Piercing Your Infants Ears?

Jaime - posted on 07/14/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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So after a long discussion on boys circumcision we started the topic of...since its not a baby boys choice to do this, what about the subject of parents having their baby girls ears pierced?

I personally will not pierce my baby girls ears. When she is old enough to take care of them herself and if she wants them, then that is her decision. But I don't see the need to pierce a babies ears. You can decor her with hats and flower headbands if you want.

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Merry - posted on 09/08/2011

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Randie I agree circ isn't quite comparable to piercings but my arguments against baby piercings are
1- not your body
2- it hurts for no good reason
3- it could get infected
4- the holes could grow crooked in time
5- she might not like it and the holes are always visible
6- she could damage her lobes by pulling on them
7- it negates the fun of a mom daughter event later on
8- it looks tacky since it's only for cosmetic reasons

Merry - posted on 07/16/2011

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I'd never do it to a toddler either........12 is when I got mine, so maybe around that age I'd let her pierce them, she has to be old enough to properly care for them on her own.

Merry - posted on 07/15/2011

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I would feel like an awful mom if I pierced my girls ears. Honestly the way I see it it's unnecessary and it's purely for looks, there's risks and not a single benefit other then it 'looks nice'
So no way would I risk my baby's good health for selfish cosmetic reasons.
Besides I think it looks bad on babies anyways. Toddlers I think it's cute but the knowledge that the parent subjected their girl to unnecessary pain for such vain reasons makes me not appreciate the cuteness even then.
I'm quite opinionated on this one. Sorry if I come across too harshly.

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Merry - posted on 09/12/2011

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I never got a spray :( that would have been nice! Lol it was every morning I woke up and ouch! Lol but I was 12 soon biggie, just imagining that on a baby......but I guess it can be quite humane, but still, I wouldn't do it to a baby.
Her body her choice I guess :)

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LOL Sounds like your mother would have a hard time looking at my dad. He is tattooed all over and has many piercings. My whole family has at least 3 different piercings and some tattoes (Not tons like my dad!). And just so we are clear- half of them are christians (Just for those that think tattooed/pierced people are some how evil???) And yes you are supposed to turn them often but you aren't supposed to wait until there crusty to do that. You turn them so they don't get crusty as well as use a certain spray (my dad has his own brand name in his shop so I'm not really sure what the spray actually is) the spray keeps it from being crusted like that. And if it is crusty in the morning you just spray it first so it can break up the crust before you turn.

I do agree that it is doing something without the persons permission but I guess it just doesn't seem like that big of a deal since it's just a tiny hole. I'm more upset with my mom about the hair cuts she had on me during picture days (That all of my classmates can look back at anytime cause they are in the yearbook sitting on everyone's shelf!)

Merry - posted on 09/09/2011

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Well I got mine done at 12 years at a claires shop so maybe it wasn't the best place? They were usually crusty around the stud every morning so I was instructed to twist the stud to keep it from 'healing' onto the stud......

My mom had her done as a baby and by 13 she hated it! She took them out and didn't put them backin. She could always see the holes, and she could feel the ball of tissue in there. She really resented that her mom pierced her ears.

And I was able to re pierce her her ears when she was 40 and wanted to look feminine since she lost all her hair with the chemotherapy. So the holes were sort of shut but I got the stud through with some finagling, no strong force, just wiggling it in from front, then back, then again through front. It was sort of fun! Lol



Anyways, if the baby really did sleep through the piercing I'd agree it's a bit tempting. I've told myself it's bad to pierce babies because it goes against what I believe in child's rights, but it does look pretty darn cute :) but then I worry id be judged for piercing my baby for my own benefit. You know? Like I'm trying to make her look better. Oh and my mother in law hates body modification, she has no piercings and honestly hates piercings or tattoos. She for sure would have been upset if her mom had pierced her as a baby.

Idk, I try not to judge. But in general I think it's something that should wait until the child asks for it themselves.

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I was just thinking about how doing it as an infant means I can't make it like a birthday present later. But then I thought well thats okay she can always get her ears pierced twice. It should not hurt when you rotate them unless you aren't taking care of them right. My daddy's a tattoo artist/body piercer and I heard him say that many times in the shop. We were all taught how to clean them and care for them. We never had any issues with any of our piercings in the family.

If you take your earrings out, over a long period of time the hole does disappear. Unless you had them gagged. Ive taken one of mine out and it went away, not visible, and I can't get an earring in it now (My upper ear) And it's just a tiny little hole anyways not like anyone is gunna care. But I wear earrings all the time and when I take them off I can barely even see my holes. And again it only hurts for 1/2 a second. The soreness should only last up to 2 days. And that soreness is really just discomfort, it really shouldn't be sore.

Ive never seen anyones ears with holes that moved...and all my friends were pierced as babies. Even if they did move, there is no specific spot they need to be pierced...My sister and aunts ears are pierced 4 times. So if they moved it wouldn't look odd at all. Ive seen many babies have there ears pierced...my dad recommends having them asleep to do it so that he can get situated without them moving around. And most of them don't even wake up. And those that do either only make a little frown face and look around and the few that do cry are quickly soothed because mommy is already holding them.

