i have a question!!!

Francesca - posted on 05/06/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My sk's bio mum is on fb, does that mean she's on here?? and how can i find out??

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Jaime - posted on 05/08/2009

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Heather- don't worry about what is being posted here. We all know the crap we have been sent via pm's and regular posts. Yes everyone is intitaled to there opnions and being women we will never totally agree. You have said your piece to both H & F. Lets move on, it is not worth listening to them!!

TTYS- Huggies girlie

xoxo

Francesca - posted on 05/08/2009

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Quoting Heather:

No Fran I was simply pointing out that you are now going through the same thing that you criticized us for. I'm trying to open your eyes but it's obviously not going to happen but oh well thats your problem not ours. Fran it's easy for you to move on because you aren't the ones being harassed. I wish you the best Fran and but hiedi can screw off. I have seen her true colors and think she's a rat. One of these days you will see it Fran until then you can follow her and back her up and be blind



I haven't actaually gone through it i was simply askin a question, your first comment should of been the last as yes it was helpful, but then you started the tention again, which really wasn't needed. So how are you bein harassed? be a grown up and move on. because i thought every1 had.  your comment" Heidi can screw off" startin again. no need for that. im not stickin up for her because i know she can do that herself, but when people keep sayin that its us causin a fight its clearly not. and some of the things Heidi says i may not agree on just the same as the first time i wrote on a forum, i didnt agree what you wrote. thats life!!! we dont all agree what others write.



well hope you understand that bringin things up all the time, makes you look bad.

Heidi - posted on 05/08/2009

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Why must you always resort to name calling? Are you really that immature? And just so you know you haven't seen my true colours because you don't even know me at all. You can only go by what I have written or what others have written. Let things go and be an adult...oops you are barely an adult so maybe you can't. Move on rather then bringing things up that don't even relate to the conversation that was started.

I am still not sure how you are being harrased...unless other people are now getting your case for all name calling and so on, because its been quite nice not having to hear from you over the past couple of weeks, and then all of sudden you start it all over again. Everyone else is able to let it go so why don't you??? Move on and stop with all the name calling already.

Heather - posted on 05/08/2009

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No Fran I was simply pointing out that you are now going through the same thing that you criticized us for. I'm trying to open your eyes but it's obviously not going to happen but oh well thats your problem not ours. Fran it's easy for you to move on because you aren't the ones being harassed. I wish you the best Fran and but hiedi can screw off. I have seen her true colors and think she's a rat. One of these days you will see it Fran until then you can follow her and back her up and be blind

Francesca - posted on 05/08/2009

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i haven't actually started a fight, first couple of comments were fine but then Heather wrote another 1, she brought it up. and i've said a few times in my post lets forget what happened weeks ago. but heather really cant stop. thought you would forget and move on, because i have

Francesca - posted on 05/08/2009

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it was never meant to and i haven't even started anything, if you look back it was actually heather. i haven't wrote anything to have a go at anyone. why make a big song and dance about it girls. i actually wrote lets forget about what happened weeks ago. but Heather brought it up again.

Debbie - posted on 05/07/2009

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Hi yes I read all the posts Leaha and Heather I will back you two all the way...Yes enough of this stuff between all of us, I just want to add to Fran - I understand your question and the reason for your question, but why did you post on here? We did come to this forum to get away from Heidi and I have noticed that you have been very friendly with her, thats fine, Im just wondering why you didnt post your question on another forum that more people are able to help you than the small group we have here. It's just that that question was bound to bring up a fight.



Happy mothers day on sunday!!!

Francesca - posted on 05/07/2009

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that is was i said!!! lets move on please. fed up with this now.

i wont be leavin the group as i feel i've done nothin wrong. the question i wrote was nothin to do with what happened before.

Jaime - posted on 05/07/2009

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I read it Leaha, and I totally agree!!! Read yours too Heather, and agree with you too.

Let's forget it. Life's too short to keep bickering with those who don't understand.

