Expecting 2nd Child 15 months apart

Amy - posted on 08/01/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hello! I'm new here! Well my husband and I decided that we wanted our children close in age, well because my husband is military we only had a 3 month period to conceive. Well to our suprise we got pregnant the very first month! I'm about 5 weeks along and my son is 7 months old, although developementally he's only a 5 month old because he was born 2 months premature. So it will really be like have my kids 13 months apart! Right after we found out I'm pregnant we were told my husband would be deployed pretty much until I deliver and then only home for a few weeks.Now I've been thinking about it, how in the world do you carry around a big baby who can't walk yet when your farther in the pregnancy? How do you get both in and out of the car if the oldest isn't walking? I'm very nervous about doing this alone for a while, my husband will be home for good by the end of the next summer, and we knew he would be gone sometimes, but not to this extent (it's usually small increments that are spaced out). Any tips? We're moving to a huge bottom floor apartment which should really help...any advice would be great!

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Megan - posted on 03/02/2010

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Here is the number 1 thing you have got to learn how to do. SCHEDULE, SCHEDULE, SCHEDULE. Make a schedule and stick to it. I would feed my 15 month old at the same time as my newborn. Bath time was the same thing. I would allow my 15 month old to splash around in the tub while I bathed the newborn in an infant tub in the bathroom. Try to stick to your routine. When your older child wants to help you, allow them to. I would allow my older child to bring the already fixed bottle into the living room where I would feed her baby brother, and that simple chore made her feel like she had the most important job on the planet. Sometimes there will be times when it is absolutely impossible for the two kids to get on the same page, but when that time comes hopefully your husband will be home to lend a helping hand. Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 01/18/2010

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double stoller, double stroller, double stroller!!! never plan on grocery shopping to the point you will need your trunk cuz those double stollers take up a lot of room. i have a chrysler town and country and that thing was always in the back:)
me and my fiance have been together for 5 1/2 yrs and we have 1 daughter from my previous relationship who is now 10yrs old, then we had our first daughter together which is now 4 and then our 2nd which is now 2. we thought "how crazy are we??? these 2 are pretty close and now we have 3 girls:) so we decided that we were done having kids. well someone else had a different plan for us! our youngest was born on 5/4/07 and on dad's birthday which is 8/11/07 i gave him a positive pregnancy test! so she is only 3 months old, we are gonna have 2 babies in the same yr. 11 months apart. YIKES!!! Well once again someone had a different plan in mind:) we found out as soon as we could the sex of our 4th and finally it was a boy! i was only 22 weeks and 4 days pregnant with him and started pre term labor!! between 2 hospitals they managed to stop the contractions for a little while but not near long enough. i was rushed into emergancy c section at 23 weeks 1 day. only enough time to get one of the steroid shots to help the premature lungs get stronger!!! but there was nothing stopping it! our little man was born at 23 weeks and 1 day, took 45 minutes to intubate. we almost lost him, not to mention the trama my body went through and what it took to get me to stick around:) he was airlifted to a nicu 2 hours away at a whopping 1lb 8oz and 11 1/2 inches long! so here are my 4 babies and the youngest 2 only being 7 months apart. AND WE THOUGHT 11 MONTHS WAS SCARY! try explaining that to people when they ask if they are twins. so good luck with your little ones. with a full heart of love, no passion for too much sleep:) and a lot of effort, YOU WILL DO JUST FINE! thats what good mommy's are all about

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Pip - posted on 06/16/2010

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My 1st 2 kids are 15 mths apart, it's not too bad, you'll work through all those little things as they arise. The 1st couple of mths are the hardest, once your through that your sweet.

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My 2 are also about 15 months apart. Like you, my oldest was 2 months early, putting him behinde developementally. First of all, make sure that you watch and you have the doctor's watching you because you are at risk of having this next one early. My newest baby was almost 3 months early. Carrying the bigger baby around when you are farther preganant, just happens. I guess that's why god gave us such wonderfully larger hips after having kids. I found it very difficult to juggle both, but you will get your own system. Like one of the other posts mentioned, you get the parking space next to the cart corale. Grocery shopping is tricky. You learn to use the bottom shelf of the grocery cart. I set the car carrier sideways so that it sets up on the front of the shopping cart and I put groceries under the carrier as well. My 23 month old sits in the seat. Unfortunatly I live in a 2 story making things more difficult, especially when it is time to get everyone to bed. I had to learn to stop babying them so much. Instead of spending so much time reading and then rocking my son before putting him to bed, I had to read 1 book then put him in his crib and let him cry it out if he had to because i had another crying baby waiting for me. They adjust suprisingly quik.

Misty - posted on 03/03/2010

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I am feeling your stress and concerns. When is your due date? I have a 9 month old and 10 weeks pregnant. I am so worried about all the challenges. However, I do have a husband that is home by 5 most nights. Good luck and keep me updated!

