How are you dealing?

Vanessa - posted on 12/02/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I lost my son almost 2 years ago, and sometimes it is very hard to connect with others. Does anyone else have this problem?

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Trish - posted on 12/11/2009

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hi Vanessa, I don't think there is any easy way, to explain, what happened. honestly, i don't know how u feel about what your ex-husband. i know i hate the women that killed my child. and at the same time feel terrible for her because she lost her two children as well, and she has to walk this earth with all that guilt Your situtation is different, because he is the father of your children, and you don't want your little girl to have bad feelings towards her dad. I would say to tread litely, and focus on the good memories of your son, tell her all about him, how much he loved her, what a good brother he was, and how he will always be with her.When she starts to ask questions, be as honest and kind as u can about what happened. i hope everything else is going well for u. take care. hope to talk soon trish.

Vanessa - posted on 12/08/2009

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Hi Trish, Thank you for replying. I am so sorry to hear about your little girl. My husband accidentally ran over my son, and even though I understand his pain and grief, he doesn't understand mine. It's actually part of the reason we got divorced. The worst part for me is having to try and explain to his baby sister what happened. She was 2 at the time and is 4 now. I have tried to as honest as possible with her, but it is very hard to explain in a way she can understand. Any suggestions?

Trish - posted on 12/07/2009

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hi vanessa, i am so glad that u started this site. i lost my daughter to on july 30th 2003 she was eleven yrs. old. she had been on a white water rafting trip with her school friend, when on the way home, the mother of her friend fell asleep at the wheel, killing my daughter and her only two daughters. life changed for me the moment i found out. and i can tell u that the grieving never stops, it becomes apart of who u are. i find it very difficult to connect with others because they have no idea, and god forbide they ever have to find out.if u ever feel the need to talk please don't hesitate. take care trish

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