Been kinda quiet... How are we all doing?

Holly - posted on 01/31/2010

Thanks Mandie! That's my 2 year old with me :)

Mandie - posted on 01/30/2010

I couldn't agree more and very cute pic BTW ;)

Holly - posted on 01/30/2010

I just figured at 7 years old she was old enough to know some of the truth and to know when her bm is outright lying to her. It is just disgusting and ridiculous for the bm to continue doing that and trying to make us look bad when we've done nothing but try to help her and do what's best for our daughter.

Mandie - posted on 01/29/2010

JESUS! The NERVE of the woman!! You guys are FAR more generous then I would be I'll give you the hot tip! I agree with letting her read the email- this is what I do with the boys now as I realise they dont know who to believe. They know that we have kept documentation of every email, text, court docs as well as taped phone calls and copied social site crap she has written. If they ask, I just say- I'll let you look at what's been said and you can make your own decisions, you dont have to talk to us about it afterwards if you dont want to. Good for you girl! I'm sorry Sasha is so confused but it's of BM's own making, not yrs- I agree you cant lie to the child, one day she would find out and it might affect her trust with you.

Holly - posted on 01/29/2010

Thanks for the concern ladies. It's actually a pretty good thing all in all, but I also am glad you didn't say congrats - it seems a little harsh to me as well. I appreciate the sensitivity!

So, there's nore drama now. Like I said earlier, the bm emailed me to let me know she is too broke to come out and get our daughter for the Februsary visitation, even though we offered her a great deal from a friend for round trip plane tickets for just $100. Here's her email (unedited so you all can see her horrible grammar that I have to decode every time she wants to send something...):

I really hate to say it but I dont think it would be a good idea for sasha to come out to Ga in Febuary. We were waiting for the 26th to go to financing to get reimbursed for our unexpected move to Ft Gordon. Well we ended up going in after waiting for nearly a month after moving to get our reimbersment money and they told us that it should take three more weeks to get the finances transfered into our account. We were expecting to be payed three days after showing up and it has really put us in a financial bund. Espically after spending so much on plane tickets for the hollidays.
I have also enrolled in school again and I am expected to start on the 15th of febuary. I will be droped from any classes that I dont show up to on the first day. As it stands right now I cant afford a two week vacation to california and I cant afford to fly to california, pick her up, fly back and then fly myself back.
Thank you for offering the great deal on plane tickets. It does sound like a verry good deal but as it stands right now Ben and I have about $14 in the bank until the first and were have some backed bills that we will have to pay. I will let you know if our situation changes and we can come up with money for plane tickets but right now its not looking like it would be a good idea for sasha to come out in Feburary. If the money does become avalible before her visit I would like to meybe come out for a weekend during her vacation to pick her up.
Thanks for understanding.

We said fine, whatever. She then calls our daughter last night (after no contact since January 1st) and tells her that the visit will not happen because my hubby and I are selfish people and we won't let our daughter fly alone, so she can't afford this trip because of us! She failed to mention any of her other resons! Just that it is all our fault! So then our daughter asks us about it and I was fed up with it. I told our daughter (very calmly I might add, I was impressed with myself for how calm I was in front of our daughter) that her mother didn't mention a few other issues that were in the way and that we had offered some greatly discounted tickets to her that we would have paid for up front and then she could have paid us back. I also let our daughter read the emails proving that. Now, our daughter is confused and can't figure out what to think. Both my hubby and my MIL think this was the right thing to say, and I would have to agree. I WILL NOT stand that woman lying to our daughter about us this badly and putting the blame on us for something we have no control over.

It's so frustrating, but I guess it's just something else we'll have to deal with for a while more... Thanks for listening - it's hard to talk to my hubby about this stuff since he doesn't want to since it all depresses him and puts him in a bad mood...

Mandie - posted on 01/29/2010

Well said, Hannah, I was trying to think how to say that myself and couldn't come up with something as thoughtful.

Hannah - posted on 01/28/2010

Holly - this is a tough one - I don't want to say congrats the egg wasn't viable, but at the same time I know you were really worried that it would be viable as well. Just know - you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts!

