Ashley - posted on 09/16/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
My MIL is a terrible woman 8 days and no call for my sons 4th birthday. He is old enough to know who called him and who didn't. who sent him a card and who didn't. He asked me today why she wasn't in love with him and I couldn't respond. I wanted to call her and demand a reason why, but I fear I already know the answer. ME. She seems to really hate me. when I had my oldest son she came to visit and barely acknowledged me and never helped out at all. Gave me a lecture about how to "handle" her son (which I was offended by). I took it as she was still unsure about me b/c her son and I barely been together and I was sure she just wasn't sure. Fast forward to my second son and my wedding day (baby was 4 months) it was her first time seeing him ever and the first time she'd seen my oldest in 3 years and she barely spent anytime with them! Our wedding night was the only night she did and that was b/c we asked her to watch the kids while we got some time away (I was still BF my baby and couldn't leave over night) the rest of the week was dedicated to shopping, (BTW she lives across the counrty) so she like never gets to see them but other everything was more important. HOwever that being said she should call! alot! my mom talks to my kids at least once a week. and my mom also talks to my sisters kids in Florida every chance she gets but with time change and such isn't as often.
I am sooo riled up b/c how can someone do that to thier blood. He is really upset and I tried to tell him that it ok and she was busy but he isnt stupid and he told me she hates him b/c she never tells him that she loves her. I feel like he needs to know that it is me she hates and she takes it out on him but I want to be only positive about her b/c he is also extremely prtectove of our family and I dont want him hating her b/c of me. She also missed my youngest sons birthday with no call. But she did remember to call my husband on his and didn't have time to talk to our kids. My husband thankfully is just as livid as I am but it is hard b/c she is his mom. I want to say something but I dont want to make things worse... My husband doesn't even care enough about his mom to do anything but leave it be, and seems to think the kids would be better off. I guess I came from a family of love so it feels wrong that there is this dislike.