Merry - posted on 09/08/2011

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Ohnand my piercings hurt for about three weeks after they got pierced, at night it hurt to sleep on my ears, I had to turn the studs so they didn't close up over the posts and that killed! They were so tender for weeks. And even now they sometimes get infected for no apparent reason and ache so much. I think I'm more sensitive skinned then many but still, never know if your baby is crying because her ears hurt!

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I'm not sure why people keep comparing circumcision with ear piercing. For one you can take the earrings out if you don't want them and it is not the same pain AT ALL. A circumcision the baby goes threw a long period of pain and without being comforted until it's done. With piercing ears the mother HOLDS the baby and the pain only lasts for 1 second. My sister got her ears pierced when she was a baby while she was sleeping and it didn't even wake her up. How in the world is that comparable to circumcision.

Yes it is doing it without there permission I agree ..but I have never met a girl with pierced ears that didn't want her ears pierced. And if they just so happened to be that one that didn't want it done.. you can take them out...no big deal. If you are against having them done because you don't want to make the decision for her, then you shouldn't allow her to make that decision until she is at least 18 because that's when legally they say you are old enough to make informed decisions. (In my opinion that varies WIDELY for each person! Some men I know aging 22 like me are still not smart enough to decide things for themselves! lol)

Anyway I can understand debating this topic but to compare it with circumcision is ridiculous in my opinion.

Toni - posted on 08/18/2011

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I had my ears peirced when I was 3 months old, and while I do like having my ears peirced, I have a feeling it is only because I never got the chance to chose.
If I were to have a baby girl I would wait untill she wanted them, if she wanted them, before getting them done.
All I think about was how much it would have hurt me when I was 3 months old, and how badly I could have damaeged my ear lobes while I was a toddler.
I know what my little boy is like with all his body parts( he has just discovered that he has a penis, and he keeps trying to take it off, lol), imagine if I had accidently got my finger stuck in the loops or something. I could never do that to a girl that young.

Emma - posted on 08/09/2011

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My Daughter is 4 1/2 and has started to ask to get her ears pieced as most of the girls in her class at pre school have pieced ears. I have told her all about what will happen and it will hurt a bit and that you have to look after them properly.
And that if she sill wants it get it done She can for her 5th birthday which is in Nov.

Jessica - posted on 07/24/2011

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I was seven when I got my ears pierced, and even then it was free (messed up haircut that had me in tears), and my mother questioned weather or not I was old enough.

When did this become normal? Shouldn't this be the kids choice? I have boy's, but if they REALLY wanted it later on.... then if they were old enough.... I would consider letting them.... but once again, I don't know the situation that hasn't happened yet.

Someday, I want a little girl. Will I pierce her ears? no. when she is old enough to choose it, then SHE will. end of my thoughts.

Tanya - posted on 07/24/2011

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I think it's incredibly wrong. The idea that we should be able to make a choice like that for our children makes NO sense to me. It's THEIR body, they are not our little dolls for us to play with and "make pretty".


I don't like how babies/toddlers look with pierced ears either. My 2 little nieces are incredibly beautiful, but when I look at them, I can't help but see their earrings. They don't look cute on them, it just looks like their bodies were violated.


I got my ears pierced when I was 13. I don't have a daughter, but if I did, I would have her wait until she was at least 12, depending on her maturity. There is NO reason why a baby/toddler needs to be wearing earrings!

Christina - posted on 07/18/2011

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I pierced my girls ears when they were 8wks old and 9wks old. Never regretted it. Never had a problem. They love it, and they are now 8yrs old and 7yrs old. The love feeling pretty. As toddlers, they would beg me to change their earrings. They wear them when they want to, and take them out if they don't. My 8yr old also has a second piercing now because she wanted it. We got it done for her 8th birthday.

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Well I think it's adorable! The "pain" of getting your ears pierced is not the end of the world, seriously there is nothing wrong with getting your daughters ears pierced. It's something I would rather do to my baby then my whiny little 3 year old. The only reason I didn't get her ears pierced when she was a baby is because I didn't have the money at the time. Now she is 3 and wants her ears pierced!
My mother told me that when I was 5-ish I got my ears pierced and she wishes that she would have just done them when I was a baby because....I wanted my ears pierced really really bad but I thought it would hurt so it took the lady a while to talk me into sitting still so she could pierce my ears. After I finally did it my mom says I didn't even flinch or cry. BUT when it came time for my mom to clean them or change the earring I threw a fit again because I thought it was gunna hurt... my mom ended up changing/cleaning them while I was sleeping everytime! (She said when I would wake up and see that my earrings had been changed I would get really upset and tell her that It hurt and that I felt it while I was sleeping!)

I don't get why there would be any difference in piercing your babies ears then piercing your toddlers ears. It's the same pain, except when they are toddlers they can remember and anticipate the pain, and usually they exaggerate their feelings. If you had reasons to not pierce there ears as a baby then you shouldn't allow them to just decide when they are a toddler...they still have no knowledge of right and wrong, they are still unable to process pros and cons, and they still don't know what they really want.
I'm glad my ears were pierced a long time ago...I hate needles and if my ears weren't pierced as a little girl I would be to scared to do it now. (and my dad is a tattoo artist/body piercer haha how ironic)

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