Mandie - posted on 01/27/2010

WOW! Girls! I've been offline for a bit and what a lot has happened to you all! Holly I'll be thinking of you on Monday and I agree with Candice- my period is ridiculously heavy since I had my tubes tied- other than that, no complaints tho. Hubby was willing to do it as he'd had one before (his was reversed so we could have our babies) but I figured it may as well be done while I was having my caesar with Jack- which is what we did. He did end up having the snip again anyway tho b/c at the time ss's told us mummy was maybe having another baby and he was nervous about her stirring up trouble and telling child support it was his- here you have to have and pay for yourself DNA testing to prove that a baby is not yrs if a woman has made a claim but you still have to pay until you CAN prove it and it still has to go thru court so a man can end up paying for years for a child that he knew all along wasn't his. I truly wouldnt put it past her b/c even if the man is proven NOT to be the father, you dont have to give the money back. Anyhoo....
Candice and Hannah- good news for you and KARMA to those oxygen thieves!! May ever more karma busses hit them and squash them flat! Also kudos to both of you for not giving them a big serve! Which they both deserve, but at least yr kids get to see you both for the legends you are and their fathers for the mumzers THEY are!!

Holly - posted on 01/27/2010

Hey ladies! I don't have a lot of time, but I wanted to let you guys know that I went to the doc this morning and the fetus is in fact not viable. The egg was sterile and therefore never really alive. We are aborting it on Monday, so even though it's not viable it will still be a pretty harsh day for us. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers surrounding this!

A bit of good news, I recieved an email this morning from the bm saying she's not going to be picking our daughter up for her Feb visitation, so we get the whole month! :)

Hannah - posted on 01/27/2010

Holly - tell hubby that it won't diminish his performance any more than having two kids diminished yours. :) plus he can have sex sooner!



Meanwhile - My ex crawled out from under a rock last week demanding to see our son. whined that we were holding things up and slipped things into the order. I refrained from asking what he thought was slipped into the order since his lawyer and my lawyer sat down together and wrote the order, it was read verbatum into the court record and then simply typed up? The only reason he wasn't invited to the sit down from the other end of the hallway was he was too busy hanging out with his parents and his new girlfriend which he thought important to bring to court. I also wanted to ask how he thought WE were holding things up? seeing as I had done my registratio and orientation at the supervising agency within the 10 days as required by the court order, and he had not yet even done both (court was in November if you remember) and my lawyer had to send his lawyer a nasty gram on Dec 28th! saying if he didn't return the court order he was going ot file it with, or without, his signature (which is more of a curtosy since Robert and I already agreed to it in court). But I refrained.



Instead I simply said that the supervising agency wouldn't be able to schedule anything until he had completed his orientation. Well I will be damned if he didn't get his ass to the supervising agency that afternoon for orientation.



He also was demanding that he visit this Wed or Thurs, mid day. I told hte supervising agency that just wouldn't work as I work full time. The first avaliable saturday at the agency - Feb. 27th! but he took it! so we will see if he even shows!



The truth of the matter is that I could work around a mid week mid day visit - as I work from home and my employers are SPECTACULAR! (I am an office manager for an engineering firm). BUT - he has been such a jerk, such an %#$^%$&^%$ I am not to go out of my way to make his life easier. I am not purposly making it more difficult. I am maintaining nuetral. As you ladies said - KARMA

Holly - posted on 01/26/2010

Wow Candice, I sure hope that mess for him helps your case as well! Like I always say, Karma's a bitch and everyone will reap what they sow eventually... even if it takes a while for the "fruits" of their labor come to them!



I'm happy things are looking up (or I guess they would be looking down for him...)! Keep up the good work! Oh, and is K feeling any better? I sure hope so hun!

Candice - posted on 01/26/2010

i got my tubes tied, and my periods are WAY HEAVIER. just a tip...not the same procedure though.



funny news today to share. the ex lost his divorce case and custody of the other 3 kids. the kids chose mom after he forced them to choose. he also got forced to pay the guideline amount of support (which may affect my amount, but i don't care...his kids deserve the money too)...so he is paying 400$ a month more for them than he expected. He told his son he's selling his Wii system that he got for christmas...asshole. karma is a bitch though eh...payback. jerkoff.

Holly - posted on 01/26/2010

That's what I figure too, but he's a little hesitant... he seems to think it will diminish his performance and experience... He is willing to go through it though if they won't do anything to me because of my age though, so at least that's something! I actually don't mind trying to get something done on my end since someone I know who has gone through the procedure has told me that her periods are WAY lighter and easier to deal with, plus there's no pregnancy scares and almost no recovery time (she said she felt no pain durring the procedure, and was only mildly uncomfortable for a few hours afterwards. Then it took 3 weeks for the scar tissue to form fully, so there was no sex allowed durring that time, which is the only aspect of all this that my hubby won't like!).



