five and a half years have been a battle constant threats of her being taken off of me my poor granddaughter being used as a pawn if her mom didn't get what she wanted even showed up to her fifth birthday high as a kite I never got the state involved because I have always been here to care for her and her other grandmother has taken her here and there I have been the one to care for her when she is sick I have been the one when she cries because she misses her daddy I have been the one to put her to bed every night . to love her to hold her to play hide and seek to have family day on sundays to watch scary movies together AND now she text me yesterday im changing her school to my moms house I don't think she is going to be safe there because of your son My son gets out of jail is 3 months he has strict rules or he goes back and he is a great dad and I know he has to prove himself but she is always under my care and this is coming from someone who stumbled into my granddaughter open house when it was all most over so high she couldn't walk and all the parents knew it and that was just in September .now I want whats best for my granddaughter I want her mom in her life I want her mommy to stay clean I have been there I am almost 6 years clean I know she loves her mommy but god she doesn't have a clean slate her record is longer then my arm I just want her to give her dad a chance and I would never do anything that would jeapodize my little girl I just don't think after all this that I should be constantly threatened by her she has done it to me all these years and it has caused me so much stress and anxiety and my granddaughter can since everything feeling and thought I have I don't want her to have that heavy weight on her I can see it in her little face worried that she is going to be taken out of her home any advice please im going out of my mine I cant even sleep

Traci - posted on 02/17/2014

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I'm in the same place along with all of you here. My grand-daughter, son & Baby mother. has bee living in our home from the day my grand-daughter was born in 2012. My grand-daughter will be 2 this march. Her mother left, with my grand-daughter on 01/09/2014 on a Thursday. Baby mother told us she was going to her mother's house for the weekend. That Friday, I needed to talk to baby mother, So I text baby mother,

Gael - posted on 01/21/2014

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And sadly where I live, they had in place grandparents rights, then it went to a higher court and they reversed our rights , so now I have no rights. I hope to out live this mess until the girls are adults...then they can either see me by choice or not. As long as they just give me a chance...praying for that daily.

Gael - posted on 01/17/2014

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Sadly in my state there are no grandparents rights..they were repealed, that is simply WRONG.

Gael - posted on 01/17/2014

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Interesting, I am also a nurse. My heart felt prayers and sorrow go out to you. These acts of turning grandchildren away from us, using them as pawns..is terrible. I keep hearing "One day, she will regret that she did this"...highly doubtful, people that do this life for the moment..and if they have the experience of holding their child..they should realize that is exactly what we did for them, gave then unconditional love. After all these years, and I still cry everyday ..and have to divert my thoughts away...she knows I lost her brother, sent me an e mail, gee..no phone call to say Mom I am so sorry for your loss? But if an e mail is all she could do, it was better than silence. She had not even seen her brother for 20 yrs. I do know her daughters all four adore her, so I keep telling myself, that I am proud of that ...and I am, but wonder since their older now...do they think their mother turned out that way naturally or was brought up by the same motherly love their mother shows them? .. I am seriously thinking about contacting two of them on their missions, since I found out their addresses (I have even paid to keep track of them by a private detective) but if I do contact them now that they are both living away from home..but fearful I will upset them...which I never want to hurt my granddaughters. My best to you!

Karen Lee - posted on 01/17/2014

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Yes, right below I have written my problem also. My son and his wife are not
living together. She actually walked out on my son and 4 granddaughters. The
first conversation with her was scary as she told me exactly what to expect. She
told me she would own my son, don't expect to see him as she would do all she
could to keep him away from me. I asked her why she was telling me all this anm
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she said because I want you to know I mean all I say. I told her she needs to tell
my son and she said he will find out. This was my first time meeting her. I did tell
my son and he just played it down. I knew my son was lonesome and felt he was
vulnerable and sure enough all she said showed itself. She controlled all he did.
I have written the last part of this under Karen below. (continued). I feel we did
need to somehow discipline this woman and even more my son has allowed her
to berate most of our family and even friends. Yes, I am denied my grandkids
for the second time but there was only one then. GOD HELP US.


