Holidays and fictional characters, the easter bunny, santa clause, etc.

Sara - posted on 03/23/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Does anyone have an idea of how to handel inlaws and the insane need to over complicate the fictional characters that bring things on holidays. Christmas is always a problem around our house because my MIL wants to see all her grandchildren's faces as they come down christmas morning and see their faces. This in of its self would not be so bad, if she wanted to come and share our chirstmas morning, but my husband has three siblings and all of us have children now and the MIL has insisted on all of us going to the GMIL's house to open presents on christmas morning and eat her terrible cooking. Well Alexis is now old enough to believe in Santa and the easter bunny and I think having santa come to our house and to their grandma's house is too much! I am afraid that santa is doing too much and alexis is going to figure out the santa is not real! That and her cousins are quite a bit older and say little things about santa because their mom sucks as a mom and did not even put up a christmas tree the last two years!

Well, now easter is comming and I scheduled my husband and kids to be at a little cabin for the weekend and my MIL wants to do easter the next weekend! I am totally against this! I mean seriously the easter bunny comes to one house for the kids on easter, not four houses! I just think if she wants to give them easter stuff from the easter bunny, she should give us the stuff to take with us. If she wants to give it to them, she should give it to the from her!

I am so afraid she is over complicating the holidays and is going to ruin santa and the easter bunny for my kids! I was wondering if you all think I am over reacting. My grandparents did not insist on soo much holday interaction when I was a kid. Any ideas how to get her to back off without causing a war?

Thanks for your help,
Sara

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Sara - posted on 03/30/2009

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Thanks that is a great suggestion about easter, we shoudl try with the maps and stuff!  The santa thing however, I have tried to ask her to give stuff in advance, but she is last minute shopper and she just goes behind my back and guilts my husband into going to christmas morning.  I think I am just going to have to put my foot and down force a stay at home christmas morning, or dissapear from the area for chirstmas and rent a cabin or something.  I just wish it did not have to be a fight, but if I want something to change, a figh t it must be!

Tanya - posted on 03/26/2009

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Hi Sara! Could you suggest to your mil to add to your own Easter baskets? If she wants to be involved, could she create a Scavenge hunt instead of the "bunny came to grandma's house"? Kids LOVE clues, maps to follow and it burns their energy too. It would create wonderful memories for both mil and the children. Might be a great family tradition without the worries of exposing the reality of the Easter bunny. For Christmas, I have family add to the sock in advance or they can give a gift without stating it's from Santa. I don't mind the in laws and my family contributing but it can get out of hand. To much of a good thing is truly...to much! :)

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