All in all, my hubby and I will do pretty much whatever we need to do to make sure we don't have more kids. We are happy with our three little girls!

Hannah - posted on 01/25/2010

Holly - have hubby go for the big snip - easier procedure! besides - after bearing children, it is the least he can do. :)

Holly - posted on 01/24/2010

Uggg! I just typed out a long reply to everything you guys have been talking about, and I lost it all!!! Stupid connection that's interrupted by rain storms... Anyway, I'll retype it (in Word this time so I can't loose it from connection issues...) and hope it was as witty and clever as my original post! :P



Ha ha Hannah! You know, there's a strong possibility that Ellie (our youngest) may have been conceived while I was doing laundry... My hubby thinks housework is sexy... :P Anyway... I have my doctor's appointment on Wednesday for an ultrasound and such. Since I have been on the Depo shot since last April, the doc thinks the egg that was released was sterile, so if that is the case then we're going to abort it (since it won't be viable anyway) and then I'm going to try to convince them to do a more permanent birth control procedure. It's where they put coils into the fallopian tubes and then scar tissue builds up around the coils, thus blocking the fallopian tubes and preventing eggs from being able to get unto the uterus. It's not reversible and it's 99.9999% effective (more than the pills, but still not 100%). If the docs won't do the procedure (I'm only 23 years old) then my hubby's going in for “the big snip” and we'll get it all taken care of that way. Sorry if that was TMI for you guys, but I figure if I can talk about it somewhere here's a good place! :)



I am also being referred to a counselor (not clinical, the counselor will decide if I need to go to a clinical therapist after talking with me) for my depression issues. I've been diagnosed border depressed before, but I have never been put on meds. I know I have a high chance of having depression, and I know all this stress in my life is really not helping, so I requested the referral and hopefully I can have someone to talk to or (if I have to) get some meds to help me balance myself out. I hope it doesn't come to the point of needing the meds, but if it does I will do whatever I need to do to make myself “whole” again instead of just staying in these funks I get into every once in a while.



Candice, honey, don't feel bad about crying over lack of sleep! Sleep deprivation is a huge issue and it certainly doesn't help when our kids need up full time on little to no sleep! I know exactly what you are talking about when you say ¾ of the issue is also knowing that the oxygen thief is partying it up and pretending to have no responsibilities. My daughter's bm does the same exact thing and it bugs the hell out of me! I take care of that little girl 90% of the time and she goes out and puts stupid crap like “I'd rather be a good liver than have one” in referring to her abusive drinking habits and doesn't call her child, but just shows up every 3 months for her stupid visitation! Sorry for the small rant, I just wanted to let you know that I know where you are coming from and you deserve to cry over it all every once in a while! It sucks, but remember that YOU have that little girl and YOU are the most important thing in the world to her! :)



Okay, time to copy and paste this into the reply box... and hope the connection lasts until it goes through! :P

Candice - posted on 01/21/2010

i'd be lost without subsidized daycare. not sure what will happen when i start working though. up to $30,000/yr i still get a subsidy...i've never earned that much in my life yet...so until i hit that point i guess i have no worries...unfortunately, i kinda need to earn alot more now since i have a kid and $40,000 in student loans to pay back :(

as for the tears, yeah, sleep deprivation sucks...but it sucks more knowing her dad is out partying and has no worries at all...even when he has her, he lives with his mommy now so she is the one who is up at night if K doesn't sleep. Someday it will sink in that i'm on my own here.

Hannah - posted on 01/21/2010

Candice don't feel bad about crying for lack of sleep- sleep depirvation is a horrible slow form of torture.

I am interviewing preschools - only advantage to this whole mess is I make (or don't make) enough so that I qualify for most of the financial aid they offer. wahoo! bright spot in the world of a poor single mom.

Candice - posted on 01/21/2010

geeze, you guys have it rough these days! now i feel guilty for crying this week over lack of sleep (k's been sick and not sleeping well and i got fed up with having to do this alone...but then...it was just a bad week). i hope things ease up for all of you. we all deserve a break i think.

Hannah - posted on 01/21/2010

Mandie- your sister is in my thoughts! how horrific and terrifying! I had late onset preclampsya and my son came 4 weeks early via emergency C-Section and was in the NICU and wouldn't wish that HELL on my worst enemy!