Emma - posted on 03/03/2010

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Congratulation :) My son turned 12months mid feb and im due to have our second mid april :) So we are expecting a 14month age gap. I am quite nervous about having two young kids both going through similar stages like teething and learning to talk communicate and toilet trained :s
My partner works but im lucky enough his job is flexible to help me with dr app throughout this pregnancy. Im more nervous about leaving my son for the time im in labor and after the birth.
Ive cried a few times thinking about it and i really dont want to leave him.
Ive thought about the whole car issue to im not sure wether i put my son in pram first then newborn or vice versa and same with taking them out.

My suggestion is to be comfortable with the car you are driving and have lots of boot space. Also same with your pram. Be comfortable in the folding up and and unfolding so its quick and easy.
We are selling car and getting a new one to providide extra boot space and space in back seat also with our pram im looking for the easiest to fold up with the second seat attached so im not taking second seat off and taking twice as long.
My son walked at 9months so im dreading chasing after him with a newborn.
Goodluck and im sure you will sort it all out :) We all do after a few weeks of practice :)

Amy - posted on 01/08/2010

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Thanks! One thing I have learned now that I'm in my 3rd trimester is that you can't really plan for a lot of the things that will happen as far as pregnancy while having a baby and two under two, you just have to figure it out on your own! I'm huge and I tot my son around just fine! My next update on here may be after the birth! =D Yay! Only 11 weeks to go

Jessica - posted on 01/06/2010

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Congratulations I hope all gose well for you amy. I have a boy and a girl he is almost 2 and she just turned 9 months. I live on the 3rd floor of an apartment building and even though my boy can walk i still hold him while going down the stairs since he can still fall, but when my husbands at work i have to go out and get stuff so I first get the stroller and put it in the car ( when I need it) and after that i have my son on one arm and the car seat with my daughter on the other and who ever ways less i put the daiper bag on that arm as well. the first few weeks are very hard but you'll start getting a set scedual for the both of them and it will get easier.
well i wish you good luck, keep us posted

Amy - posted on 11/17/2009

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Just wanted to add an update on here. I'm 21 weeks now and expecting a girl, which is exactly what we planned for!! The only main issue I'm having is bending over his crib, my tummy gets in the way, and by the 3rd trimester we'll have to lower his crib so it will be even deeper and harder for me to grab things! We went and already got our double stroller, a phil and ted which is AMAZING because you can add the double seat if you need it and it's a single stroller if you don't! I actually tested it out with my friends two year old at the mall and it worked great. My son is almost cruising the furniture at 1 week shy of 11 months...so I have hope that in 4 months he'll be walking. That's about it as far as an update! Thanks for all the advice as well!

Dena - posted on 09/23/2009

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It's nice to hear that I'm not the only one with the same concerns. I'm due in 7 weeks and my daughter just turned 1 on the 20th of this month.

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Congratulations !!! My daughter is 19 months, and my son, 6 weeks. It wasn't bad picking my daughter up. She was walking at just under a year, so I just really encouraged her to walk most everywhere. Just remember to plop down on the floor and play with your son, so he knows you still want to play with him, and love him just as much as you did before you got pregnant. I LOVE having the kids so close. It is quite tiring, but just remember to be patient. Any questions, PLEASE don't hesitate to send a message on over my way and I will be 100% honest :) Congrats again :-D

Donna - posted on 09/01/2009

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i have 3 girls and my first was 13 months old when i had twins!!!! I found it easier to prepare myself for the worst and as time went on i actually found things were then a lot easier than i expected. Altho my husband was at home he worked 12 hour shifts 6am-6pm so by the time he'd got home and had his dinner and got cleaned up it was virtually time for the kids bedtime. But honestly you will cope because you no you have to!!! Being in a ground floor apartment will be easier for you as i was in a first floor flat which was hard to get up and down the stairs as my eldest daughter wasnt the smallest of babies either lol I'm sure you will cope just fine. What advice i would give is to try and get yourself organised and into a routine now and then the new arrival shouldn't rock the boat to much then when they come along. Keep us posted on how your getting on, and good luck to you and your hubby x

Katie - posted on 08/31/2009

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My two are 14 months apart.My son is almost 22 months and my daughter is 7 months.It was a little difficult at first to take the 2 out by myself but it got easy really quick.I was able to get a system going and that helped out alot.I also learned to park close to the cart corral things at the stores.It was easy for me to grab a cart and just load the kids into that.I also got a double stroller and use that alot.I try to minimize the amount I had to carry the both of them.My son started to walk about 2 weeks after my daughter was born so that helped my out but there were still times they both had to be carried.You will do fine though and things do get easier after a few times.Also Congrats!

Erika - posted on 08/09/2009

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Congratulations Amy, do you know what you are having? I have 2 boys 16 months apart they are 2 and 3 right now. I had all the same worries you are having :) you'll get it al figured out as things come up. I hope your husband doesn't have to be gone too much the first year, that was the hardest time for me. I basically told myseft I was having twins more or less and read as much about how to do things with twins as much as I could. Just try to give your older son as much attention as you can in those first few months so he doesn't feel left out, get him to help with whatever he can do and don't forget yourself, a good bubblebath while a neighbor or relative watches the kids is always nice! good luck, keep us posted!

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