Reactions from people?

Nykee - posted on 03/02/2012

I just had my third and everyone looks at me like, with this baby, I've grown a second head or something. No one is happy about your third kid, and I'm not sure why. Three is not that many.



I'd say, "Yup. Three, and we could not be more excited to welcome this one into our family!"



Or, the sarcastic route... "Three. I know, it's going to be impossible. I may as well kill myself now."



No matter what they say, all babies are blessings no matter how many siblings came before them. Chin up, and enjoy your pregnancy - ignore the rest of the world.



And if you think it's bad now, wait until you need a sitter for 3 kids. One kid, everyone volunteers. Two kids, about half that many are willing. Three... tumble weeds. Haha.



You'll be fine. Don't stress... and CONGRATULATIONS!

Danielle - posted on 08/05/2011

I have a 19 month old and an 8 month old. i get the comments "are they twins?" and "are you crazy?" Some people even give me dirty looks because Im 24 with two kids even though Im happily married. My husband and I have even thought about adding a third munchkin to the family pretty soon. I want a BIG family and Im not about to let the dirty glances from people stop me from doing it.

Kate - posted on 08/03/2011

Tell them you are happy and then ignore them. My first two are just under 18 months apart (now 3.5 and 2) and I'm expecting #3 any time now. I'm happy about it. And it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, honestly! That first year with two so close WILL be hard but it is SO worth it later, mine are close and don't remember ever being without the other.

Denikka - posted on 07/30/2011

How bout just telling them that when THEY are paying for your kids, then they can have input on how many, and when you have your kids.
That's what my cousins do. They have 7 kids under 13 years old, and are thinking about one or two more. As long as YOU are the ones taking care of the kids, it's really no one esle's business :P

ASHLEY - posted on 05/24/2011

mine are 17 months apart and both PLANNED so they can kiss my butt! I think its none of their business just ignore them! Plus your oldest is 5 and I assume in school so you will only have the two little ones during the day. My boys are 22 months and 4 months old and it IS difficult having them close but great at the same time. Just like everything there will be pros and cons. I think unless you get your tubes tied (sometimes even then) another baby is going to be a possibility down the road. I would make them feel bad and tell them you thought they would be more supportive after all the baby exists so what are their negative comments supposed to achieve?

Heidi - posted on 03/23/2011

I feel your pain. I have a 9, and 10 year old and a 15 month old. I got a lot of that too.

Say "Yes, and clearly we are a lot better at it than you!" or "No could you explain it to me"

Maleah - posted on 01/16/2011

Mine are almost a year apart.. I had the same reactions.. I simply ignored people.. It is none of their business.. If you are taking care of your kids and they are happy, healthy and have everything they need.. Then have how many you want and don't let people get you down..
It seems that it is some people's goal to make other people feel bad about what they are doing that is completely normal..

Amanda - posted on 01/13/2011

hi, well you will have your hands full! But its awesome! And thats none of any1's business. I have a 6 year old, 14 month old and a 2 mth old, my younger ones are 12 mths apart. Its been really hard and tiring, but if ya hold in there it allworks out, things are starting to smooth out now...im sure there will be more challenges such as atmo, my 2 th old is growing out of basinnete in our room and so he has to share with his sister 14mth old i have no idea how its gonna work with sleeping, taking 1 out when the other is asleepetc. Look 3 is alot but manageable, when the age gap is close its even harder. There are lots of hard things in life but man this hard thing is how children and is so much more worth any hard thing we will ever have to do!!! I copped all the same reactions. I loved there reaction when i responded by getting excited and saying NO i so cant wait!!!! They looked at me wierd but hey be proud of ya self, your gonna be pregnant with a aby already there. You should be proud, dont vare what they say!!! Your having another baby!!!! YAY!!!

