I am pregnant with my third child...how do I tell my family who won't be that thrilled? We are HAPPY

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Liz - posted on 01/05/2010

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I am in the same situation. I have a set of almost 19 month old b/g twins, and I am pregnant with my third child. We just told our family last weekned, and the majority of them were not happy. I have come to realize a few things, although they my not approve or be happy about it, there isn't anything they can do, and in time they will come to love and appreciate the new baby. It happened with my first pregnancy, the transformation of them all once the kids were born were a complete turn around.

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Tally - posted on 12/21/2009

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I have so been there. Simply tell them, as if you were announcing your first. With as much enthusiasm and excitement. If they want to respond negatively that's up to them. All children are a blessing from God and should be welcomed into this world with joy.

Dana - posted on 11/15/2009

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You can do what we did in your same situation. We sent out announcements in the mail. We didn't want to hear it from them since we knew no one would be all that thrilled for us. If they wanted to call and say congrats, then fine, and if they weren't happy and said something not supportive then we were not there to hear it! :) I had fun making them!

Fawzia - posted on 10/12/2009

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Hi LeAnna,
" Congratulations" Well let me tell you,it's none of their business and you sure should tick them off....If i was you, i would have more because they fill your life up with happiness and great pleasure....Well good luck to you and your family....

LeAnna E. - posted on 10/07/2009

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We recently told my side of the family and to my surprise, they were ok with it. My mother mentioned how I was completely crazy but that she will never do anything to miss out on another grandchild. We have something planned for my husband's side of the family becuase they will be the harder ones to tell but we have to wait until after monday becuase that is when I will have my 8 week ultrasound so that will make it seem more 'real' to them. I am already starting to show so my oldest who is almost 3 says that he baby is in mommy's tummy. It is so freaken cute. Updates will come soon.

Vanessa - posted on 09/24/2009

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Well this may not be very helpful,but,... No disrespect,... Who gives a crap what anybody else has to say or how they feel about the matter. If you and your husband are taking care of your childern and taking care of your responsiblities then NO ONE has th righ tto take any of your or your husbands joy!!! Dont let anyone make you fell you have to be worried about what they want,.. you keep doing life your way cause from what I have read you and your husband are doing just fine,... take pride in your accomplishments and your growing family and in eachother.... I would suggest that when you do tell your family you make sure that its clear your not asking for their approval but allowing them to take part in your joy and dont allow them to question you....Good Lukck and God Bless!!!

Kylie - posted on 09/23/2009

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Just tell them , it sounds like they love you very much and even if at first the idea for them is not that great trust me the moment that they start getting involved you probably wont be able to stop them..Your family as it is sounds lovely and i'm sure that adding to that can only make things better..I am 28 and i have four kids , my partner is 26 and he works hard and we dont collect any bennifit, i'm also going to take back o my studies again..I can still have all the things i want these things just take a bit longer and thats ok with me..as long as this is the right thing for you ,your family and your happy then it will work out..

Amanda - posted on 09/20/2009

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look It looks like to me you already have a great life started for your family. I see You are doing better thatn most families to provide for your family. As long as the kids are happy adn healthy there is no reason for your family to give you grief. I am 35 i have 2 girls both with a health condition that we will havr to fight their entire lives and they are the most important things in my life and always will be your family will come around when they see you are doing everythin u can for your family. Nobody's life is perfect and i am sure their's was or is not either so live your life love you family and do the best u can i mean thats is all u can do. OH one more thing dont forget to be Happy LOL

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LeAnna E. - posted on 09/19/2009

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Thank you! I am 25, married, and we are able to provide for our children with out anyone's help. My husband and I are both working and we are both in school (college). We have a nice house, always have food and take pride in our family. I know they want the best for us which includes degree's and more stable jobs that aren't in retail so saying that this is a totaly stupid decission is hreat breaking. I just know that both sides won't be that thrilled...uless it is a boy becuase there are no grandsons on my dad's side and someone to carry on our last name on the other side. We think we may want to wait until after our first apointment lext month just to be sure everything is going as planned.

Amanda - posted on 09/19/2009

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This may not help at all but If you are Happy then tell them to Kiss your grits!! There is nothing better than you being happy with youself and satisified with your decisions. It is your life not theirs. Tell them its your life and if they love you they will accept for for who you are not the decisions you make (as long as as they are heartfelt decisions). Hope this helps

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