How to deal with a mother in law who won't listen to what you want or follow rules.

Meagan - posted on 02/02/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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She doesn't listen to anything that I say concerning my daughter and what my husband and I would like to be done when she is watching her. Anytime I tell her to do something or not to do something she does the complete opposite. She even cut hair off my childs head when I specifically told her not to, just because she wants the hair from the first hair cut. My daughter is only two months old and we are already running into so many problems. I don't want her watching my child anymore, but my husband doesn't seem to grasp why.

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Nikki - posted on 01/25/2011

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My daughter is 6 months old and I have the same issue. My MIL doesn't listen to me when I say she's tired and needs a nap, then will comment on how crabby she's being. Well, duh! My daughter is on a really good eating scehdule and if MIL is babysitting, she won't feed her when I tell her to, so it messes up my daughters schedule. My daughter doesn't need a pacifier when she's awake and the first thing she does when she fusses is pop one in her mouth. I'm so sick of repeating myself over and over and she still doesn't listen. I've tried talking to my husband about it and he just listens and doesn't say anything about it. I think it should be him that talks to her because it's HIS mother. if it was my mother, I wouldn't let him go crazy. I would talk to her about it.

Cheyenne - posted on 07/25/2010

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OMG, thank u. my mother in law is the same way. i tell her not to give my son table food and she gives it to him anyways. and she will only give him 2 ounces not 3, like i specifically said.if he eats 2 ounces then he will have to have 2 more and it upsets his tummy. im on the verge of leaving

Michaela - posted on 07/06/2010

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WHAT!? I would have thrown a fit! what gives her the right to have the first lock of hair! This is about you and your husband starting a family NOT her as a grandmother!!

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Kendra - posted on 11/30/2013

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My MIL is the same way where she thinks my son is hers. Now I know I an crazy when it comes to my son as he is my first and we went through a lot of problems as he was premi and born with a congenital infection. My MIL completely disregards my rule and my DH doesn't seem to get it. She calls me cold and mean about me wanting to protect my son from her (she's cut his finger already once) and that I need to give her rights to my son since she feels that she deserves them. I am coming to a harsh reality that I really want to take my son and leave my DH because he won't back me up with it comes to his MIL

Britt - posted on 04/02/2011

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Oh wow sorry to hear. All i have to say is that my inlaws are toxic as well. My dh has cut them out of his life, if they cant except who he married (me) then he doesnt need them . In fact calls them strangers

Britt - posted on 04/02/2011

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Oh wow sorry to hear. All i have to say is that my inlaws are toxic as well. My dh has cut them out of his life, if they cant except who he married (me) then he doesnt need them . In fact calls them strangers

Amy - posted on 04/02/2011

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It sounds like we all share the same MIL. When my son was born we didnt want him held while he was sleeping she did it anyways unless we told her everytime to put him down if he falls a sleep. and now that he is 15mnths she still ignores what we want oh by the way we live with her for now. the other day she put out a plastic tub for his toys that same tub that i told her we dont want to use for his toys we have a specific toy box in mind just cant afford it right now. she leaves her crap/junk/magazines out all the time and anytime i get upset and say something to anyone i hear well its her house. that is such bs because i have to think of that safety of my child and she should to since were all under the same roof. i dont talk to her about it because she will try to make me feel bad and when i talk to my husband he thinks its no big deal nothing need to be said about it. luckily for me she doesnt try to feed him without asking us. she is a horder and keep food in the freezer for months no wait not months years and years no joke (she got mad when my husband threw a bag of almonds away that had a date on them of 1981 yuck). and she doesnt seem to remeber that my son is allergic to milk since she bought him chocolate for easter. MIL are just people that no one can reason with i dont want to hurt her feelings but i also want her to respect us as parents she says she does but her actions say different. I hope things get betterand if they dont then your better off not having her around. good luck

Meagan - posted on 11/04/2010

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Well here's an update. Nothings changed and my husband finally stood up to her so now she wants nothing to do with us and will not see our daughter unless we drop her off there. Well, sorry NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! Ugh! It's a relief, but at the same time saddening that she would do this. My mother has had nothing to do with us since we got engaged and has never met my daughter, all because she does not like my husband.

Jenna - posted on 05/11/2010

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Clearly the person your husband should NOT be mad at is is you. A marriage is a union and it needs to be that way in the face of any obstacle. I think you & your husband need to sit down and tlak about what point you agree or disagree on and become a united front against your mother0in-law. It sounds like she is using your SIL's and the whole "Will" thing as a way to divide you and your husband. You absolutely should want your child to be taken care of your way, properly, when you are not around, but it needs to come from a united front.

Tanya - posted on 02/05/2010

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Clearly this woman has a huge issue with respect and as for cutting your daughter's hair...way to far!!! It's not her right to remove one strand of hair from your child. She is very disrespectful and she needs to understand her role is grandma not mom. It's your right to set the "house rules" within your daughter's upbringing and if she wishes to be a part of it...she will have to learn to respect your choices! Period!

Meagan - posted on 02/03/2010

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Well my husband decided to call his mother and tell her that we needed to talk about some things about the baby. She started going off and said she didn't want anything to do with us and that we are out of the will. Fine with me but the problem is my husband is mad at me now, and so are the sister-in-laws, because of course all of this is my fault and everyone thinks that I'm the only one who has a problem with what the MIL does with our daughter when my husband feels the same way. But I'm the bitch so WTF ever.

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