Hannah - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 33 moms have responded )
So my son turns 2 tomorrow and about two weeks ago this fact dawned on his father. His father who hasn't tried to see him in almost 7 months. His father suddenly decided to register at the supervising agency and complete his orientation. Bummer - the first availiable weekend visit was at the END OF FEBRUARY! so his father tried to get the agency to force me to come in on a weekday. I simply explained to the supervising agency that it would be a financial hardship for me to come in on a weeday. They were, rather sympathetic to me, to say the least. I generally do no mix up $$ issues with visitation as a rule - but doing a mid day visit would have required me to take half a day off from work, so there is that lost income, plus the cost of transportationa nd 50% of the cost of the visit. That is pretty much my entire budget for disposable income (aka unexpected doctors visits) for the entire month. So then the mumzer requests the agency to write a letter tothe courts stating my non compliance. I am fine with this - the agency simply will put each of our reasons for not being able to make the visit in the letter, I typed up my reason, signed my release of information form and sent it off right away to the agency. I have NOTHING to hide.
So THEN - the mumzer emails me and gives me two options - 1. I can do supervised visitation down in Fresno (which means our 2 year old son would sit in the car for 3 hours each way for a 2 hours visit) OR 2. we can forgo the supervised visits all together, I mean, it isn't really necesarry is it? (because when teh court orders it, it obviously isn't necessary)
I of course responded with a simple, "neither of those options are acceptable"
He then said he had a letter from the agency stating how I was being uncooperative and threatening to take me back to court.
First off - the agency hasn't even written a letter yet because HE hasn't turned in his release of information form!
Second of all - haul me back to court! I would like to see him explain how I am the uncooperative one! Since I am our childs current sole financial provider! Since HE is the one who hasn't seen his son of his OWN choosing. Go ahead - I would really like to move things along here and have a resolution to this whole custody and divorce issue sooner rather than later. Most of hte reason why it has taken so long is his ineptitude and inability to respond to any reasonable offer, so we wind up having to take him to court for EVERYTHING.
So yeah - take me back to court! I want to see the judge laugh at you!
now I feel better.