control hi

Karen Lee - posted on 01/15/2014

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Yes I know just how you feel. My son married a woman who
has abused me for 12 years now. They had 4 daughters, so
beautiful and I love them with all my heart. She was evil, so
many hateful games she played. She totally controlled my son
and would think of ways to hurt me, invite me to dinner and kick
me out of the house to be mean, my oldest Granddaughter came
crying to me begging me to stay. Over one month ago she pushed
me and I fell on my back and then kicked me, my son stood there,
They walked away and I struggled to get up as I have arthritis, Senior
and Disabled service stepped in and now I cant see my granddaughters
Karen

Cecile - posted on 01/14/2014

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this is terrible. I honestly did not know this went on so much. there needs to be some access rules put into place. i do not know where you live but where i live the access bill is stuck before a committee. can you imagine that

Cecile - posted on 01/14/2014

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yes i do. it is a very sad thing when loving grandparents not allowed to love their grandchildren. I have not seen two of mine for over two years. I cant imagine what the grandchildren must think.

Gael - posted on 01/02/2014

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Its been 15 yrs since I have seen my 4 granddaughters...I have no legal rights in my state. No grandparents rights...I can do nothing. I am sorry for your situation I feel it myself. Terrible thing to do to any grandparent....after so many years, and she being in a religious cult (in my opinion, rather well know church also) I have no chance..haven't given up...I'd knock on the door and as to talk to her, or invite her to lunch alone, see if she will talk to you. Last time I saw my little grandbaby she was in a grocery cart six inches from me, and I remained cautious not to say anything...just smiled at the baby...as my daughter scurried into the parking lot and disappeared quickly. Try to communicate with her any way you can..mine just tears up my letters and cards. I will never give up, one day those ladies will be adults, actually two are but serving missions in other countries. I can wait..

Hope - posted on 05/24/2013

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I truely believe that things happen for a reason, but when you are going thru it you just feel so helpless, you want to do whats best for the baaby but your scared that if you do they make take them away and you will never find them. Im going thru on with the mother of my grandson who is 10 months old. he has been in my home with us since day one. He has slept in my room for almost the whole time. I love him with alll my heart and I know he loves being with me and now for some reason she has decided to take him out of the house and keep him from me. It breaks my heart to wonder what hes going thru without being here. what can I do.

Missy - posted on 02/05/2013

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We have a 2yr old grandson.. Our sons baby. The mother of our grandbaby uses him as ammunition everytime she gets a chance.... She has told our son on numerous occasions that the baby wasnt his (when she got mad at him; which seemed to be all the time). We only saw him a couple times thru the years. After his first Bday we didnt see him for 9 months. Now he is here every weekend because his mother feels that she wants her friends and her guy friend and partying.. The baby is in her way.. We know nothing about him.. He throws fits like there no tomorrow until he gets comfortable being here.. I feel so bad that hes on this roller coaster and I just dont know what to do to make things easier for him..

Corinne - posted on 10/07/2012

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How are things going now Kim? Have you seen your daughter or grandson recently? It sounds like she has a lot of growing to do and needs to realise that, as the mother of this child, she has to be responsible and not run to you all the time. She needs to see that you are there to support her but not to be pushed around and basically, dumped on when she feels like it. It worries me that you are in ill health and yet your daughter, who you have helped so often, is not there to support you. Is there someone else in the family who could speak to her or is she likely to blow up over this? Is there someone who could help you? You sound like a very caring, devoted lady and it makes me sad to hear that you are being treated this way. I don't really have any advice, you just have to keep telling your daughter that you are not well enough to be doing this right now and she needs to figure it out for herself. Hope things get better soon, x

Ione - posted on 09/08/2012

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Rosemary I am so sorry....I know that the pain is UNBELIEAVBLE! My daughter & granddaughter live with us now, most days we get along. My big secret fear is if something happened to my daughter my ex son-in-law would take My granddaughter, never to be seen again. I am scrapbooking like mad so that my GD will have memories she will never forget! I will pray that the Lord will keep us ALL in his loving arms.