H & F want to be a part of this group, go for it. It is a free computer world. Can't stop them from posting anywhere.

New topic please, getting tired of hearing the same old stuff over and over again.

Heidi - posted on 05/07/2009

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I read it Leaha, but I had to say that to Heather, because she is mistaken about me sending pm to people. I haven't and I don't appreciate being accused of something I didn't do. Thats all I had to say. Hope you have a great Mothers Day! ;)

Heidi - posted on 05/07/2009

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Heather Heather Heather...How sad is this. You are the one that is lying. Tell me when was the last time I sent ANY of you a pm, or for that matter a nasty one??? I don't respond to anything that you or any of the ladies start. I don't participate in any of your conversations. I was responding to Fran on here, not you or anyone else. So why do you feel the need to get so nasty with Fran for asking a question? You have no right to tell people what to do. We are here to help eachother and to get to know eachother, but you seem to have this wall around you. So if you don't like this forum then maybe you should be the one to leave. I am sure Fran knows more then you think. She can read you know and she has read a lot of whats going. At least I can say I can spell your name right, because you certainly can't seem to spell mine right. I think its pretty sad that a woman closer in age to my 10 year old then she is to me is trying to tell me what to do. I find that quite amusing. And if I am sending you these so called nasty pm then prove it, because I haven't sent you or anyone else in your little group anything in weeks! Have a great day.

Heather - posted on 05/07/2009

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Quoting Francesca:



Quoting Heather:

Yes Francesca it was meant for you. You seem to be worried about your BM finding out what you have written on here. Yet you told us that if we didn't want a response from our BM to not post it. That is extremely two faced and maybe if your BM does find your posts you will understand what we havce all gone through with Hiedi. We will stand up to your BM just the same as we did for Jaime. The only thing is there will be another lady to come in and tell us we are wrong just like you did. But by then maybe you will understand where we are coming from and won't be so judgemental against. We are not these horrible, no-life, wicked people that Heidi makes us out to be. We are here for support and advice. Even after the way you have been rude to us, we will still defend you. Think about it, can we be that bad? I hope that everything goes well for you and even if your BM finds your posts that, one, you were nice and simply expressed your feelings, and two, you didn't lie about things that would make her be upset.






Im not on here to start a fall blown fight again!!! i just asked a question.






Im not scared of bm, and i've never said anything bad about her. just wondered if she was on here and if i could find out!!






anything written whether its text or on here sometimes people can take it wrong!!






Heather i didnt like the way you were rude to me, i had just joined the sight and noticed some bitchin goin on. the first thing i saw was your responses, and found them aggressive. yes it was 2 sided but i noticed yours.






THE PAST IS THE PAST!!!LETS MOVE ON AND HELP EACH OTHER.






I didn't say you were here to start a fight and that was not what I was trying to do either.  I simply wanted to point out that you are now going through what Jaime went through and We will be there to defend you also.  You say that I was aggressive yet you didn't and probably still don't know the whole story.  If you will notice Hiedi posts on almost any forum we post on after we say something.  And she's blowing smoke up your ass when she says she's not sending pm's to us anymore that's a flat out lie!  We weren't bitching at Hiedi.  We just wanted her to leave us alone.  That will never happen and we've realized that now.  Here's a truce: COM friends was created to get away from Hiedi.  You two leave COM Friends and create your own forum and stop posting on things we have posted on.  In return we will not reply to anything you have replied to.  Then we will not have anything to do with either side.  One more thing though, Hiedi has got to stop sending us nasty pm's.  otherwise we will never be able to put this crap behind us.  I have not asked the other girls about this but will do so now.  I'm pretty sure they will be willing to do anything to get rid of Hiedi Girls I know I told you to look at this forum so if you do put in your two cents and let me know if it's ok with you.

Francesca - posted on 05/07/2009

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Her name is becky norris.

im sure she wouldn't write anything, because apparently im a bully and shes scared of me!!!