Jessie - posted on 01/01/2011

i would be a smart a** and react like omg! NO I DON'T KNOW HOW THIS HAPPENED or go all technical on them with cervical fluid and zygote talk. i had the same problem my younger 2 r 12 months apart anf i have a 6y/o now i get the "my arent your hands full" ppl

Brianna - posted on 12/31/2010

ya i was sooo scared to tell my family about baby #2 my kids are gonna be 21months apart and i wanted it that way. my sister was alway said rude comments about other ppl that had kids that close so i was scared she would say something mean to me and ruin my happy moment but she hasnt said anything to my face.. yet but i can imagine what she says behind my back. i got pregnant with my 1st before i was married but i got married this past july and now i just got pregnant with my second (we were trying) and the other day i was at my mothers house and my dads friend was there and my dad must have told him cuz when i walked in the first thing that guy said to me so i heard now that you've found a new toy u dont know how to put it way! i was soo affended.. i no my dad is really happy so he had nothing to do with what his friend said (also his friend is always a ass)

Bec - posted on 12/02/2010

I get it!
I have a 5 yo a 19mth and a 7 mth (53 weeks between them) and I walk around feeling like people think I have 2 heads or something..... It starting to get to me actually! I am expecting number 4 now. I am not showing which I feel is a good thing, as I can only imagine how the comments are going to ramp up. Is it really anyone elses business?

I also have 3 step children - they live with their mum but when they are here to visit and we go out - you wouldnt beleive the faces we see! I bet people dont stare at a handicapped or disfigured person so blatantly or rudely..... Its my bloody uterus!!

My husband says I am too sensitive about it, but it really pees me off!! I try to put on my 'calm' face when people start commenting, and smile politely when what I really want to say is something like 'yes we have been busy, and yes we still are busy, but at least we're business with OUR business, and not other peoples....' But when you've got so many kids in tow, its difficult to make a smart arsed remark and exit quickly! LOL!

You and I will both have to learn to let it ride....

Maria - posted on 11/22/2010

You're absolutely right, you're the one that’s going to have to take care of your kids. I have been through the same thing, a lot of us have.
I have 7 children, so 3 children seems like nothing to me. I was 20 when I had my first baby. We only planned on having 3 or 4 kids, but due to birth control complications my last 2 children were unexpected, so we ended up with 7. I have gotten many negative responses from even the closest of friends and family.
Just like you, most of my children are close in age. I have a 16 and 14 year old, twin girls who will be 8 soon, a 4 and a half year old son, a 3 year old daughter that was born 2.5 months premature, and a 18 month old baby boy.
Yes, life is very hectic at times, but at the same time it is very fun and rewarding. I love my kids with everything I have, and I don’t let the comments from other people bring me down. My kids are getting the same life they would if they were all 4+ years apart, and if I only had 2 or 3 children.
Don`t let the comments get to you either. It’s not worth the stress and the worry.
Congrats on the baby and I wish you and your family the best.

Sarah - posted on 11/20/2010

My two were 14months apart and are so close so dont worry about what people think or say its up to you how many children you have and tell them to mind their own buisness

Aicha - posted on 10/06/2010

When people ask me why I am having number 4 I say it was God's will and when they asked if I am going to have more I say yes God willing and that shuts them right up

Serena - posted on 08/04/2010

My favorite when I was pregnant was "wow you guys have been busy"...it never gets old (in a sarcastic tone) Now that I have three children my younger two are 9 months apart, I do get a lot of sympathy and people eager to open doors or get something off a shelf for me :)

Shannon - posted on 06/08/2010

Same thing happen when we were expecting #3...now that we have 2 girls and 1 boy...people assume we are done. If we had another, I think people would be judgmental.



When someone says, your hands are full....I say..."better full than empty, right"...they always smile and say "yes!"

Peta - posted on 05/30/2010

oh an mine are only 14 months apart to

Peta - posted on 05/30/2010

i know exactly how you feel even the doctors nurses midwifes say stuff to you an yeah just know there is always someone else out there in the exact same position if not in a more difficult situation then you an they have no problems doing it so there is no reason why you cant i was worried to start but seeing how many people have them close together im not even worried now would prefer them close

Shannon - posted on 05/15/2010

I just say "well I'd rather have my hands full than empty" nobody really has anything to say back.