Rosemary - posted on 09/08/2012

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It freaking hurts i know my daughter keeps moving home and telling me that my grandaughter can live with me then after i gget her settled my daughter just picks up and leaves then later comes back for my grandaughter.. its driving me crazy and breaking my heart,My graNDAUGHTER WANTS TO LIVE WITH ME BUT MY DAUGHTER ONLY WANTS HER WHEN SHE IS GETTING SOMETHING OUT OF IT ...Im tempted to just stop helping my daughter but that means she will take my grandaughter away ,,she will leave then show up whenever she wants or needs something .she my daughter is an only child and yes she was kind of spoileed. i love my daughter but she is making me sick as hell ..someone told me to just let go and see what happens ,i did and she ened up comming back after 8 months and grandaughter was left where she was staying and i had to call the police to help her go get my grandaughter and now she ios doing it all over again humm..she knows she has all the power and there is nothing i can do but sit back and get walked all over sdo i can see y grandaughter????god knows when im going to see her again ...im so heart broken and sad and my daughter is a unfilling person who only cares about herself and what she can have ,,,,im i just stupid i dont know and i dont want her to keep pulling my grandaughter back and forth..anyone know how to deal with this kind of stuff

Ione - posted on 09/01/2012

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Oh the pain of this. My situation has taken a turn for the better for me....daughter divorced her husband who was behind alot of this but I have take on a life coach because I'm working full time and babysitting(yeah) 35 hrs a week...Obviously I'm tired trying to do it all. My new plan is to try to get really organized.

Barbara - posted on 09/01/2012

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I would like the url. i am trying to keep a box of cards and a log of thoughts for my Grandchild

Cecilia - posted on 08/12/2012

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I am having to deal with this nonsense like so many others. What is going on with these KIDS? I am so hurt by their actions, but I am hurting more for my grandchildren. There is such an incredible bond & so much love we have for each other. What could be going through their little minds? It is making me ill. I have done sooooo much for them. The second I say no to watching them, or doing for them thats it all they have to say is "Good F'nbye!" you will never see them again. I am so tempted to contact the Dr. Phil show. They are soooo wrong & beginning to think they are insane, God forgive me.

Corinne - posted on 07/11/2012

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Hi! I'm a D.I.L and I've been reading lots of M.I.L and Grandma threads over the last year, trying to get a handle on my own situation. Someone said that the more mature person has to take the high road for the sake of the kids, age does not equal maturity. My M.I.L questioned the paternity of my children, referred to them as 'whoopsies', called me dumb and uneducated for not wanting a degree and a whore for being a dancer (ballet). Just over a year ago she visited my home and completely ignored me. My husband phoned her to talk about it and ask her why and she said it was all my fault, I was mean and rude. I wasn't, my husband was there and knew I wasn't and told his mother so. She didn't like this and after a couple of months of stirring, told my husband she wanted nothing more to do with us. Now, she makes out that we keep the kids from her as punishment for some imagined slight and I'm frankly sick of it.
I agree with Lidia, if you are mean and nasty with the parents, they won't trust you with their children. Take a step back and remember how it was for you when your little ones came along. If your adult child has to stay with you for a while when they are pregnant or when they are in difficulties, don't expect them to stay forever. They are adults and want their own home with their own little family. They're not trying to push you out, they're trying to get back on their feet and have a good life. How is that meaness towards you? It isn't about you, it's about what is best for the child and that means a healthy, happy home with supportive and trustworthy adults; and Grannies to spoil them rotten occasionally. :)

Lidia - posted on 07/07/2012

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hey grannies, i think you need to know that if you had a bad relationship with your daughters in-law or son's you are almost doomed to suffer. You can't be mean and nasty to your future son/daughter and then expect her to give you her most precious! Grow up old ladies. I bet the reason you are being side lined is b/c you did something in the past!
Besides many of you below sound too desperate - get a life of your own and people will be once more drawn to you! No, just b/c you are related to blood it doesn't give you immediate rights!
It is like dating game if you sound desperate it is unlikely that you will fine a right man or that your children will want you around. As soon as you become cool you will find that people will naturally want to be surrounded by you.