Holly - oh deary! How rough! That really does explain why you are so out of sorts lately. The only thing I can say is sit down with your MIL and explain to her that you feel guilty for leaning on her so much, and thank her extensivly for being there for you in your time of need. Family (at least mine) knows there are times when we give more than we take, and take more than we give, and that is what family is all about. Acknolwedging when you are taking alot more than normal without much recipracation makes a big difference for those doing the giving.



And yes - go nueter your husband! sheesh you two can't do laundry without getting pregnant can you?



And please - when you go see your doc mention how tired you are, how stressed you are and how you don't want to get up.

Holly - posted on 01/21/2010

Thanks for the shoulders ladies! Hannah - I am a little extra stressed out right now because I am pregnant again (8 weeks right now) and we really can't afford it. I am going to the doctor to look at our options and possibly get something more permanent done in regards to birth control (all our kids were concieved while on birth control and this last one is while I have the Depo shot, so the baby may not even be viable - that's something the doc is looking into...). All in all, it's way more stress than I need right now, and then this other load of crap was dumped on me by Sasha's bm and it's just a little much right now, especially since my hubby refuses to deal with the bm (and I don't blame him with all the crap she's put him through... long story...). It's stressful on me, but it would be even more so if I had to deal with my hubby's stress as well...



Mandie - Don't worry about hijacking the thread! It didn't start out to be all about my issues, it just kinda turned into it! :) I will keep your sister in my thoughts and prayers as well as her little baby! I just can't imagine something like that happening! I hope it all turns out okay for everyone involved!



Once again, thanks for the encouragement ladies. It's been a tough couple of weeks and it's just way more stress than I need. I feel like I'm leaning on my MIL way too much, but there are really no other options for daycare for us right now (my MIL does it for free). I also feel like I'm neglecting my kids and it's really tough for me to get the energy up every day to just get up. So that adds another depressing layer over everything... You know what's funny, I posted this thread before all this crap, and then literally two days later it all started up... ugh... We'll get through it and do what's best for our family in the end, but it's fairly stressful right now!

Candice - posted on 01/21/2010

oh mandie...Pregnancy is not something i want to endure again simply because of the fear of something going wrong. it scared me right till the end. My thoughts and prayers are with your sister and her baby.

Mandie - posted on 01/20/2010

Oh love, you poor thing! Christ on a stick I would be WILD! In Oz it's illegal to let children under a certain age fly alone, so no one here would even consider it! I agree with Miss Hannah and wish we could do something to help. You must be so tired just look after your younger babies without all this mess. As Hannah says- oy vay!

Not to take away from yr troubles Holly and I hope you dont mind me hijacking yr post but can I ask you girls to pray (or whatever spiritual requesting is appropriate for you) for my sister- she's 29 wks pregnant and just found out today that she has a rare complication- the Dr has never seen it in 28 yrs of practicing obstetrics) and her baby may have to be delivered soon. They dont even know how to treat it so she's have a truckload of tests while they figure out what to do. If the bub has to be delivered sooner so be it, but pls help me request that the bub will be ok? Thanks girls. Sorry again to butt in Miss Holly but you girls are such a comfort to me that you were the first ones I thought to ask. xoxoxo

Hope things get better soon Holly, or at least less painful and frustrating for you.

Hannah - posted on 01/20/2010

Holly you sound exceptionally stressed and angry lately. Something else going on?

Holly - posted on 01/20/2010

She knew about the move over a month ago too and just told us, "Oh, we're moving into a house in January." Nothing else, and not the fact that the house was 1000 miles THE OTHER WAY from us! It is just plain ridiculous! Plus, we just found out that she bought our daughter a puppy that will only live at her house (I made that point very clear - and I have a feeling she only bought the puppy because we told our daughter we will not get any pets until the babies are a little older. I DO NOT want to deal with a puppy and two toddlers at the same time!). THEN, the puppy gets out of their backyard through a hole in the fence and gets run over and killed by a car! Who wouldn't check their fence before putting a puppy out there?!?! Ugh... This is almost as bad as the time she crossed the street without looking and got hit by a car herself... AND THEN she tells us the house has a trampoline in the backyard that all the neighborhood kids play on! I'm thinking WTF??? Doesn't she know the huge liabillity risk she is taking by allowing those kids on such a dangerous toy? Oiy... I just wish she would get some common sense...