Robin - posted on 05/14/2010

i agree with everyone and i am going through the whole " you just had a baby " thing right now .. My son is 10 months and i am due in january with #2 and people act like i have committed some crime by getting pregnant again .. yes i am only 22 yrs old but i am also happily married and my husband and i are more then excited to be having #2.. people need to learn how to mind their own business.. I just think that its the parents choice to have the child and if its 18 months or 18 years between em who cares as long as the children are taken care of and loved

Josie - posted on 05/14/2010

people are so rude and ignorant! i'm expecting #2 in september, there will be an 18 month age difference between my daughter and our son, and people act like i've done something wrong by having another baby. i just want to say "i'm 26 years old, i waited til i was 25 to get pregnant with my first, i'll have as many kids as i want to have!!" i dont know why people are so rude.

Stephanie - posted on 04/11/2010

i grew up in a house of 5 kids and ppl used to say "Oh the Clark clan" like there was sooo many of us. i dont thin 5 kids are alot. sure maybe 6 or 7 could be alot but 5 worked great. i think having a family of 3 or 4 kids is kinda alittle. tho i don't plan on having anymore then i do now(i have two a boy and girl) i want a little family ha.
my grand mother is the last of 20 children and her cousins wer in a family of 22 kids. kinda crazy sounding huh? i kinda put my mind around that befor i ever say somone's famiyl is to big.. three is not alot.

Jessie - posted on 04/03/2010

we have a 6y/o a 6m/o and i am 3 months along now I haven't got to many comments yet but we haven't told too many ppl, mainly because I was rather upset when I found out I wanted them close together but not have their birthdays right on top of each other. As far as how to deal w/ ppl and their comments I personally am a smart ass and don't know how to keep my mouth shut, sooo I think when it happens I will tell them off LOL

Holly - posted on 03/27/2010

I was reading through the comments and a lot of folks were saying people were like "Already" etc... about new babies coming. I had a friend who was pregnant and a lot of people were reacting this way to her "Already", "Didn't she just have a kid" etc... her older son was SEVEN!!! People are going to comment no matter what we do! Just ignore them! Don't let them get you upset and excited and don't let them freak you out and get you worried. They are ALWAYS going to have comments for you! People in general are nosy and rude!

Holly - posted on 03/27/2010

My husband and I have 8 kids under the age of 13. No one is more than three years apart! Usually when I have half of them with me or part of them someone will say something and I just reply "Oh this isn't all of them" and keep walking while their jaw hits the floor LOL> Hubby jumps THEM on the gun and tells them we don't have cable. I don't like that. It embarrasses me! #1 we DO have cable LOL. #2 It makes it seem like we have nothing better to do with our days then have sex... We wanted everyone close together and I wanted to do it while I was young so that I can fully enjoy my children AND my grandchildren LOL. Not that I want grandchildren for at least oh, ten more years or so LOL. We are discussing #9! :) We want a big family! :)

Sandra - posted on 03/20/2010

well, let me have my say............i had 2 babies, notice the HAD bit!!! it was quiet a few years ago now (24 years ago) no not twins but only 14 1/2 months apart, i loved every minute of it they grew up together it was lovelly watching them play together, i would never say anything about people having babies close together, basically it's thier own choice. i say if you want & can have children go for it there is no greater love than the love of a child, by the way it was my choice to only have two children......they are both female's & i didnt want to risk having another girl. but i say have as many children has you wait it's your body after all....................

Shawn - posted on 03/19/2010

Yeah, i got the same stupid questions. My kids are 14, 7(13 mos later), 6 and 4...and people say the stupidest crap when you have more than 1 or 2 kids as it is, but when you have more than that AND they're close together, they really say stupid sh*t. Wait until they start saying stuff like "well, I hope your done after this!" If you're like me, you'll tell them to go do things to themselves ; ) Otherwise, know that you are doing a great job as a mom and a lot of the remarks come from people being a little jealous/a little envious. Enjoy honey! (By the way, maybe you are done after this baby and maybe you're not! Who's business is it if you decide to have another one even closer together next time? Having babies is not a negative thing...ENJOY!!)