Debbie - posted on 05/24/2012

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My son has a new daughter 12 weeks old, his first child. He told me before she was born that I would never have a relationship with her as long as I smoked. He lives in Fl and we live in Va. We had a chance to meet her when she was born but was told no. He is now visiting her parents that are 2 miles away. He has been to visit me 2 times now but hasn't brought the baby yet. It dosen"t matter to them if I shower and have clean clothes on the answer is still no. They are moving to Hawaii in a week. I have grieved over this for so long that I have come to terms now. I was caretaker for my other two grandchildren for 2 1/2 years and just recently my daughter has the chance to be a stay at home mommy. However, she only lives about a mile from me and I get to see the kids very often thank God.

I'm keeping a journel, taking picture of everything I send to the new baby and will hopefully be able to give it to her when she is older. The hurt never goes away but I've come to terms now. I found that I posted here a while back that I hope this never happens to me but here I am. You never know what your children are going to do in the future.

Alanna - posted on 05/19/2012

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Yes I am going through this right now. My son and his wife lived with us right up to the time our gardnchild was 6 months. She (mom) has been furious with me for something and now will never come over

Kaye - posted on 02/09/2012

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i am in kind of the same boat. in australia grandparents do have rights and i am proceeding with visitation but the DIL refuses mediation. I am allowed to see the baby, as he is my sons child but am denied access or visitation to her other girls 6 and 9. I raised the 6 year old from 1 week to almost 3 and never failed to stay in touch with her mother and always kept her involved with everything i did. when i returned her home i had her for a sleepover 2 nights a week. now, because i disagreed with the mother over drug use and the lies that revolve around it i have been denied access. this little girl whom i love dearly had to be dragged screaming away from me and noone is telling her why. for me that itself is a form of child abuse. I am happy to never discuss my issues with or around the children. i never have or ever will, they (the children) dont understand past loving their parents and grandparents.....this is a pain i can never forgive, i pray to god to give me the strength to if nothing else carry on a normal life. i have 23 grandchildren and they are all as precious as little diamonds in our lives........

Sylvia - posted on 02/08/2012

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She will come around. My daughter makes treats to me all the time but didn,t act on them yet. But it still hurts.

Crystal - posted on 02/02/2012

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I hadn't seen my 3 grandsons for 10years, since they were babies, my son's split up with their partners and pple move on, im not one to be were im not wanted, so for 10years i didn't see them, just got on with my life,then last year (2011) within months of each other i got an email from one of my grandsons mum asking me if i would like to see the boys as the boys would love to see me, then a few months later after persuading some friends to have a word on my behalf the other grandsons mum got contact. So all i can say is have faith we all are now becoming friends and very close.

Darlene - posted on 04/04/2011

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Yes! my grandson is 10 years old and lived with me for 9 years.He has ADHD and autism and I helped him through all that and his dad got married in Oct. and took him with him.His new wife doesn't know the first thing about taking care of him and doesn't take interest in him. He loves me as a mom and won't call her mom. My time is limited because they say when he spends to much time with me he doesn't behave. I get to see him once a week unless they have plans.I'm MISERABLE worring about him and feel betrayed by my son,

Terri - posted on 11/19/2010

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Someone needs to take the high road for the child. Sometimes it needs to be the person who is the most mature.....

Terri - posted on 11/19/2010

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I hope this never happens to me. It's so wrong on all levels. The grandchild suffers the most. I hope things work out for the best.

Mammaw - posted on 07/12/2010

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You have keep your chin up and your faith in a higher power! My Mother, who has been gone 4 years, always told me to give it to God, because you aren't big enough!

