Shari - posted on 01/04/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
I am a step mom of three wonderful children ages 15,13 and 11. But from the beginning of my marriage to my husband it has been a very difficult road for me with the Bio-Mom. I have always tried to remain neutral and let my husband make the decisions about the kids. I have even gone as far as to remian quiet in our home when we have the kids as far as discipline goes. But over the course of the last year and a half I have had the bio-mom say things to my husband about me not being the kids mom and how much my husband has changed since he married me. Also about a piece of you know what and shouldnt be as important as your children and the list goes on and on. We have struggled with making sure that no matter what we do we never sway they kids in any direction and always try to make sure when we make decisions that it is always family first. I do believe in my heart that she is very jealous of my relationship with my husband and that my husband doesnt run and do for "her" anymore. The kids I feel are very torn on how to be around me at times and I know it is because of the way their mom makes them feel. What do you do, what is the best way to handle it with the BM and the kids?