Elizabeth - posted on 03/19/2010

they'll be closer and you'll still be young enough to really enjoy the grand kids too! we have 4 and people are like omg!!!! how do you do it?????!!! You are insane!!! Well thats all well for you but we are happy as can be!!! they are so diffrent and we learn from each one of them!!! the bible says a man is truley blessed with a full quiver (in other words having 10 kids!) well im not going to have 10 but my 4 are just right for us!!!

Tamara - posted on 03/16/2010

i have a 8 1/2 yr old and a 5 and 3 yr old my five and three year old are 16 months apart,i didn't tell anyone in my family till i was about 4months along,i got the same thing i told them that as unexpected as it was i was happy and yes it was my thirdchild but it was my husband first so they needed to be happy for us and if they chose not to support us that was fine they were gonna miss out on a lot,and if they still didn't stop i would say well you know my sister has 5 kids....that usually shut them up...congratulations and i promise it isn't as hard as you think my two youngest are actually very very close....good luck

Nikki - posted on 03/16/2010

When I told people about my second I heard the EXACT same comments.........."You do know how that happens right?" I would just look at them and say yes and I'll keep doing it until I'm ready to stop. Or if it was a male that I knew real well it was oh poor thing are you jealous because you have lackanoki (lack of nooki) at home? Granted I heard these comments everyday for 9 months so it got on my nerves big time. I understand exactly what you're talking about!!

Megan - posted on 03/16/2010

18 months would be a wonderful age gap - mine are 11 months apart and I've had a few raised eyebrows.. mostly in sympathy and I usually just make a joke of it and say before they do "Yep I know now what caused it - I won't be doing THAT again!" :o)

Charlotte - posted on 03/14/2010

I have a 2 year old daughter a13 month old son and 2 month old twin girls. I love seeing peoples faces when they see me with all my babies and then they always say.. How do you do it? Just the other day I was walking through Wal-mart and 3 boys.. about 21ish looking passed by and one looked at me then nudged one of the boys standing next to him and smiled at me and said loud enough for me hear... Hey,, you know what she gets a lot of! OMG, that was so funny to hear bc it just goes to show what people are actually thinking when they see women with a lot of kids. I just smiled back and said... What, are you jealious?? My husband could not believe I actually had a come back and actually said it back!

Cynthia - posted on 03/12/2010

Mine are 6,7 and 8!!
ppl say to me 3?!?!?! Are you crazy???? I just answer - we are very happy, BUSY yes and happy. Leave it at that. Anything else is just not their business! :)

Alexis - posted on 03/12/2010

I hate that. I thought kids were a blessing. I am expecting my fourth and when i annouced it people were like. I cant believe it. What. Do you buy diapers or pay our rent Why cant people just be happy. It really bothered me. Lets just say i cut alot of people off. I dont play those games. Children are blessings.

Ellen - posted on 03/04/2010

We got that when we told people that we we're having our 3rd (they're all almost exactly 16 months apart), like it's a disease or something. What I find even more sad is my brother telling me that even though they wanted 3 or 4 kids that they are probably stopping at 2 because of day care expenses. I am a SAHM so I don't have that expense but they are spending $1900 a month for their 2 kids to be in daycare and won't have anymore because neither of them want to stay at home and daycare for any more wouldn't make it cost effective for them to work. How sad, especially when they wanted a big family.

Kathy - posted on 03/04/2010

I know exactly how you feel. I have four boys they are all eighteen months apart as well. My oldest is 4 1/2, then a 3, 19 month , and almost two month old. When I got pregnant with my first I was 17 had him and 18, then had my others at 20, 21, and then my last one at 23. My family said when I told them that I was expecting my second that I was insane. Then when I got pregnant with my third and then with my fourth they keep asking me if I am getting my tubes tied. My husband and I want a large family and we enjoy our boys being so close together even though it is a lot of work. Reactions from the public forget it. We can't walk down the street without everyone stareing and thinking what ever it is they are thinking. I remember when I was pregnant with my last one I took my younger three to the dr. by myself like I always do and I was like 8 months along and this lady said to me "you think you have enough kids, you know that tax payers shouldn't have to pay for all you young peoples kids that don't know how to keep your pants on." Needless to say I was shocked and even appolled. I couldn't say anything except for "I am not on welfare and never have been." It is bad enough to get negative reactions from the public but it is even worse when it comes from friends and even family. In my opinion it is the parents that have to raise and take care of the children not our parents and other family members. I don't worry about what they say and just keep thinking about the future and expanding my family to a comfortable size for me not them. Good luck..