Ladine - posted on 07/11/2010

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Rachelle that must hurt very much!. Im blessed to have other grchildren I get to see.., Ive heard now- (with the grson I dont get to see) they maybe allowing the boy who is 6 to make up his mind of who he wants to see; as he hasnt seen his dad or me (grandma) for over a year now- so if thats the case I think thats "fair" It should be up to the kids to have a say"!. In your sitch for you of not bein able to see any of the grchildren I sure would be seeking answers sounds like you have- and no one is saying..thats just not right.."I would be demanding answers"...or saying next step is the courts...

Barbie - posted on 07/11/2010

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Well, yes, but my situation is different in that my son is their daddy, but their mama took them, ran off with them, & wont let either of us see them. We dont even know where she is, for sure. I havent seen them this whole year. Last time I saw them was Christmas. How can any mother rip her 4 children from everything & everyone they know, & just start a new life in another town? Two of them are in elementary school. The other 2 are still babies, too young for school. I was very close to the 6 yr old, & he used to beg to come home with me. Everytime I went to visit, I could count on him coming back home with me. He used to call me, & once left the cutest message on my answering machine. He said, (in a stern voice), "Gwandma call me, I cewious" (serious). My heart has this huge gaping hole in it where they belong. It should be a crime. Its not fair to the children, either. These young parents these days just act like their children are not affected by all this. What must it being to them? I shudder at the very thought....
My heart goes out to you & I hope your daughter will realize the importance of Grandparents always being there, in their childrens lives. May God bring us both comfort.

Ladine - posted on 06/10/2010

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O ok they are beautiful, and look like sweet fun girls! My youngest is the same age as your oldest daughter the one with the 6yr old son and 3yr old girl. My daughter has a lil one who will be jus be havin his 1st birthday on this month the 14th! hes so sweet too black curly locks and on the GO! and my other son has 2 lil boys thier sweethearts as well!. Grchildren sure enlighten the heart! "I could go on & on about them.."wish I could pull out all the pics too lol.,but yes they keep us goin! YOur mother was a wise woman "I love her saying..you must have had a great up-bringing!

Mammaw - posted on 06/09/2010

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the pic I have up now are my two daughters,27 & 24! Both good girls with their issues as well! But the other pic is me & my grandson,15 months.He's a live wire! Yeah, in the end,all we are supposed to do is put it in Gods hands because as my Mother would say, "you aren't big enough!" That's puttin it pretty simple but true!

Ladine - posted on 06/09/2010

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I know hey?! lol I hope I didnt cause a stink with the ex daughter in law but I thought I would give it one more try she will more then likely ignore it though or give me the same song & dance which -then I will ignore as when I have intervened it jus went in circles!.Yes put it all in gods hands "I do beleive" Is that your grdaughter in the picture with you? how old is she now? "thank you for your heart warming replies and god bless you & yours as well..

Mammaw - posted on 06/09/2010

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Yes, I think we'll just wait it out instead of causing a stink.Also, we'll do alot of praying for all Grandparents in our position. I know my granddaughter is way under weight & her Mommy is heavy. That concerns us that she's not fed the way she should be.Well, let's swap prayers & keep in touch.Thank you & God Bless!

Ladine - posted on 06/09/2010

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YES I hear ya and "completely agree"..,Im sure your son would want you to see your grdaughter and the mom (daughter in law) is probaly puttin her foot down..,I too think well when my grson gets older he too will decide for himself and chose who he will want to see. I dont want to dwell on it either . Its funny though just after I read your first reply I got thinking and sent the ex daughter in law a e-mail asking if its possible to see him in the summer as schools out..and were getting a pool set up and would love to see him enjoy it with his 1/2 sister., so see if I get a reply...hes 6 so wont have too much longer to wait until he starts voicing his opinions.."his sister is missin him too! shes only 3! Sad what some adults do to lil ones these days.