As for my email I sent to her, I have not yet heard back from her regarding the flying alone (I was very adamant in my email that our daughter WILL NOT be flying by herself). I'm not suprised and I don't expect to hear anything back either until right before the visitation. Every time she hears something she doesn't want to listen to, she just ignores it. I think next time we go to court we are going to request she provide us with flight itinerary info at least a week before the visit as well... this is just bull**** for us to have to deal with her not giving us any info until the day before the visit...

Hannah - posted on 01/20/2010

I can't believe she moved that much further away and didn't say ANYTHING! I mean across town is one thing, "hey BTW we just moved a few miles away, here is the new address..." but another 1000 miles! that is ABSURD! Heck members of my extended family don't make moves like that without months of advance warning to all of us... sheesh!
Stick with your gut on this one - 7 is FAR TO YOUNG to be an unaccompanied minor on such a long trek.

Holly - posted on 01/20/2010

I know! I thought the good mood and attitude was too good to be true... I did send her an email telling her we are not comfortable with it and we have the right to make her come get our daughter (if we have to fly our daughter out there the bm has to pay for the tickets since the agreement says she is to pay ALL travel costs for visitations).

Hannah - posted on 01/20/2010

Holly- oy vay girly!

Does her moving constitute a "change of circumstance"? I have that wording all over my orders, which basically gives cause to re-evaluate the custody order.

I would tell her firmly (and have it be from both you and hubby) that no, you do not think sending a 7 year old as an unaccompanied minor on an airplane is acceptable. She will have to continue to provide an acceptable chaperone.

short, succint, and to the point. if she has a problem with it she can take teh issue to the courts, but you don't have to tell her that, and she won't do it anyway, because they would hit her with child support non payment. what a selfish narcissistic woman.

Holly - posted on 01/19/2010

Sorry I haven't been online a lot ladies. I can only get online at my MIL's house right now, so my time on here is limited...



Hannah - the crap on the stepmom's forum is so stupid. Basically, this bio mom saw her daughter's ex's girlfriend on the stepmom's forum (this woman is now an sm herself as well) and posted this long rant about how girlfriends are not stepmoms and shouldn't claim the title, which sent all the stepmoms on long rants about how depressed and sad the woman was and how inapporpriate her remarks were (her rant was quite ugly). Then, another sm comes on and defends the woman! It was crazy and Mandie handled herself very well! :)



Okay, so I posted this on the stepmoms forum and I wanted your opinions as well...



Our daughter's bm is married to a guy in the Army. He just got back from almost a year in Afghanistan and their marriage is seriously on the rocks (all this is from info straight from the bm). The bm told us her husband was cheating on her and informed her he had no intention of stopping, and yet she's staying with him because he supports her and his health insurance pays for her hypochondria (very severe by the way... she found a mole and told everyone she had skin cancer, even before she got seen by a doc, and scared our daughter so bad she cried herself to sleep thinking her bm had cancer - it turned out to be nothing, but we got no word of apology or anything).



They used to live over 1600 miles away from us, and now they moved even FARTHER! They are now 2600 miles away! AND the bm knew this over a month ago and didn't tell us until yesterday!!! It's so frustrating at how little she tells us. Of course I understand that she only sees her child for 2 weeks every 3 months, but that gives her no excuse to wait over a month to tell us she's moving even farther away from us than she already is! We had to tell our daughter (instead of her telling our daughter herself, as she should have done) and now she's asking ME to go to the courthouse and file her change of address with them for her (which I am NOT doing - it's her responsibility).



Then, to top it all off, she sends me an email with the gall to ask if we are comfortable with sending our daughter over 2600 miles away BY HERSELF on an airplane! It's a 5 hour flight (at least) and our daughter is only 7 years old! Her excuse? It would save her money. My response (in my head, not to her, I restrained myself): You haven't paid child support since July (when it was supposed to start), so you should have plenty of extra money to come out here to pick our daughter up! Ugh...



Anyway, thanks for letting me rant ladies. I am so frustrated with this crap from her and I just want her to go away!!! Grrr....

Hannah - posted on 01/18/2010

okay so not a part of step mom's forum but now I want to go check it out and see what crazy stuff is going on!



I am not worried about Friday - I know where the red flags are, where the slush funds are, and I just want 50% of the slush fund. hehe. :)



And I don't really think he is calling the wrong number, I just think he is posturing and causing problems.