Kathy - posted on 03/04/2010

I went thru that with my 2-4th pregnancies, even tho we always told everyone we wanted 4 kids in 5 years. Just tell people that you are very happy to be adding to your family and that you planned this. My oldest 2 are just under 13 months apart, then there's 2 years and 1 week between number 2 and 3, and under 27 months between number 3 and 4.

Kate - posted on 03/03/2010

I understand your feelings and reactions. I have 4 boys ages 5-1 year old so I know the looks, comments and all that goes with it. Remember- you are giving them a live and love. It is amazing being a mom.. and a mom that gives them siblings is even better!

Stephany - posted on 02/23/2010

My two boys are 18 months apart. We got a lot of negative comments, too, about how close together they were in age. A lot of people told us there was no need to rush, that we were young and had all the time in the world. Well, before my youngest turned 2 I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and had to have a total hysterectomy. My doctors told me that I probably wouldn't have been able to conceive at any time after the time I conceived my youngest because of what the cancer had done to my ovaries. Everything happens for a reason. Had we not "rushed" into having a second child we never would have been able to. Yes, my kids are close in age, but they also have an unusually close relationship for being 2 1/2 and 4 years old.

Annie - posted on 02/23/2010

my 1st son Cody was only 4months old when i found out i was pregnant again and the comment i got from people were really upsetting usually along the lines off '' oh no, what you gonna do?'' what sort of question is that! i just said im having another baby! whats wrong with a simple congrats! also 'friends' of mine said i should have an abortion coz i wouldnt be able to cope with 2 so close together. my 'friends' dont even have 1 child so how can they say that!? just ignore it.people judge me for being young and having 2 kids tinking that im irresponsible, they wer planned and their both loved tell everyone else to get lost.

Susanne - posted on 02/20/2010

Ive got three kids and baby four on the way. I was told by one member of my family when i got pregnant with my second that id ruined my life and id never be able to cope. It so annoyed me but ive had the last laugh because i did cope with two babies 19 montha apart and i did an excellent job. Now ive got a 11 year old a 9 year old a 3 year old and a new baby due in august, all boys. Now i get the comments because everyone assumes that im crazy to want so many kids. I love kids and maybe im a little bit addicted to being pregnant. Comments that annoy me the most are the trying for a girl are you? Do they think im that dull that id keep on having kids until i get the type i want no i just want a baby i dont care what sex it is lol.

Claudia - posted on 02/19/2010

Try not to let it bother you. Negative reactions are more common than you'd think. My own Grandma lectured me every time I got pregnant. Didn't I understand how overpopulated the earth is? I would tell her not to worry, there were plenty of abortions going on to make up for it. I think most people are really just jealous. And others have to criticize because it makes them feel superior & better about themselves. Ignore them. Children are a gift from God! Celebrate!!

Shannon - posted on 02/18/2010

im 23 (almost 24), and i have one 8 month old daughter, and i just found out im pregnant again, and this baby is due at the end of october/early november, so they'll be about 16 months apart. im scared to tell my parents, because my dad is very judgmental, and he was mad when i was pregnant the first time. im getting married in july, so i'll be almost 6 months when i walk down the aisle, and im scared that my dad wont come to my wedding because of it, and my fiance says dont worry its about us not him, but i still want him there... anyone to help?

Helen - posted on 12/01/2009

huni ive got 4 kids 5yr 3yr 2yr an almost one yr old but so blinkin wat yeah im 23 my fella 31 i couldn care less wat folk think we r all happy its our lives at the end of the day we can lock the door all settle down an sod the outside world wats in this house is our life not there congrats hun dont let any one riun it for u i get looks wen were out but do they ave a perfect life them selfs an if they ave the time to stare an say things just shows how sad there lives really r ive had it an found out alot was down to jealousy !