Francesca - posted on 05/07/2009

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Quoting Heather:

Yes Francesca it was meant for you. You seem to be worried about your BM finding out what you have written on here. Yet you told us that if we didn't want a response from our BM to not post it. That is extremely two faced and maybe if your BM does find your posts you will understand what we havce all gone through with Hiedi. We will stand up to your BM just the same as we did for Jaime. The only thing is there will be another lady to come in and tell us we are wrong just like you did. But by then maybe you will understand where we are coming from and won't be so judgemental against. We are not these horrible, no-life, wicked people that Heidi makes us out to be. We are here for support and advice. Even after the way you have been rude to us, we will still defend you. Think about it, can we be that bad? I hope that everything goes well for you and even if your BM finds your posts that, one, you were nice and simply expressed your feelings, and two, you didn't lie about things that would make her be upset.



Im not on here to start a fall blown fight again!!! i just asked a question.



Im not scared of bm, and i've never said anything bad about her. just wondered if she was on here and if i could find out!!



anything written whether its text or on here sometimes people can take it wrong!!



Heather i didnt like the way you were rude to me, i had just joined the sight and noticed some bitchin goin on. the first thing i saw was your responses, and found them aggressive. yes it was 2 sided but i noticed yours.



THE PAST IS THE PAST!!!LETS MOVE ON AND HELP EACH OTHER.

Heidi - posted on 05/07/2009

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Seriously though Fran, apparently I can't give you any advice, because I get accused of so many things its not even funny anymore. Just because I wanted to chat with you and give you some advice, I am being hounded again for having my opinion. I guess I am not entitled to that according to some people. But I will tell you one thing...being a SM can be very rewarding. I am thankful that I have a great relationship with my SS, but I find it very difficult knowing that his BM is somewhere out there and doesn't even bother with him anymore. I know my SS is an adult, but thats not the point. He just turned 18 in November, got his license almost 2 years ago, graduated high school and she wasn't at any of those events, nor did she call him. Not much I can do other then to be there for him, just like you should be there for your SS.

If your exes wife is on here, so be it. You have done nothing wrong, and there are plenty of people willing to give you advice, some good, and some not so good, but at least you know that you are not the only one. There are several of us going through similar situations, and some are different, but the bottom line is be yourself and be honest(mind you being honest can get you in trouble to) but at least you will know its the truth.

To lighten things up I am sure you are now counting down the hours!!! Have a great weekend!!! :)

Jaime - posted on 05/07/2009

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Yes Fran,

If your BM is on fb than chances are she is on Circle of Mom's as well. If she is interested in everything you post than it is safe to assume she will follow your

every post. You have to be prepared for an all out battle if she reads your posts and

has the need to respond. Remeber you aren't here to talk to her, but with other Mom's that are going through similar situations. Everyone is entitled to there own opinions, and no one will totally agree. My advise to you, if you don't want a cat fight don't downgrade her abilities as a mother, if she starts spouting nasty comments about you, your husband, or the way things are handled in your house when your SK are with you then respond. It is pretty pathetic to see a BM follow a SM around posting repsonses to the same conversations. Good luck, I agree with Heather and Leaha we would defend you if she starts attacking, but until then who cares if she is on here.

I had sent you a message originally saying our situations are similar, but at that time it was a little joke in your eyes, doesn't matter, maybe you will understand if she starts attacking you...... What is her name so we can look out for her??

Leaha - posted on 05/07/2009

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Ladie's, just let it go please. I stopped looking, and reading this forum for a while because I wasn't getting any help. The only thing that was going on was I was being disstracted from my own BM vs SM issues to read into the drama portrayed here with everyone else. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH ALREADY, what's done is done, LET IT GO. Heidi if you exspect everyone to stop bashing you, then you need to stop your self... "Well Heather you really unbelievable." (I assume you meant you are really unbelievable. but you get the point, it's a quote) LET IT GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There are more things to worry about than what one person's opionion of you is. There are several of us that have whitnessed the two-faced posts as well as the anger posts and hurt feelings post. WE GET IT! WE ALL FEEL THE SAME WAYS AT SOME POINTS FROM DEALING WITH OUR OWN BM's. Everyone has the right to post what they wish, whether the BM will read it or it'll piss someone else off, how you choose to react is up to you, NO ONE ELSE. So continue to respond and make people angry and you'll get a responce. And, yes of course, I can't take my own advice because I just responded, LOL

But, venting, I feel a lot better.