Mandie - posted on 01/18/2010

Hannah,
Thanks for yr advice and yes I do used teetree oil as a preventative in her hair conditioning spray so she's never had it before, despite the boys having it so often; hence I'm so upset. The boys are supposed to use it when they are here too but oldest SS wont cause it's not 'cool'. But I havent tried that particular method before so I'll definitely give it a go- god knows I have to do SOMETHING! Really makes me mad esp b/c if my kids have anything contagious I let her know so that she can decide if she wants to keep them home instead and also to protect her other kids.
Good luck for Friday, I will be PRAYING you get the justice you deserve my friend xoxoxo As for the calls- what a clown! He cant even check the number before getting abusive??
Holly, thanks girl I wanted to just CUT LOOSE but thought it would make me as bad as her ;P

Holly - posted on 01/18/2010

Oh wait, Mandie... I see now.. yeah... crazy stuff, but your reply was great!

Holly - posted on 01/18/2010

there's a crazy woman on stepmoms? i'm gonna have to go check it out! this is the first time i've been online since starting this thread!



It's great to hear from you all! :)

Hannah - posted on 01/18/2010

LICE - yuck! homeopathic treatment - buy teetree oil and put a dab (and just a dab) on the hair at the base of the scalp - once a day. DO NOT PUT DIRECTLY ON SKIN. This stuff is very potent! IT works great as a preventative measure (but also aids in getting rid of the lice too...lice hate the smell of it...)

I -too- had noticed we were all quiet. I was hoping it was because this were humming along quietly for everyone. My ex finally paid the retainer on the foresnic CPA - needed bcause he is self employed to get a true valuation of the bussinesses and his cash flow to establish child support and any spousal support. And I say finally because we agreed verbally to this a year ago, and had it put in the orders back at our last court appearance in NOVEMBER. So this friday I go for a sit down with the CPA (I did the books for all of his businesses... ahhh sweet revenge)

Additionally this morning I get this email from him saying he has called "for the last three nights and you haven't answered. Where is my son" I responded with the fact I have no record of him calling, no missed calls and no voicemails. He may want to double check the phone number he is calling.... hahaha! All I can think as I am replying to his email is "freaking oxygen thief - what a waste of my breathing effort to respond to him..."

And BM has such a better connotation than BF... *sigh* guess I will stick with Mumzer

Mandie - posted on 01/17/2010

Hahahahahaha Candice, that's awesome about the BM abbreviation!!! I love it !!!! I hope you hear from yr lawyer soon- so frustrationg isnt it- the unneccessary waste of time grrr!!! And I'm sorry about her dad too sweetie- sadly she will learn young what he's like but maybe that's a good thing as she wont develop any expectations of him?
Holly- I hope yr holiday is lovely and stress-free- have a ball and let yr hair down girl ;) And I hope you get a reasonably pain-free agreement for 2010.
As for me, the SS's have come to us totally infested with head lice AGAIN (happens every school holidays) b/c BM failed to let me know they had it. I found out from youngest SS when I found the lice; that they have been having treatments (she has them for the 1st half of Xmas hols). They've had 2 treatments here so far with little result and of course my baby girl has them b/c she has been sleeping in the same room as them before I realised they were infested (in the holidays they're all allowed to sleep in the living room to watch the big TV at night.) Also my little man's been recovering from his nasty wound so I've been fairly flat out. But I've miSsed you guys too- you guys keep me sane in an increasing mad, mad world. Hey Holly speaking of mad, how about that mad-woman on Stepmoms???

Candice - posted on 01/16/2010

i noticed the quiet too! missed you guys! nothing thrilling happening here. waiting to hear from my lawyer about the offer to my ex he's supposed to draw up...but since i'm legal aid i think i'm low on his priority list.

K was sick again this week...and when will i learn not to be surprised that her dad doesn't give a damn. ugh. someday i'll learn. the fu*&er took his weekend off on the weekend he DOESN"t have his kids...again. those poor kids (all of them) go see him 4-6 days a month and he works all of them...then takes time off to party with his new girlfriend instead of to spend time with his kids. i know...big shock...like i said..i'll learn someday.



how is everyone else? glad you get a little holiday Holly. would be nice. and i hope your BM (i love that abreviation..it speaks volumes in your case) doesn't put up too much of a fight.