Ellen - posted on 11/20/2009

My girls are 18 months apart. The one comment that always fried my buns was when I was told "Well, maybe you'll get lucky and have a BOY this time!" My hubby and I were thrilled to have our girls. I think sometimes people don't stop to think before they open their mouths. My girls are now 9-10 and honestly, I still get angry when I think about that comment!

Misty - posted on 11/15/2009

Haha. Well, I had my daughter on 2-8-07. I found out I was pregnant with my son on 5-12-07. According to his date of birth, my hubby and I conceived him on 3-25-07 which was only 3 days after my 6wk checkup. My daughter was 6lbs even, my son 9lbs , 3.8oz so my son 'caught up' to my daughter quickly... I loved the reactions (eh, mostly cuz I know Im crazy haha) people give me nowadays - 'awe! are they twins' nope, 10 months apart, hes just on the bigger side while shes on the smaller side... when I found out I was pregnant with my son... my families reaction was pretty much "ur joking right?" well when i showed them the ultrasound pics of my 6wk old baby while holding my 3 month old daughter... it was priceless.
My favorite reaction was that of my gma. My hubby and I had went to one of those 'anonymous' travel van things to have a test done... well they happened to be out of tests so they tried an ultrasound. I was 6wks 1 day pregnant... then I took those pics, and my hubby went up to my gma and says "hey we got new pics of the baby... u want to see them?" well shes thinking my 3 month old daughter.. when my hubby handed her the ultrasound pics, she about fell out of her chair... at first she thought we were joking and showing her pics of my daughters ultrasound... til she saw the date on them... haha. priceless.
but yes, i agree... it does get annoying to hear 'oh only 10 months, u must have been in a hurry (my son was totally by chance - long story short... they didnt have the BC i wanted at the hospital after having my daughter so i had to wait for it and well, we couldnt wait no more lol) or when i say they arent twins, but 10 months apart they say wow, didnt u learn the first time... like i didnt want my son or something. i admit, he came sooner than expected or planned but i wouldnt change it for the world
my advice is to just tell them that you like that they will be able to grow up together and they will be close and thats just the way you want it. and go ahead and tell them - "they're not the ones that have to take care of an 18mo and a newborn" so to bugger off!

Patricia - posted on 11/15/2009

tell them that it is your decision and you prefer it that way. you would rather get through the baby phase quicker with out having to start all over again...while it is fresh in the brain....my girls are 12 months and 13 days apart and I got alot of comments about it... "have you ever heard of birth control"... or, "you know how that happens, right" or "you need to get a tv in your room"... thats their personal opinion and they dont have to raise them so who cares what they think...i agree tho it is annoying

Kristina - posted on 11/10/2009

Brace yourself... It will probably get worse... The bigger the belly gets the less people filter what come our of their mouths... Mine are 3, 2, 1 and a 2 month old... You can either ignore them... or (my approach) fling comments right back and shock them... I've told other women I wouldn't have had anymore if my first was like theirs... I've asked highly personal questions of complete strangers who think my womb is open for public debate... Family comments are hard, those I still haven't been able to manage... Just remember they are special awsome kids (every kid is) if people can't appriciate that it's to bad for them...

Valarie - posted on 10/10/2009

my daughters first birthday is october 14 and the due date of my new baby is the 21st, i hear a lot of comments like that. There are some ppl who, i believe, mean no harm and then there are those that there's no way to get through to. I haven't found anything that i can say that gets them to back off. i've even tried sarcasm "no, i wasn't sure how it happens, i don't even think i was there" lmao

Melanie - posted on 10/03/2009

Hay i was told once that those people with the coments only react that way because they couldnt cope themselves!! its true. I just had my #3 6weeks ago and its not to bad, ok my other 2 r 4+5yrs old (11mths apart) but its still 3 kids. Just ignore them and congrats :D