Mammaw - posted on 06/09/2010

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I'm quite sure that my daughter-in-law is pulling all the strings here. I'm tired of asking about seeeing her.My son says we can come to their house & see her but, it's hard to go where you know you aren't wanted in the first place. There are gifts for her waiting, and right now, we are all at pretty much of a stand still about the whole thing. I'm wishing that when she gets bigger that she may get to know us on her own. Looking ahead is better than reliving the past.

Ladine - posted on 06/09/2010

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Yeah that hurts more too when its your own son.., I know mine tried using my grdaughter as a pawn by saying a few times I wouldnt be able to see her when he was mad at me! Thank god he hasnt done it yet...but my ex daughter inlaw is having no contact with me and when I offered to see my grson she refused so I dont understand she jus had a baby I even congratulated her as I am open to compensating. I dont get it either why some just have to HOld a grudge!! Not only are they hurting us though they re depriving thier children of having grparents...plus she doesnt even care that his Christmas presants and birthday gift are stting here! "waiting" My son has been goin to court I say wheres the visitation rights the courts are so SLOW.... with results!

Mammaw - posted on 06/09/2010

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I have a son that won't let us see our granddaughter because they say it's because my husband used to smoke in the house.He doesn't now & would never around the children.Why are they doing this to us?

Ladine - posted on 05/12/2010

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HI and yes my sons ex has shut me out of seein my grson as my son and her are with different partners now. But that wsnt the problem she got upset because I let my son the father take his son out for dinner with his daughter the boys 1/2 sister I thought she meant he couldnt stay over night so

I didnt see the harm but anyways its still not solved for visitation he has never done nothing wrong, as has his daughter full time but shes just wanting to be in control...I even offered to come see the boy and she is still up in arms of me letting the boys father see his son!! so its a mess for now...

Teri - posted on 05/06/2010

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i feel for all of you and i am so sorry for that happening to you . not sure what state you are in , but i do know in some states grandparents DO HAVE RIGHTS. if you live in new hampshire you are out of luck . these parents dont understand they are not only hurting you but they are hurting their kids also . in the long run it will come back on them . sorry lost track lol . check out your grandma rights in your state .

Anna - posted on 04/30/2010

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For years I have blamed myself, thinking I must have said something, done something, to not be "allowed" to be involved in my grandchildren's lives. I have learned that I didn't do anything....whatever issues are their issues and someday they will realize that all I ever wanted was to be a grandma to their children. I am going on with my life and when and if they want to include me, I will be there. No more putting my life on hold!

Sandie - posted on 02/14/2010

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We had to go over a year with almost no contact with 2 of our grandkids! This was because we had offended thier mother somehow. We had to "promise to be nicer" and do other things, all of which my husband & I did for the chance to see our grandkids! It was worth it and "mom" quickly forgot why she was mad at us and she started "using" us to pick up the one child from school and taking care of both of them on the weekends and such. A very convient babysitter for her for us it was great and worth almost anything we had to do! Hang it there people like this do exist!

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Sadly, the Supreme Court ruling in Troxel v. Granville has gravely impacted Grandparents Visitation Rights. See: http://grandparents.about.com/od/grandpa...
In the 2000 case of Troxel v. Granville, grandparents sought to overturn the decision of their grandchildren's mother to limit their visitation rights. The U. S. Supreme Court decided in favor of the mother, sparking an ongoing revision of state statutes governing visitation rights.

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For those grandparents that cant see their grandchild, did you know that most states now have grandparents rights and you can get grandparent visitation?? It is worth checking into!!

Connie - posted on 01/21/2010

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Try to stay in touch and keep talking untill she gets over being mad. When my son got mad at me he blocked me from his facebook page. This prevents me from his daughters pictures. 6 weeks went by before I saw my granddaughter again. Yes it hurts, a lot of sleepless nights amd a ton of tears. I prayed and pursued him and now we are back to talking and eating out together. She didn;t miss a beat..bear hugs and kisses like no time had passed.

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