God Bless, I pray every day for ALL OF YOU and myself. What we have to go through as BM's and SM's is rediculous. I read in another post "can't we all just get along" funny, if we could get along, we probably wouldn't be SM's! Why can't we all start thinking about the children involved in these drama stories, and stop worrying so much about "she said this" and "you said that" crap. We are all here for support and to vent. NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO HAVE THE SAME OPIONION AND IS GOING TO AGREE WITH EVERYONE. That is why this is a support forum and a venting forum!!!!!! Everyone has and is entitled to their own OPIONION.........

(sorry if there are typing and spelling errors, I was in a hurry)

Heidi - posted on 05/07/2009

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Well Heather you really unbelievable. I wasn't talking to you yet again, but of course you had to bash me. I haven't sent any of you PM, I don't respond to anything you have written, but again and again you have to bring up the past. I was talking to Fran not you so why on earth would you post what you did? So much for being a grown women...

Heather - posted on 05/06/2009

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Yes Francesca it was meant for you. You seem to be worried about your BM finding out what you have written on here. Yet you told us that if we didn't want a response from our BM to not post it. That is extremely two faced and maybe if your BM does find your posts you will understand what we havce all gone through with Hiedi. We will stand up to your BM just the same as we did for Jaime. The only thing is there will be another lady to come in and tell us we are wrong just like you did. But by then maybe you will understand where we are coming from and won't be so judgemental against. We are not these horrible, no-life, wicked people that Heidi makes us out to be. We are here for support and advice. Even after the way you have been rude to us, we will still defend you. Think about it, can we be that bad? I hope that everything goes well for you and even if your BM finds your posts that, one, you were nice and simply expressed your feelings, and two, you didn't lie about things that would make her be upset.

Leaha - posted on 05/06/2009

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Yes Fran it was meant for you to read and understand. Basically, if your BM finds you and starts bashing you, we will defend you the same we have JF. Most BM's tend to stalk their SM, so we are here to help and support. What name are we looking for? We can all keep and eye out as we all belong to different communities...

Heather - posted on 05/06/2009

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Well you should follow your own advice and not post things that you don't want a response on. I mean thats what you told us isn't it? Don't ask for advice about her. Otherwise she has every right to respond and harass you and there is nothing you can say about it, because when we had that problem you told us Little Miss Moser had every right to put her two cents in. (get pissed off Heidi I don't care. You say you're done with us yet you are still posting pm's to some of us) So now the tables are turned and I hope she treats you like Heidi does us. Then you will understand where we are coming from. And I hope that no one stands up for you either. But the thing is, if I see if happen to you, I will stand up for you just like I did for Jaime. Because no matter what, it is ridiculous for a grown women to stalk people on here.

Francesca - posted on 05/06/2009

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she's on circle of mums, not sure if she's on the same groups as me. i only tell the truth on here so if she doesn't like it, she knows where she can go!!!!

sorry pissed off!!

Heidi - posted on 05/06/2009

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Chances are if she is on facebook then eventually she will find her way here, if she hasn't already. Like Heather said have a look through the communities you are in and see if she is in them. Just watch what you write, because it may come back to haunt you. Hope you are having a great day! The weather here is great so far anyway, but we are suppose to be in for rain tomorrow...

Heather - posted on 05/06/2009

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It's possible that she is. The only way to find out is to look at the members. I would just look at the members of the groups you are in and keep checking those. You can search for her name but there is no garauntee (sp) it will pop up and there could be other mom's with the same name on here. Good Luck and God forbid she stalk you and cause problems for you!!

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