Ok I'll be honest I just want support!!!

Heather - posted on 03/13/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Ok so my ss has been sick on and off for the last few weeks. Guess who has had to take off to take him to the dr? That's right me!! So the other day she calls my husbands cell and leaves a message saying "by the way tell Heather she needs to take A to get glasses" Can you believe this??? She can't even take her own son the the dr. I text her the other day to tell her I was taking him to see if he had a hernia. She knows very well that this takes surgery to fix. Did we get a phone call or anything to see what happened? No. I text her yesterday to tell her that I needed her to call me because I needed to pick my son up and she was late getting A. She never called. But yet she got the message telling her to pick him up at my friends house. I had Parent teacher conferences yesterday. I asked the teacher if they had heard from her or if she had made an appointment. Of course not and she didn't even ask how he was doing at all. She is getting worse and worse and I am just absolutely losing my patience. We had to go buy A a toothbrush and toothpaste for her house because he didn't have one there. Mind you when she was with her last Boyfriend (3 months ago) we bought one and she didn't bother to take it to the new ones house. He goes there on the weekends for three days and she can't buy him a $2 toothbrush? Really? But she has the money to get her nails done every two weeks, tan every day, and keep her hair done. She never buys him clothes just takes ours. She bought him some for Christmas this year and didn't even know what size to get. She bought them to small and never took them back to get the right size. I am trying so hard to get my husband to go for full custody but he just says A loves his mom and he would be angry with us. Am I wrong when I say we need to do whats right even if it upsets our kids? I would think he would get it later in life. He's already starting to see. he told me the other day he doesn't think his mom loves him as much as I do. I mean come on. Help please

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Debbie - posted on 03/14/2009

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I agree that you should go for full custody, why does she even bother on the days she does have him! Sounds like she loves herself wayy to much to love him enough to be a good mum to him, so he's luck he has you.

I understand that him in that sort of lifestyle isnt ideal, but is he actually in danger? doesnt sound like he is so it maybe hard to get the full custody, so good luck with it!! Cross fingers for you

Angela - posted on 03/13/2009

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Its understandable that He would feel obligated to stand by his word but that was made under different circumstances. and without full understanding of the consequences. Surely she can do some of the medical things. Even go to the school. Its like she is too busy trying to impress the men in her life. I dont know her so shouldnt really say that but it strikes me as unfair. And going for custody isnt stopping her seeing her child but some restraints can be enforced. I can beleive how slack ppl can be with their own kids.

Heather - posted on 03/13/2009

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We have residential custody but he goes there tuesday and thursday nights and every other weekend. Her mom went through man after man and i really think thats all she know but she also knows how terrible that was for her. It drives me nuts that he won't go for full custody. They made a promise to each other when my ss was born that they would never take him from one another. Now, while I love that my husband is a man of his word, I think that we should be looking in his best interest.

Angela - posted on 03/13/2009

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What is this? Where does he usually live? Cant she see that changing boyfriends and bringing kids into that is damaging? Who is the mum? sounds to me like you're doing the mothering and she is looking for an easy way out. either she steps up to the mark or your husb and you take it further. Kids do work it out eventually. I have issues with my husb not wanting to upset his son and letting his ex get away with shitty stuff too. At least your ss can see you love him. thats so important. It irks me when these women spend heaps on themselves for glamour but have no idea how to parent their kids.

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